PhileasFogg

Fossil - the brand of watches? 😜 I love your posts - always good hearted and often hilarious like this. I bet you were popular with the students when you were their teacher!

I was horrified when my dad gave me his Rolex - opting instead to wear a $12 timex. Why did he do that? The Rolex is a self winding watch. Wearing the Rolex 24/7 he didn’t move enough to keep it wound. It was quite sad. I couldn’t wear it while he was alive…it felt wrong…and now, I don’t wear watches and it’s in a safe.

Stupid adults

What you’re describing is more of a traditional BFE with mutuality that starts way in advance of the encounter with communication and building of anticipation. Repeating what @GLEEasked, but also setting expectation that this is not a commodity - either for the type of provider or the experience - and may be a more costly endeavor.

@jusmeinbr...interestingly, I had my own encounter with him. I'm not surprised since we clearly like similar profiles and I was certain he'd be on your radar too. Provided cell # by PM, his first text to me was "hey" like I was a sniffies hookup - that left me a bit concerned that he didn't have the communicative insight to know how to differentiate from spam. We did try to set up a time but the logistics just weren't going to work getting to my coastal wasteland. That's not his fault, he tried, but as I backed off, the price seemed to jump all over the place. I felt as though he'd not really priced an overnight before, but my sense was that he expected his hourly rate times x hours but that tended to soften within a few minutes. In the end, I feared planning something would not go off smoothly and I cut bait. Based on your experience, I'm glad I did. I kinda felt like I'd have been disappointed just based on communication style and logistics. I can't really say anything bad except that it just felt "off" and that maybe I contributed to that as well. Maybe all would have been perfect in a different place and time.

Are you saying that the RM profile is Billy Quinn or that he stole pics for the profile? You’ve heard that some of us like twinks, right?

@jmkblnd1, unless you have a reason to doubt what he says, I think your heart will tell you whether you can accept his words at face value or not. There’s hook up, there’s sex, there’s connection, and then there’s commitment. I come back to who he comes home to at night. But, this might be a good time to be thinking about a pre-nup in case your heart leads you the wrong way. If he doesn’t want to be supported, there’s not a good objection. But the trade off is that he gets to choose how he makes money.

…Lewinsky

See ya in a couple weeks 😉

So was my mother until I became proficient in arithmetic

I know what it means... and I do tell them "no papi" and all this time, I thought you were 21 Jamie

Am I the only older guy who doesn't like to be called "Daddy?" I know most gay men don't have kids or grandkids. I do. I have very few rules with guys I get with - no drugs, keep it vanilla, etc - but my #1 Rule is "Don't call me Daddy" For me, that's a moniker reserved for my adult kids. And the thought of being in a fit of passion with someone who calls me "daddy" makes me cringe at the association. Am I alone in this because of my personal family composition or are there others who feel this way?

I’m a service provider - consulting. I’m paid for travel time. My accountant is paid for travel time. My attorney is too. My issue is not that the guy wants travel comp. It’s that he sprung at the last minute rather than disclosing up front

Monica? Is that you?? 🤣

I think the hardest part here may not actually be what he does, but that you were misled about it. That kind of breach of trust can feel more destabilizing than the work itself. There’s still a lot of nuance worth sitting with before you decide what this means for you. Did he avoid telling you because he was afraid of losing you, or because he didn’t want to deal with the consequences? When he finally told you, did it feel like honesty and vulnerability, or more like “this is who I am, take it or leave it”? Is he truly trying to change his circumstances, or simply hoping you’ll adapt to them? You’re clearly very invested emotionally. What does he do, in concrete ways, to show that your commitment is matched? And practically speaking, does this situation place more emotional or financial strain on you than on him? None of these questions are accusations. They’re about understanding balance, safety, and trust. Love can coexist with complexity, but only if both people are carrying their share of the weight. It may help to remember that the person who feels they have less to lose often has more leverage, even unintentionally. Moving forward may mean naming any imbalance honestly and deciding together what would restore a sense of stability and mutual respect for you — not just keeping things intact. Personslly, I think this is salvageable if you are both equally invested

So you’ve tried scat? Or are you sure you wouldn’t like it ??

Since I usually host, it's more likely that I'd have valuables locked up in the safe on a first time visit - fortunately, I didn't feel the need to do that a couple weeks ago with @Braziliancutee in New Orleans. 😇 But, there's no telling what happened with his wallet when HE was in the shower 😄

I’m sorry if you missed the point on what is a response to a serious matter for the OP

Here’s the downside…once it’s popular and growing, it either becomes a tool or a target of law enforcement. Too many - including here - are not careful about what they say.

I’m not an escort nor am I someone whose partner is an escort. But I’ve interacted with many asking similar questions. I don’t want to oversimplify, and I doubt there’s a text book way to maneuver this. But I always come back to one key question for all of them to consider - “who does your partner come home to at night and hold as they go to sleep” There are many other issues and questions, but those don’t matter if you can’t find comfort in the answer to this question first.

I’ll repeat something I said a few days ago…the best elixir for jealousy is to have multiple providers. The gut check is a simple question - “are you willing or able to replace his (probably six figure) income to marry him and make him yours?” If the answer is yes, offer it and see if he bites (after you lay the prenup out for signature) Otherwise, take Dr Biziman’s Elixir and start spreading your good cheer with multiple guys

1) I said it’s a possibility not a certsinty 2) as to a preference being racism, it depends on the motivation of the person preferring it.

Many say that the US lags other countries in household wealth - but these comparisons often exclude the NPV of the social security annuity (and we aren't the only ones to have a federally sponsored retirement trust fund). But sometimes, wealth is more about consumption. If I do the math, as a newly minted retiree, if I invest at a rate that earns 2% more than I consume, by new worth will double in 30 years when I'm likely be dead. It' won't have the same purchasing power for my kids and grandkids, but it will be substantial simply because I limited my spending and investment goals to reasonable targets

“Keep or sell” isn’t a one-dimensional question to me. Returns from real estate come from a mix of cash flow and appreciation—those are the only two variables that matter. In my view, as an investment, right now housing is something to hold, not something to buy, unless it’s a truly special situation. Inflation favors tangible assets, and rents should rise over time as inflation pushes incomes higher. That said, post-pandemic valuations are still elevated in most markets relative to the cash flow a new purchase can realistically generate. When I evaluate deals, I frustrate my realtors because I focus on a single metric: cash-on-cash return. I don’t care what “market cap rates” are or what owner-occupied comps suggest. For me, real estate is just one alternative among many investments, each with its own balance of risk, cash flow, and appreciation potential. Real estate tends to be risky, high-maintenance, and illiquid—so I need to be paid a premium for taking that on. A current example: I’m looking at a property in New Orleans’ French Quarter—about 240 years old. Buyers from California purchased it in 2015 for ~$700k and spent three years renovating it into three rental units. They listed it last year at $1.2M and have since dropped the price below $800k. I told the realtor my number would be closer to $500k. Why? Gross market rents are only around $70k/year, while insurance and property taxes alone run ~$22k/year. After management, maintenance, vacancies, and reserves, the risk-adjusted return doesn’t come close to what I can earn in a boring CD—with none of the headaches. I’m not advocating CD yields…but I want something considerably higher from real estate.

“The rain in spain stays mainly in the plains” it’s a lie! Damn that Alan Jay Lerner!