PhileasFogg

I hope you know that you’re not alone. Please also know that, beyond the support of pharmaceuticals and toys, there might be a phycological aspect that can be addressed through counseling.

The stories I’m hearing from friends and acquaintances in the East Tn/Western NC are harrowing. I know the focus is on Asheville (a remarkably beautiful small city) but the impact in some of the smaller/rural areas is beyond description. i suspect that this event will rewrite the flood maps and will also redefine for many what “flash flood warning” means.

You are right. It manifested itself for me in recent weeks when my score hit 850 on all three bureaus. Then, I had an unused card show up with a $99 annual fee (it was an airline points card that perhaps I gave to my exwife to isolate her purchases years ago when we were divorcing). First thought: cancel the card it’s an unnecessary expense Second thought: no, that will hurt my 850 scores Reality is that it might have impacted my score, but only for a short time.

It's not overnight, but a frame of reference since I was just there this weekend - each was scheduled for 2 hours: Appointment 1: Left Boston and went to NYC without communicating with me until I went to confirm our Saturday time on Friday night. He was $350/hr, so $700 for 2 hours but left town without telling me Appointment 2: After getting dis'd by Appt 1 on Friday night, I arranged another for Saturday - no show. He didn't reach out to me until 10 hours after our scheduled time - and then wanted to get together on Sunday. He was $350/1st hour and $300/2nd hour, so $650 for two hours but didn't show. Appointment 3: After Appt 2 no show, I reached out to an "Available Now" who was $450/hr or $2,000 overnight. I paid the $900 for two hours and he far exceeded my expectations, and I left him some favorable comments in a thread about him here. I will note that I would not have paid the overnight price since I've paid that much or less for weekends with others who have been great times.

I use “guys”. I think it’s more common in communities where the men grew up together and are doing things with guys they’ve known since boyhood.

And I don’t like it when younger men call me “daddy”

Welllllll, rarely is the behavior on those excursions age appropriate to the participants. Is it different because I might call it “guys night out?” Personally, I think way too much debate is being put into semantics. It’s kinda a debate of form over substance IMO I think in the end, for whatever reason, we all have our own preferences and tastes. We all use words, some of which vary by age or generation, that mean different things in and out of context. And perhaps debate over these things is majoring in the minors?

Understood. Can the provoders bridge the gap while you ease into the dating pool rather than diving in?

Maybe ask yourself what the void is that you’re trying to fill. Then set about trying to fill that void with an appropriate substitute. For me, my life is in transition - I’ve retired, I’m relocating, I’m recently broken up from a long term relationship, and this is easier than establishing a new relationship that will be geographically challenged after my move. However, I have connected in this transition with a couple of providers with whom I’ve developed non-financial relationships that will probably survive my move.

Exacerbated by the fact that I have a concierge dr and I’m about to relocate to another state 😅

I just spent a couple hours with him in Boston. Sensitive, sensual, passionate, considerate, etc. A really good guy and I enjoyed my time with him. I get the sense that he’s transitioning to NYC soon

And you know what? I’m a capitalist….just be a professional and let me know. I can adjust.

Ha! I’m not sure what “play” even means…that tells you how new I am to this 😂

Funny thing happened with this guy tonight. I Confirmed Wednesday for two hours in Boston on Saturday. Texted tonight to confirm for tomorrow He says he’s in NYC. i say it would have been nice to have a bit of communication…but whatever he says “last minute, emergency, hope you understand” I check RM where’s he advertising himself in NYC - doesn’t sound like an emergency, eh? [As I’m typing this, his last log on for RM was 2 minutes ago ] my reply - “no, I don’t since you’re advertising yourself on RM in NYC.” Then he cops me attitude when I told him not to compound the situation with a lie. i was already apprehensive since he has a no outcall rule but was in a high crime area of Boston, but the combination of poor communication, deceit, and attitude when confronted with his lie make me think he should be avoided. I’m halfway tempted to post pictures of the text conversation before I blocked his number…but I’ll end this with a simple “beware. Something isn’t right here” I’ve had folks need to cancel before and they’ve always been forthright…but this is an - allegedly - 21 yr old with the maturity way below his age and a bit of narcissism that came out in his texts as well. Am I wrong to be thinking this?

Sorry @marylander1940. I now see that there is a place for user reports

Oh, did I misunderstand? When you said "post the number of this individual online to warn other escorts about him" - did you mean a forum like this?

Got it. So I downloaded it and I'm playing around with it. I don't see anything that shows a log of information on people. I just see the number and the name associated with it. In fact, one number I tested just said "Personal Line" for the name. is there more to it that I'm missing?

I looked up “Mr Number” and I’m trying to figure out how this works in this situation

Honestly, I don't think ACA would be repealed. It's become part of the DNA of too many voters. I think it's more likely that the law will be modified to properly define the mandate requirement so that it turns into an actual risk pool rather than a government subsidy.

I'm curious - given that you've already established that it's more about body type than age - why would you find it disturbing? In addition - are we not forgetting that often younger guys are attracted to older guys?? Why can that not be mutual? To me, age is a number - and rest assured, my energy levels, flexibility, fitness, and interests have nothing to do with the fact that I'm retired (early retirement)

I like young men not young boys. I think you are entirely wrong in your characterization.

Then I’ve been very lucky in the brief time I’ve been exploring my sexuality with men

He’s definitely not a clock watcher

Yes they do exist. I had one visit for the weekend a couple of weeks ago and I have another one coming next weekend. The first one was terrible at communicating and seemed to triage responses to when they were absolutely necessary (driving me crazy because I'm a proactive planner). The one that's coming next week has been awesome. I have two regulars in my home town that I get along marvelously well with. At the core, true twinks are young, so they are Gen Z and Gen Z is terrible at communication and accepting regimented routines, so it's kinda what you sign up for to get young men. BUT, Gen Z is hyper focused on perceptions of disrespect and rudeness (and their standard are different than my boomer standards) So, my advice would be to evaluate if there's a different way that you can reach out to them. I've always gotten a response in my first communication politely starting with name, where I am, what I'm looking for, when I'm looking for it, and inviting them to ask any questions of me that they may have. FWIW, I'm noting that American guys are much more frustrating, but - just like trade workers from south of the border seem to be hard working and honest - I'm sensing the same with young escorts from south of the border; especially countries that have good education systems.

I had it in the 80’s and it was lasered off. My ex-wife and I were together for years, but at least one of us brought it into the marriage.