PhileasFogg

I get your issue. But I’d look at it this way - when you have a regular or two to cover your fixed costs, any other appointments are profit. THAT’s what they mean

When I met him, I was exhausted. But he was patient and stuck with me. Was very kind, carried on a great conversation and made an all around pleasant time despite my exhaustion.

As previously noted if you’re failing to align expectation and outcome in a personal encounter, it’s probably an education issue. My activities tend to be overnights or weekends. So, I always schedule a video call of introduction to be sure we are in sync but also to discuss mutual wants/needs. It’s generally worked very well.

You post YOUR picture and I'll let you know

Yes, but it's traditionally older supporting younger. I think the question is "how much is enough" when all other personal expenses are covered.

My mother dropped me on my face as an infant

“Athletic guys”….thats funny! But my doctor did just say I’m in really good shape “FOR A MAN MY AGE”…jerk!

Well, with my offer of $801, you also get PhileasFogg…a bargain at any price…

I’m willing to offer $801!

Good point...on the surface, it doesn't impact state taxes without state level legislation. I think the technical accounting term is PITA P ain I n T he A ss

Technically, this is an overhyped benefit to the working guy. fICA is still due, most tip payers are on low marginal tax brackets anyway, so you’d have to be declaring huge taxable income and tips to reap much benefit.

He’s a great guy and fun to be with

He changed his name from Joey_Kiss. I’m a big fan

Well, that cuts both ways… it’s a risk of the business model. Token deposit, sure. But if someone wants a hundred or more up front is probably 50% chance of no show.

Other than sexting to arrange plans, I have no need unless the provider wants to communicate. About a year ago, I had one guy who kept trying to engage me in texts with leading comments. Then I’d respond and he’d say “hey, I’m gonna need $50 if we are engaging like this” We had several appointments, I always wondered if he’d ever show - and I ultimately cut my losses (time and financial) and moved on. I subsequently learned his reputation in the NOLA market isn’t good at all. So I see sexting for $ in advance of a meeting as a huge red flag In my view, good providers receiving a fair price should view reasonable amount of foreplay as part of the business model. I always promise that I won’t bother them with endless texts or promises for freebies but the good ones are willing to build anticipation

I agree there are plenty of situations where “the customer is always right” simply doesn’t hold. But in the moments when it does surface, it’s usually because the power dynamic makes it so — he with the gold tends to set the tone, for better or worse. That said, whether provider or purchaser, one truth applies universally: the Dowager Countess had it right — “vulgarity is no substitute for wit.”

I am not in a position to comment on anyone else’s experience, but I can speak clearly about my own. I’ve known Angus for over a year and we’ve traveled together multiple times — two weekend trips (Nashville and New Orleans) and a weeklong trip to Iceland (I took that profile picture of him at sunset in the Icelandic igloo) Across every encounter, he has been consistently patient, intuitive, respectful, and completely attuned to my comfort and preferences. One moment in particular stands out: when I was exploring whether bottoming might work for me, Angus was the first person I trusted to even try. He stayed patient throughout, listened carefully, adjusted when needed, and handled everything with a kindness and affirming tone that I genuinely appreciated. After 20 mins of coaching and effort and barely just getting his rock hard head in, without even an iota of frustration, he finally said “Phileas, let’s face it mate, you’re just a top and that’s OK” I also noticed I am his 69th five-star review on RM, and I see there is now a 70th. His track record of satisfied clients reflects what I’ve experienced repeatedly — professionalism, care, and consistency. He’s bright, well educated, intuitive, and has a disposition to serve I vaguely recall seeing this post weeks ago and thinking, “This doesn’t resemble the Angus I know.” We all process experiences differently. While I didn’t comment then, I’m glad Angus had the opportunity to respond with factual context so prospective clients can see the full picture. That’s my experience, and I offer it simply as another perspective in support and affirmation of this remarkable young man.

I like giving AND receiving

Personally, I don’t think modesty should ever be criticized. It should just be accepted. I’ll add that if I were in a locker room full of modest men, then I’d feel a little pervy being the one guy walking around like “hey! Look at me!”

It’s called a “starter dick” for those new to bottoming.

More likely he’s either exhausted or on anti depressants.

I agree with that and I’ve been called a “mean girl” here for advocating that very point in this forum. But this is a repeated occurrence. Now, if the expectation is that he must cum and that takes him off the market for a couple days to insure it happens, I believe it’s the client’s responsibility to pay extra for the forgone income But FTR, my ex wife told me to “cum now” so often that I stopped wanting to have sex. I generally go an hour or more and sex is aerobic exercise for me

Uninformed Perspective: You're agonizing over this because you have a good heart and you don't want to hurt his feelings. But perpetuating your own dissatisfaction is not the solution and he's a professional and should know how to process rejection. I will offer this thought - the fact that he put the issue back on you saying that your constructive feedback is "off putting" really doesn't sit well with me. It's not a professional response. Just my additional 2 cents since, although I think you know what to do now with everyone's feedback, I suspect you're still feeling like a heel and shouldn't.

Just be honest with him and lay it out like you did in the last paragraph - time for a break, if you're in town - let you know, but other than that - you're needing something more. As I'm generally a weekend scheduler, I know that each planned encounter costs a small fortune with planes, hotels, etc. There are other guys you can fly in.

I'm OK with sloppy seconds