ApexNomad

Thanks for the review. I often find it hard to separate such well-known actors from the iconic figures they’re portraying. For instance, when I watched The Iron Lady, I couldn’t help but see Meryl Streep playing or imitating Margaret Thatcher the entire time, rather than losing myself in the character.

Photos are definitely real. I’ve seen him twice—last time was about a year ago. I have no doubt he still looks just as incredible—this man keeps himself in shape! He’s a sight to behold: very masculine, alpha, and all muscle. When he wraps his arms and body around you, you’re done. I thought he was friendly, kind, and we kissed. Beer-can-thick cock and he knows how to use it. Recommend!

If you’re riding, you’re pretty much in control. And when you’re in positions where the top sets the pace and depth—if he’s really attentive and caring—you’ll find yourself taking him balls deep, even a massive cock, because you want him. And for those bottoms who clench or grip his cock when he leaves it buried inside, while locking eyes? Brace yourself! You’re in for an ass-pounding that feels like worship. 😉

I hear what you’re saying about valuing gestures of real support over just words, and I get how that sentiment comes from lived experiences where advice might have felt empty or unhelpful. But I’d like to offer a different perspective on this idea. Sometimes, it’s precisely when we feel like others can’t directly solve our problems—or when their support doesn’t come in tangible forms like paying bills—that we need to lean into the advice being offered. Not all advice is created equal, of course, but dismissing it based on whether someone’s materially invested in your life could mean missing out on insights that might resonate or help. We don’t always get the messages we need in the ways we want to hear them. Sometimes, those who can’t walk in your shoes still see a path you might not have noticed yet. And it’s not about someone thinking they know better—it’s about caring enough to offer a perspective you can consider, reject, or adapt to your reality. Advice doesn’t have to come from someone who pays your bills to be valuable. Often, it’s the people who can’t “do” much for us who end up saying exactly what we need to hear. Consider moving some of your frustrations offline, away from a group that’s mostly made up of clients. I offer my thoughts in that spirit—with respect for your experience and a belief in your ability to keep thriving.

Having spent over 25 years as an equity partner at an Am Law 100 firm, 14 of which I served as head of my practice group, before transitioning into private consultation, I can assure you that I personally handled consultations—free of charge—and never delegated such matters to paralegals. The General Counsel of a Fortune 500 company, when considering a law firm for high-stakes legal matters, is not going to reach out to a paralegal. They need to speak directly with someone who can grasp their business needs, navigate complex legal issues, and offer actionable advice. I was the one clients like the General Counsel would contact - by phone, by e-mail, and in-person. They sought my expertise, not that of a paralegal or first-year or mid-level associate, for that critical first conversation. No, my “dick” isn’t visible, but what is visible is my extensive CV and bio, showcasing my role as head of my practice group, and they reached out to me directly, trusting my expertise. It outlined my credentials: the schools I graduated from, the bars and jurisdictions I’m admitted to practice in, articles I’ve written, conferences I’ve lectured at, my pro bono work—qualities that encouraged clients to contact me personally, ensuring they received the highest level of service. My map? That’s my office locations, where clients can easily find me. As for reviews, I’m proud to be ranked on respected platforms like Martindale-Hubbell, Super Lawyers, Who’s Who Legal, Legal 500, and AVVO. These rankings reflect my reputation in the legal community. I can relate to the time and effort involved in inquiries that don’t lead anywhere. The hours spent crafting a pitch and presentation to secure representation are far from trivial. I’ve spent days, even weeks, preparing tailored presentations and pitching to potential clients, only to find that after all that effort, the client either chooses another firm or, in some cases, has already made their decision before we even had the chance to present. It’s the same level of commitment, research, and time investment. In this line of work, it’s about building long-term relationships, not just securing one-time transactions. And yet, despite all that effort, sometimes we don’t even get the opportunity to pitch before the client has made their decision. It’s frustrating, but it’s part of the process, and that effort often pays off when we land the right client. I respect and appreciate the decisions you’ve made that work best for you. I think it’s important to recognize that what works for one may not necessarily be applicable for all. Being open to feedback and considering a range of perspectives can offer valuable insights that lead to broader success. My advice? Seek trusted counsel from close friends and fellow providers—offline. I wish you much success.

Oops, this was outcall for him!! He came to your apartment. Okay, makes sense. That was very nice. I mostly do outcalls so I thought you took him to a bar or lounge. For first-time providers, I always proceed with caution and like to keeps things professional.

Beer is cheap, but his time isn’t. I’m glad he stayed beyond your one hour appointment.

Speak with your doctor or your a healthcare provider about your specific needs and concerns regarding PrEP. They can provide personalized advice, answer all your questions, and ensure you’re using the medication correctly. While forums can be helpful for shared experiences, they are no substitute for professional medical guidance.

That’s nice to hear you had such a positive experience and connected so well! Thanks for sharing the recommendation. Just a thought: since he initiated the idea of having a drink, it might’ve been considerate for him to offer to cover it, assuming he didn’t, as you mentioned buying his beer. Especially since that was outside the agreed-upon arrangement. Otherwise, it sounds like a really memorable meeting!

What was unusual about the meeting? Was it the pre-deed part - the wanting to have a drink with you first - or the session?

I see your point. That said, gay relationships aren’t without their own unique challenges. LGBTQ+ couples often face societal stigma, discrimination, and even safety risks, particularly when expressing affection in public. These external pressures can create stress that many heterosexual couples might not encounter as frequently. Even within gay culture, stereotypes about roles—such as who’s perceived as more passive or dominant, or who “should” take on certain responsibilities—can perpetuate expectations that limit genuine connection. These assumptions, tied to broader societal notions of masculinity and power, can create tensions within relationships that might otherwise feel more equal. At the end of the day, no relationship exists in a vacuum. Gay or straight, every relationship is shaped by personal dynamics, cultural expectations, and how the individuals involved choose to navigate them. True connection comes from challenging those assumptions and building something authentic together.

I’m the client! I’m not a provider. But to your point, similarly, I view my transactions with providers strictly as a business. Keeps everything professional.

Yes, same. To clarify, I never expect my regulars to accommodate my schedule—ever. It’s quite the opposite. I’ll still ask what works best for them, but they insist on knowing what works for me. My schedule is all over the place. I’ll share my availability for the day I’m looking at, and they just make it happen.

There is a correlation between higher STD rates and the South, particularly in red states below the 40-degree latitude. A combination of factors, including limited access to comprehensive sex education, higher poverty rates, and fewer sexual health resources (testing, etc.) all play a role. Cultural attitudes in some areas may discourage open discussions about sexual health, leading to lower condom usage, failure to get tested, and inadequate use of available medication, all of which contribute to higher STD transmission rates.

It’s the neck tattoo that I could do without. But if he’s happy, I’m happy… and I know he can make me happy. 😂

I think there’s definitely an element of attraction between young bottoms and mature older daddy top. There’s the sense of safety, emotional and financial security, physical protection, and even the appeal of intelligence and experience. It creates a dynamic that can be incredibly fulfilling and comforting for both sides.

Well said! That’s absolutely true when dealing with someone new. For a new provider, I don’t expect my availability to matter—they’re running a business, and I either make their schedule work or I look elsewhere. But with regulars, it’s a different story. My regulars always work around my schedule—they make the time, no matter what. I don’t expect it, but they just do. That kind of consideration is one of the reasons I stay loyal to them. Always.

Trust me, the provider will spot the envelope; I wouldn’t worry. But if it gives you peace of mind, especially with first-time providers, you can set it on a table, stand, or wherever you prefer. Look at him, smile, and step away. He’ll know! The best providers will keep their eyes on you the entire time. They’ll know it’s there and will take it at the end. After that, it’s your time to enjoy.

I always give money in an unsealed envelope, especially with first-time providers. I leave it on a desk where they can see it as soon as they walk in. They’ve never counted it in front of me, and I avoid handing it to them directly (only with first-time providers). They know it’s there and will take it when appropriate. Personally, handing someone the money to inspect and then taking it back until they fulfill their end of the agreement feels awkward and unprofessional. It’s better to establish trust and respect from the beginning by keeping the process smooth and discreet.

True! The Tony’s love Borle and Cerveris.

Notwithstanding all the divided opinions, how does a bottom really pull this off with a provider (assuming the provider is the top)? Practically speaking, how do they keep everything in place without awkward leaks? Is it all about next-level muscle control or strategic clenching? Gravity alone seems like a challenge—walking, sitting, or taking a car ride would make it tricky. Maybe they use a discreet plug or snug clothing, but even then, the timing has to be perfect. Do they lie down after the last encounter or just embrace some messiness?

Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. Your words resonate with me. Many years ago, I lost someone who was more than just my partner—he was the one who taught me the depths of what love could mean. He was the first to make me believe in a future where love felt safe, certain, and lasting. When he passed, I fell into the same pattern you described, replaying all the “lasts.” The last time we laughed together. The last time he surprised me with something small but thoughtful—a flower he picked on his way home or a favorite bottle of wine. The last time he said my name. The last time he touched me. Those memories became sacred but also suffocating. One day, while going through some of his things, I came across an old note he had written to me. It wasn’t meant to be profound—it was just a grocery list with a little message scribbled at the bottom: “Let’s make this a good day.” That simple phrase stuck with me. I realized I had been focusing so much on what was gone that I had stopped allowing myself to create new moments, new memories, new beginnings. It wasn’t about replacing him or forgetting what we had. It was about honoring him by continuing to live in the way he had encouraged me to—with openness to joy and possibility. Now, when I think of him, I don’t just remember the endings. I celebrate the beginnings—the first time he made me feel seen, the first time I let my guard down and trusted someone completely, the first time I realized that love doesn’t need to be perfect to be real. Those firsts don’t take away from the love I’ve shared with others before or since—they’re a part of the larger tapestry of who I am and how I’ve loved. I hope, as you move through your grief, you’ll give yourself the grace to hold on to the past while also leaving space for new beginnings. Life may feel heavy now, but it’s still full of so much to discover and cherish. Even the smallest steps forward can remind us that love, in all its forms, is worth pursuing—until the very end.

Much love and blessings to you!

I hope so, because a hairy chest on a man is just… perfection. When his chest presses firmly against mine, the hair brushing and tickling my nipples, it sends little jolts of heat through me. My hands running over that warm, rugged hair, feeling every muscle shift beneath. And then, the softer, downy hair along his thighs or the rougher scruff at the curve of his ass when I grip him tight… Bring back the fur!

I also liked Angela Lansbury and Tyne Daly.