ApexNomad

And the same client too, if a repeat, I would guess. Seems very unpredictable.

Thanks. He’s too young for me, just curious. Never seen it worded like that. A session has to have a begin and end time, thus an hourly rate. Unless he fluctuates his the cost of each session based on various criteria outlined by the needs of the client. ?!?!

“Flat rates no hourly” What does that mean?

Wow, that’s a shame and seems completely unnecessary. If he did, I think it just shows the pressure performers face to meet certain standards. Love yourselves, fellas—no matter the size!

“Don't be afraid to ask if farther away” He’s far too young for me, but I like his ad copy, except for above. I’m a dinosaur - can someone explain if the “Don’t” is code for something or is that just a spelling mistake gone awry?

I give you a lot of credit—really. I think I would have been pissed off in the moment. When I go into an experience, I’m as open, present, and engaged as possible, and I expect the same from the provider. Honesty is key, especially with advertised photos. I get that he had a bad experience with his own pictures, but using someone else’s is just repeating the same thing that was done to him—and the person in those photos has no idea they’re being used for escorting. This puts the client in a tough position, having to decide on the spot whether to stay or leave. Then there’s the bigger question: if the photos aren’t real, what else in the ad copy might not be accurate? It’s a tough way to start and definitely not the best path to building trust or encouraging repeat business. I’m glad it worked out for you.

That’s very big of you to give him a chance! Not sure I would’ve gone through with it. At a very basic level, there’s just an expectation to actually be the person you’re advertising. Using someone else’s photos is pretty messed up—especially for the other guy, who has no business in this business. Trust is such a big part of these exchanges, and that’s a very hard way to start.

I had no idea he was in that. Might be a reason to go see it now. Thanks.

A photo is a record, and the post came on the heels of a provider (vin) having posted an image of a little black book.

Judge Judy: Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining! You’re upset because you didn’t get what you thought you’d get… but next time, read the fine print—oh wait, there isn’t any. Case dismissed. Byrd, get ‘em outta here.

I understand the intention behind the analogy, and I appreciate that PrEP has changed the landscape around HIV risk today. My perspective is more about the lasting emotional weight for those who saw HIV as a death sentence in the past. Even with today’s advances, that fear and impact still linger for many of us.

Can you organize my closet?

I’m not debating the efficacy of treatments or the game-changer that is PrEP, but rather the understanding of the analogy and the emotion behind it. Treatment may have changed, but the fear remains. For those of us who lived through it, that sense of a “death sentence” is etched in our bones. Some things progress can’t erase.

This is why I don’t exchange photos with providers! Discretion.

It might seem like an exaggeration, but after watching so many of my brothers die from AIDS, getting HIV felt like an immediate death sentence. The fear of getting it, the uncertainty… it was something we all carried in those days. I understand the analogy.