PhileasFogg

I’m a service provider - consulting. I’m paid for travel time. My accountant is paid for travel time. My attorney is too. My issue is not that the guy wants travel comp. It’s that he sprung at the last minute rather than disclosing up front

Monica? Is that you?? 🤣

I think the hardest part here may not actually be what he does, but that you were misled about it. That kind of breach of trust can feel more destabilizing than the work itself. There’s still a lot of nuance worth sitting with before you decide what this means for you. Did he avoid telling you because he was afraid of losing you, or because he didn’t want to deal with the consequences? When he finally told you, did it feel like honesty and vulnerability, or more like “this is who I am, take it or leave it”? Is he truly trying to change his circumstances, or simply hoping you’ll adapt to them? You’re clearly very invested emotionally. What does he do, in concrete ways, to show that your commitment is matched? And practically speaking, does this situation place more emotional or financial strain on you than on him? None of these questions are accusations. They’re about understanding balance, safety, and trust. Love can coexist with complexity, but only if both people are carrying their share of the weight. It may help to remember that the person who feels they have less to lose often has more leverage, even unintentionally. Moving forward may mean naming any imbalance honestly and deciding together what would restore a sense of stability and mutual respect for you — not just keeping things intact. Personslly, I think this is salvageable if you are both equally invested

So you’ve tried scat? Or are you sure you wouldn’t like it ??

Since I usually host, it's more likely that I'd have valuables locked up in the safe on a first time visit - fortunately, I didn't feel the need to do that a couple weeks ago with @Braziliancutee in New Orleans. 😇 But, there's no telling what happened with his wallet when HE was in the shower 😄

I’m sorry if you missed the point on what is a response to a serious matter for the OP

Here’s the downside…once it’s popular and growing, it either becomes a tool or a target of law enforcement. Too many - including here - are not careful about what they say.

I’m not an escort nor am I someone whose partner is an escort. But I’ve interacted with many asking similar questions. I don’t want to oversimplify, and I doubt there’s a text book way to maneuver this. But I always come back to one key question for all of them to consider - “who does your partner come home to at night and hold as they go to sleep” There are many other issues and questions, but those don’t matter if you can’t find comfort in the answer to this question first.

I’ll repeat something I said a few days ago…the best elixir for jealousy is to have multiple providers. The gut check is a simple question - “are you willing or able to replace his (probably six figure) income to marry him and make him yours?” If the answer is yes, offer it and see if he bites (after you lay the prenup out for signature) Otherwise, take Dr Biziman’s Elixir and start spreading your good cheer with multiple guys

1) I said it’s a possibility not a certsinty 2) as to a preference being racism, it depends on the motivation of the person preferring it.

Many say that the US lags other countries in household wealth - but these comparisons often exclude the NPV of the social security annuity (and we aren't the only ones to have a federally sponsored retirement trust fund). But sometimes, wealth is more about consumption. If I do the math, as a newly minted retiree, if I invest at a rate that earns 2% more than I consume, by new worth will double in 30 years when I'm likely be dead. It' won't have the same purchasing power for my kids and grandkids, but it will be substantial simply because I limited my spending and investment goals to reasonable targets

“Keep or sell” isn’t a one-dimensional question to me. Returns from real estate come from a mix of cash flow and appreciation—those are the only two variables that matter. In my view, as an investment, right now housing is something to hold, not something to buy, unless it’s a truly special situation. Inflation favors tangible assets, and rents should rise over time as inflation pushes incomes higher. That said, post-pandemic valuations are still elevated in most markets relative to the cash flow a new purchase can realistically generate. When I evaluate deals, I frustrate my realtors because I focus on a single metric: cash-on-cash return. I don’t care what “market cap rates” are or what owner-occupied comps suggest. For me, real estate is just one alternative among many investments, each with its own balance of risk, cash flow, and appreciation potential. Real estate tends to be risky, high-maintenance, and illiquid—so I need to be paid a premium for taking that on. A current example: I’m looking at a property in New Orleans’ French Quarter—about 240 years old. Buyers from California purchased it in 2015 for ~$700k and spent three years renovating it into three rental units. They listed it last year at $1.2M and have since dropped the price below $800k. I told the realtor my number would be closer to $500k. Why? Gross market rents are only around $70k/year, while insurance and property taxes alone run ~$22k/year. After management, maintenance, vacancies, and reserves, the risk-adjusted return doesn’t come close to what I can earn in a boring CD—with none of the headaches. I’m not advocating CD yields…but I want something considerably higher from real estate.

“The rain in spain stays mainly in the plains” it’s a lie! Damn that Alan Jay Lerner!

There’s a context and way to ask for pictures. This one is not the safety context, it’s the narcissistic one. If he wants chemistry, I’d suggest he start with a phone call, not a pic. But there’s one other possibility the way he asks it - racism.

My balls would not survive those things

Yes, I was asked to take multiple behind the scenes photos. This was a week end trip - the entire weekend was a success and we all had a blast. Both of these guys are special - I think my pickiness of focusing on Mature, Intelligent and Sober providers is starting to really pay dividends

I’d add that, if there is an unfair review on someone, satisfied clients usually come running to support their favored guys and keep the record straight @Escuela, might I assume that you have a negative review here? I’m curious how you found yourself to this thread mentioning this very specific client that, it appears, you know. But if you have a negative review, I’m sure a response to that particular post would be appreciated by potential clients

An interesting experience last night as I offered @Ashertyson69 an early birthday present - a photo session with the talented FTM_AngelGabe. I’ve discovered a second talent that Gabe has and the hotel room provided a perfect backdrop for Asher’s natural talent as a subject. It’s always cool to see companions get along well when introduced, but this takes collaboration to a new level! Does anyone have good stories to share about similar experiences of providers meeting and getting along?

Depending on the date, I’d seriously consider it but spring sounds nicer 🥶

I’ve offered to split it. If they push back, I cancel. Amazing how good splitting it sounds 9x out of 10. In the tenth one, they were probably looking for an excuse anyway.

I use NordVPN. Replaced expressvpn and I’m satisfied.

I think both the presence and concern about jealousy is OK Intimacy creates connection and connection creates potential for jealousy. But the client needs to ask a question - am I willing to offer this person an arrangement that replicates their - often - six figure income. If the answer is “yes,” then do it. Otherwise, accept what you have and, if your jealousy bugs you, then cut bait before it ends poorly anyway. Jealousy will end all good connections eventually. As a client, having multiple providers is usually a good elixir for jealousy.

“Many times” or does he once suggest otherwise. But even that line suggests it links with his divine purpose…oh heavens, fetch tha smellin’ salts 😂 He talks almost exclusively about himself “I love making your fantasies come true.” (sounds generous, but still describes his role/performance) “I enjoy showing off my big cock / hyperspermia.” “I want to show off for you.” “It’s my divine purpose in life.” This is performative, not relational. No where does he mention touch or connection I get that he’s marketing a brand, but when everything is about his cock, his videos, his divine purpose, and his rules for contact, it doesn’t leave much room for anyone else. Hard to see how time with him wouldn’t be mostly about… him. A beautiful young man. I simply hope that someone can prove me wrong with a review of actual experience.

No, but it looks like a visit with him would be “all about him”

True enough! I’ll admit that rimming would have been a disgusting thought to me most of my life. UNTIL I met someone I became close to, who was fastidious about hygiene, and who I knew would appreciate it and enjoy it if I did it. It’s not my go to, but I enjoy giving it for someone who is prepared and appreciative