ApexNomad

Getting head makes me very relaxed. You could offer something like that for me free, just to be “nice” right? You don’t need to do it every week/month. How about Thursdays?

The provider in question is literally suggesting clients give money with no expectation in return and calling that “care.” That’s not addressing a power imbalance, it’s financial manipulation. The “false equivalence” argument doesn’t hold. Not clock-watching or being extremely attentive is great service, and yes should be rewarded if the client has the means beyond the terms that the provider has already established, but it’s still within the structure of the arrangement set again by the provider. That’s not the same as asking for extra money outside of it because it’s nice and to be cared for. And the “power imbalance” point isn’t universal. Not every client is loaded or in a position of strength. Some save up just to afford an hour or two, some are physically vulnerable. There are imbalances on both sides. This reads like one side is expected to give more with no return, while the other side’s “care” stays within the deal. That’s the very definition of imbalance.

Well, at that point, I think you knew what you were signing up for. You gave it a solid run and got out. Better late than never.

Look, on the one hand you gave it multiple chances and it still didn’t pan out for you. At some point it just comes down to compatibility, and it didn’t seem like it was there. It sounds like he came the first time you met, but never again? Did he have trouble getting it up with you there? Respectfully, do you think maybe the attraction wasn’t fully there? Did he offer any kind of financial adjustment given how much you were spending and cumming was discussed as a prerequisite? On the other hand, since you saw him a lot, what if you spoke to him more as a friend? Was/is he going through something? Personal stuff? Health? Family? Money? Depression? Drugs? Etc.? Not giving excuses, just seems odd that he performed so well for you the first time, then stopped every time thereafter.

It doesn’t bother me, but once things move toward scheduling, I prefer to exchange numbers so we have a reliable point of contact for any day of situations. Current photos matter more. Many of yours are 12–14 years old, and that’s a bigger issue than not having a phone number.

So by that logic, you’d be open to seeing a client for free sometimes, just because it’s nice and makes them feel cared for?

4-5 post meets at 2-3 hour blocks, plus overnights, is expensive, and yet still not delivering was very generous of you. Shame he couldn’t deliver after such a promising start.

Try doggie chow instead.

I enjoy Rod’s insights very much. P.S. If my husband had to jot down my birthday, we’d be having a very different conversation.

Cumming is important to me as well. Did the provider ever explain why he couldn’t cum after performing so well in the beginning and meeting your expectations? Especially since you booked him for 2-3 hour blocks and even overnights.

I wasn’t aware of their ages too until I read a review.

Your comment about the pool of fresh talent that learn from osmosis is spot on. We are already seeing AI take on the kind of work that used to belong to junior talent. In law firms, for example, tasks that would’ve taken a summer associate a full day (research, first drafts, cite checks) can now be generated in minutes. But we’re also seeing the consequences. Courts have called out law firms for submitting AI-generated filings with inaccurate or, even worse, fabricated case law because the human oversight wasn’t there. Fewer entry-level opportunities means fewer people learning the craft through repetition and exposure, the “osmosis” that used to happen in those early roles. That has long-term implications for the any profession as a whole. I do think it also shifts opportunities and career development in interesting ways. As some white-collar tasks become more automated, I think we’re going to see an increase demand in skilled trades, jobs like plumbing, electrical work, mechanics, where hands-on expertise can’t be replicated as easily. AI is incredibly powerful, but it doesn’t replace judgment. If anything, it makes human oversight more important, not less.

Interesting. I think that comparison assumes a therapist’s goal is to keep you coming back rather than actually help you and move on, which feels ethically off to me (not saying it doesn’t happen though). More importantly, an escort is introducing something no other profession does in these comparisons: sex. That changes the dynamic in a fundamental way, whether we acknowledge it or not.

I want one of these. 😂

I think the actors playing Niall and Ruben look so much older than the 15 and 17 year olds, respectively, they are supposed to be playing. Given the material I completely understand. But they don’t look their age.

I appreciate the honesty about the craft behind the illusion. But reading this, it feels less like genuine curiosity about the client and more like engineering a reaction. I get it though - all part of the job.

Tell us more about your trainer. 😂

Wet dream.

Reviews have been mostly excellent. I watched the first episode and was intrigued; you can tell it’s going to be a heavy, difficult watch. Part of me wonders if it’s better to binge it so you can stay immersed and not sit with that tension week to week. But at the same time, with material this intense, a break between episodes might actually be the better way to process it.

What was the line in the movie that brought all this up?

The White Lotus is a darling of the critics, a powerful IP for HBO, and a Mike White show. It’s one of those rare projects every actor in Hollywood wants to be part of, so I don’t see this affecting the show long-term.

Perhaps, though not entirely clear. According to the trades, the role is being rethought and recast. Read between the lines, one could say she either quit or was fired. Or it was really amicable. Who knows. https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/tv/tv-news/helena-bonham-carter-exits-white-lotus-season-4-1236575513/

I personally think a regular should keep things feeling fresh and intentional, not just routine. But life happens and everyone has off days. If it starts to feel like the baseline or inconsistent as you say, I think it’s fair and even expected to bring it up. I would think a regular provider would want to know how/if he can address your concerns. As for preventing it, I think you can only manage it. Space things out, keep a little novelty, but you can’t really engineer consistency in something that’s built on chemistry. After that, the response, or lack of it, kind of tells you everything.

What exactly was your fantasy?

Weird, I didn’t get a number. Mine just said ✨fabulous✨ and fired confetti at me.