Nightowl

I’m on the older side, I still get horny, and my plumbing still works. I haven’t yet had a provider refuse my business because of my age though I suppose it may happen someday. If/when it does it will be his loss.

I think you’re right. I posted earlier this year about a guy who advertised erotic massage on RMass (before it was banned as a category) but freaked out when I asked for it. He clearly wanted to increase his client pool by adding sensual and erotic to his ad but had no intention of following through with either.

I’m surprised that you’ve had a number of top/vers guys who only want to bottom. Wish I could find some since there are few in my area who advertise as bottoms. Must be like unicorns in my area.

I’m not sure I’d call it gaslighting but it was definitely indoctrination that became deeply ingrained. I’ll probably always try to be courteous and respectful verbally, but once I’m with a provider in the heat of the moment, my body usually takes over and does—or tries to do—things that my brain and mouth would be reluctant to ask for. … I agree that we can’t constantly give a shit about everyone and everything. Now in my old age I reserve the right to say “Fuck it. I don’t care what anyone thinks.” It’s a lot easier now than it was a few decades ago.

I went to one once on a road trip. Never again.

Everything he does during your contracted time together is on your dime. If he wants to do something that you don’t, ask him to reimburse you at his hourly rate.

Not wanting to cause offence is still something I wrestle with. My upbringing taught me that when you hire someone, you treat them respectfully and as a professional. I’ve sometimes found it difficult to ask for what I want because my upbringing tells me it’s disrespectful to ask someone to rim me or cum in my mouth. Even in person, I hesitate. When the provider is direct and opens the door to those activities, it is indeed a relief.

If you’re out and have nothing to hide, go for it.

If he was charging 16K for a weekend back in 2023, it’s probably at least 18K now.

I don’t mind the taste or essence of anchovies; I just don’t want the whole eyebrow in my salad.

And when you ask them, the answer is vague.

It’s been suggested before but it never happens. It would ruin the mystery about all the guys on the site if people actually saw what we looked like.

That third leg is pretty impressive!

I wonder how many guys who call themselves “vers” actually bottom. I would imagine it’s a designation used to draw in as many prospective clients as possible.

I have no problem in general with providers contacting me. A note of thanks following a session is great. Likewise, with providers I’ve seen before, I welcome texts at any time provided they’re discreet. Because of my personal situation, I don’t want to receive a text while I’m at the family dinner table that says “Enjoyed fucking you last week. I’ve got an opening next week if you’re available.” A provider reaching out to say he’s available, however, is nice, especially when we both know the rapport and chemistry are good. I’m less enthused about messages on RM and RMass that are vague or just say “hi.” If a provider wants to reach out via message on those fora and tell me why I should hire him, I’ll listen.

Love the use of the “model” in the context of OF (and JFF). Never understood why you aren’t just called “performers.” Must have something to do with professional actors’ unions….

I think his cock is looking out the window.

Depends on what he says when he contacts you. The fact that he didn’t throw away your contact information after you saw him is a good sign. I’d probably respond back with “I had a great time. When can we do it again?”

I usually fold the bills for the flat fee together in one pocket with the anticipated tip bills folded together in another pocket. A trip to the bathroom after I get dressed allows me to change the tip amount if necessary.

When you’re on your stomach and all you can see are the guy’s feet through the face cradle, all of the guy’s good looks mean nothing (unless you’re into feet)

Exactly!

I’m not a fan of the totally bare genital look. It may make one’s attributes look bigger without the surrounding forest, but to me it’s off-putting. I prefer a moderately trimmed forest, on myself and the guys I’m with, preferably with a smooth/near-smooth sac…Never had any professional manscaping done myself. I’m not even sure where to find it. The idea of it sounds intriguing…

That’s quite a load to cum from one…lamp.

It’s only an amenity if it’s the provider’s driveway.

The empath in me would want to reach out and see whether he’d like to come back but that would probably freak him out.