ApexNomad

In a paid, established client-provider relationship, the KEY difference lies in context and intent: sweet talking flatters and entertains without breaching professional boundaries, thereby maintaining the integrity of the dynamic. However, comments implying hypothetical personal interest completely undermine the professionalism expected of the provider and compromise the established boundaries.

I don’t see how this compliment is meant to uplift me; it’s based on hypotheticals, not reality. The idea that I should take his words as validation to approach other hot men—simply because he’s attractive—feels patronizing and overlooks the complexities of my own experiences.

I understand what you’re saying, and I’m sure it was a honest opinion. However, I think it’s incumbent on the provider, as the professional, to keep those “inner voice” comments to themselves. Saying something like that really does nothing for the client—except maybe offer a sense of false hope that the dynamic could change. And in this case, the comment is particularly odd, since we were already intimate. Should I feel flattered that you might have talked to me if we’d met under different circumstances, when, in reality, we’ll never know because this was a professional, paid encounter? The “further” may be in my mind, but ONLY because he brought up a hypothetical scenario that has no bearing on an established client-provider relationship—unless he was actually suggesting that something could be different.

It will be higher. He wants to buy a house, remember? You may get two out of your three prerequisites. He doesn’t mention he’s into kissing (which is why straight providers are a no for me - you can act but not that good), and he doesn’t mention BFE. If that’s important to you, I would ask about that. Focus seems more on him, than the client. Good luck.

I understand what you’re saying; however, I would find it condescending and disingenuous to hear a provider say, “You’re really cute; I would definitely talk to you if you approached me.” Oh, okay, then how about we talk tomorrow night for free? Let’s see what they come back with. My advice is to try not to go into these situations thinking you’re out of someone’s league. In my opinion, it’s a dangerous mindset to get into. Why go there? Maybe YOU are out of his league! But it doesn’t matter!! Treat the encounter as a NEED-BASED transaction, not a relationship. Regarding your other point about a provider who liked you enough to blow up your phone every time they were horny—let’s be clear: he doesn’t like YOU so much as he LIKES YOU PAYING HIM. But it sounds like you understood that.

From his RM page: “The One they all want But only you get. SUNDAY” Huh? I can only get you on a Sunday? 🤔 His overnights are 8-6, so that’s 10 hours - he leaves at 6am. Hope you’re an early riser. He’s straight and wants to be spoiled. From my experience, never a good sign when a top has to say that. Bottoms (good ones) will spoil you, and tops (good ones) will do the same. According to his OF, he charges $50 per month. Translation: expect high rates for his time.

For me, it boils down to: 1. Current Photos: I really appreciate seeing up-to-date photos. If you say you’re hairy, don’t show me old photos of a smooth body. (I don’t mind either way, but transparency is key.) Attention to detail between the ad copy and photos speaks volumes. And photos standing in front of a toilet? Please no. 2. Answer the Category Fields: I find it frustrating when providers use “Ask Me” in category boxes like orientation, position, and safe/BB. Just state your preferences directly! This clarity helps potential clients understand what you offer, prevents assumptions and saves time. 3. Expectations for First-Time Clients: It’s helpful when providers specify what they expect from NEW clients. Whether it’s out-call only, photo a must, or phone chat, clearly stating this upfront saves everyone time and aids decision-making. 4. A Sense of Humor: While not essential, a little humor in the ad copy can go a long way. It adds personality and makes the ad feel more inviting. That said, humor is subjective, so it’s not a dealbreaker. 5. Clear Purpose: I appreciate when providers express a clear sense of purpose in their offerings. For example, saying something like, “I’m a caring top who derives pleasure from seeing you pleased. Mild to wild, I’m thoughtful and sincere in creating a safe space for you,” gives me a better sense of the type of person I’m contacting.

The original Broadway staging was truly breathtaking. The moment the scrim lifted, it received its own round of applause—you were instantly transported into the world of the show. It was simply beautiful. But I also appreciated the modern and contemporary feel of the revival. It worked for me in a different way. Producers likely appreciate it too, since it saves money, and we’ll likely never see anything quite like the original set again on Broadway. And no one can hold a candle to Betty. I had the pleasure of meeting her, and she was the nicest person!

That was very kind of you. 😂 Legally speaking, even in public spaces where there is no expectation of privacy, individuals engaging in intimate activities have not given permission for others to observe them. This means that while someone might technically be allowed to watch in a public area, doing so could still be considered an invasion of privacy or harassment, depending on the circumstances.

Sounds like a walk, not run to see play. I love when the material is able to stand on its own, not because of the actors in them. (It helps, but that’s my preference.)

Thanks, l’ll go find that thread.

I enjoyed Diahann. I didn’t see Karen Mason.

Some red flags for me: he claims to be 23 in his ad copy but lists 25 next to his name. “European sex?” Not entirely sure what that even means in this context. Plus, he has three ‘Ask Me’ responses in his info boxes, which is a pet peeve—just tell me!!

Have you see The Roommate with her and Mia Farrow?

Who was your favorite Norma? Mine was Betty Buckley. She was perfect! Keep us posted if you see Mandy. I’ll be curious to hear your review.

Me: I noticed you list BFE, but not kissing. I’m really into kissing and just wanted to check if that’s something you offer. Thanks! Him: Yes, as long as there’s good oral hygiene. Me: Perfect! I’m free Friday from 7-9pm. Does that work for you? Easy!

In public settings, I’ve found that small gestures—a smile, a brief glance, or even a casual question—can create an atmosphere of openness and signal interest without being overt. Years ago, I was at a Starbucks after a long stretch at the office. I needed a change of scenery, so I grabbed a coffee and settled into a corner seat. As I sipped my coffee, I noticed a handsome guy a couple of tables over. He was dressed like he’d just come from work too, with his sleeves rolled up, looking focused on his laptop. Every so often, he’d glance my way, and we’d catch each other’s eye for a brief moment. At first, I thought it was just my imagination, but the glances kept coming. In that moment, I decided to take a chance and give him a small smile. It was subtle, but just enough. To my surprise, he smiled back, and I could see a hint of intrigue in his expression. As I stood up to throw away my cup near him, he looked over and said, “Office escape?” I replied, “Yeah, but office calls. Take care.” (Like a fucking moron!) Then, with a playful grin, he shot back, “Well, if you ever want to escape again, here’s my number. I make a mean coffee and better company.” He handed me his card. That line caught me off guard, and I just laughed. (Again, like a fucking moron!) I was impressed and completely turned on by his confidence. I took his number, and that simple exchange sparked a two-year relationship.

Cher said it better. Sorry.

Worth asking if you’re interested since he appears to list BFE. Not a guarantee he will, but worth an ask. (Disclaimer: I have no experience with him.)

Is Vegas like that all the time the weekend before Thanksgiving?

I recently got the chance to see the Jamie Lloyd production of Sunset Blvd., and it was well done! Nicole Scherzinger’s portrayal of Norma Desmond is strong, capturing the character’s complexity with both vulnerability and determination. Vocals were beautiful. The minimalist staging effectively focuses on the emotional core of the story, enhancing the overall impact. I thought it was well done and appreciated the fresh take on the material. I’m hoping to see it again with Mandy Gonzalez, who I believe only plays the Tuesday performances, as I’m curious to see her interpretation of this iconic role. Overall, this revival brings a new perspective to Webber’s work and is worth seeing.

What kind of doctor are you? What’s your area of specialization?