PhileasFogg

you may have missed that this most recent experience was in a bar. I went there for a drink with my companion, not to meet guys. But it’s good to know that if, as a bisexual male, I went to a bar and groped a woman that it would be OK because surely she was there to meet somebody, right? Why do I feel you trying, against logic, to justify a double standard. And to say it’s nuanced is not an acceptable answer. Just so we can level set here, I did a little research (and after reading it, maybe you can try again in telling me why it was OK because it was gay or a gay hangout) 1. Sexual Assault / Sexual Battery Even brief, unwanted touching of intimate areas (such as the thigh, buttocks, breast, or genital region) is often classified as sexual assault or sexual battery, depending on the state. These crimes generally don’t require physical injury — the non-consensual sexual contact itself is enough. 2. Criminal vs. Civil Criminal liability: The person could face arrest, charges, fines, or jail time. Civil liability: You could also have grounds for a civil lawsuit (e.g., battery, emotional distress). 3. Key Legal Elements Lack of consent: Your clear lack of permission is central. Intent: If the act was intentional (not accidental), that usually satisfies the criminal requirement. 4. Variations by State Some states use the term sexual assault broadly; others distinguish sexual battery (touching) from rape (penetration). Penalties range from misdemeanors to felonies depending on circumstances (e.g., force, threats, repeat offenses, victim’s age).

“Most” is the key word. I came for a lineless tan. And I sent no signals inviting touch from anyone but my travel companion. In fact, being lean with a classic physique, he got plenty of stares but no uninvited gropes (and feeling the same as me, he’d probably punch someone who touched him without permission) while I’m not going to get melodramatic and blow my personal response out of proportion, you’re kinda saying that “I asked for it” and “boys will be boys”….hmmm, where have I heard that before. IF this is a lauded aspect of “gay culture” to do this to strangers without invitation, then something is f’d up - especially if you’re holding this up as an initiation game for younger men coming out as well.

I agree. But, while I’m here, I’ve not been in the cruisy parts like the hot tubs, saunas or the red room. And, grabbing my ass and trying to stick a finger doesn’t pass the “sniff test” (pun intended) especially for a top like me 😂😂🤠

I don’t think Harry has the disposition to accept decisions from the popularly elected government that could differ from his own belief system. An important attribute in a sovereign with no power. He’d definately bring the end to the monarchy.

Naked isn’t an invitation to touch - despite the beauty of the object 😇 and this week’s experience was in a public venue. I’m not buying it. Maybe I should be flattered or maybe I’m more attractive than I think, but it’s not like I’ve been hanging out in the red room with my pants around my ankles

I should have said “Hey, that’s the VIP section and you’re not on the guest list”

Last month I was at The Hacienda in Palm Springs. One day in the pool, a guy I was conversing with takes spontaneous liberty to grope my ass (as in, feeling around to stick his finger in) and grabbing my penis. I managed to drift aside with my virtue in tact This week, I’m at Island House in Key West. Last night my friend and I were having a drink at a bar on Duval. Two other guests from IH walked in, saw us, and came over to talk. Polite conversation ensued until, out of the blue, one of them takes unsolicited liberty to start rubbing my leg beneath my shorts. As I pushed his hand away, he came back at me HIGHER up! So we left in neither case did I send off any indication of interest except polite conversation Have gay men not gotten the memo that these kinds of unsolicited acts are tantamount to assault?

#1. I definately know of providers who have discussed this with me #2. Someone would have to violate a confidence OR become a provided, right??

So I arrived at Island House in Key West. two weeks ago, hacienda in PS IH is the Motel 6 ( raw like Key West). Hacienda is the Four Seasons cost/night is similar

Not for legal purposes. But if you’re concerned about family and friends…it’s leverage. I hate to say it, but you’re walking a fine line between shutting him down completely and trying to keep a secret. Me too…but my position is that I don’t have to advertise anything about my personal life, I won’t lie, and I’m willing to let the cards fall where they may if some bad actor tries to stir things up. But I’m divorced, retired, and my family wouldn’t care. Despite that, I feel your pain and do not want to minimize the situation for you

Good question - I wish I could have gotten back all the gifts I gave my ex’s. Doesn’t work that way. I think this lawyer threat is a flailing tactic.

I don’t want to turn this into a discussion on ChatGPT, but it’s useful in the context of multiple opinions from multiple sources.

Nothing says “honest” like satan’s image on your belly, right?

I’ve probably done it 10 times this year and at least three times with 2-3 guys on the trip. It’s not hard. You just have to write down the details to keep up with them.

I still have half a bottle of 15 yr old Pappy that I’ve only used to toast the birth of my grandkids. Now that I have four, I’m hoping my daughter is done 😂

Of course it’s not! But is it? 😂😂

Well, the good news is that, if THIS is repetitively the topic of the “lead story” on the news, it’s been a pretty good day 😉 hmmm, maybe it’s time to plan a trip down under…

Genuinely nice guy.

The day before the bank balance hits zero.

I suspect he got over your disdain quickly. - but clearly you haven’t. 😉 All you really had to do was move on, you didn’t need to be so negative.

I picked up one of my cars from the detailer yesterday - a Corvette older than me with 9,000 miles on it. When the detailer quoted his price of $4,000, I didn’t hesitate - even though I knew I’d find someone cheaper - because I knew this guy would do it right. After a month of meticulous detailing, when I saw it, all I could say was “wow!” I think it’s the same in any service business. You tend to get what you pay for. And when reputation precedes, you tend to pay more

Last weekend, I was in PS at Hacienda, next weekend I’ll be in KW at Island House. Hacienda was quiet and tranquil. I don’t think Island House will be 😂 I’ve already booked a Feb return to Hacienda. Let’s see how I feel about Island House in a couple weeks.

The happier he is, the happier you are. If you want cheap, go to Applebees.

The prevalence of this gene mutation is quite small, right?

In my experience, it’s not unusual. They forget to renew, they’re not in a rush to renew, they don’t have the money to renew, etc. given your unique circumstances, I don’t think you crossed a line - but I don’t know if they will.o In my experience, I simply send a text saying “hey, I see your ad is down. Are we still good on our plans next week?” It might be time to install WhatsApp so you have a computer app to use as backup