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Just my thoughts: that can be misconstrued as some (maybe mild, but still) form of stalking. I'd take something like that as you not getting the message of being ignored. I perfectly understand the concept of "highly considering it", but there should be a line between that and pursuing him after not showing any sign of interest. My rationale is that when anyone, not just a provider, does not answer my first two inquiries, the person is already aware and there's no need for me to insist. If I don't hear from that person, I just move on. There's no need for me to continue pursuing that person. I have been "followed up" in that manner, and that has caused me annoyance and anger, which has resulted in me replying in a less-than-respectful manner, ending in an usavory interaction. That is what I have done, and I know of others who have responed to that type of pursue in the same manner. That means that it's possible that not only you will not get what you want, but worse, you will be treated like garbage. In other words, give the provider some time, if you don't hear from him, get the hint and move on. There are plenty of other providers in this world, and I'm sure that what he provides cannot be so unique that you only have to have him.

His vibe of the enjoyment not being mutual would have (and has) been enough for me to remove him from my list. There are plenty of equally (if not more) enjoyable providers that give better vibes, whether genuine or not. It's my money, it's my fantasy, it's my experience. Why should it not cater me and my needs first? That said, sometimes there's doubt about that, there's a chance that I have misread the "vibe", so I guess that in your case the text confirmed what your own intuition was telling you.

Never heard of any relationship between your preferred side of the bed and your preferred sexual role. I just sleep, can't care less where in the bed I land.

Ditto.

Yep.

I don't think there's anything to judge. It's a simple legitimate question (IMO), though it might not have a simple answer. The way a provider told me when I asked about happy endings is that he is as much of a man as the rest, so he thinks about what he'd like to happen and "gives clients a choice". The specifics are up for negotiation. Sounded rather vague, but I understand that the answer can be simple or complex, depending on who you ask. It's one of those things that mean different things for different people I believe that clients might expect being happy after the experience, but not all expect something sexual. That's why they are specifications about therapeutic only in RM. However, the other side is more vague and (IMO) coded to some degree. I am not much of a person who asks specifics and I have gotten happy endings that range from one end of the spectrum to the other end of the spectrum. I leave happy every time (that is discounting the experiences where the provider has ripped me off, there were never meant to be a happy ending of any kind for me on those).

If he asks you to f**k his skull, will you have to ask which?

A provider that I hired once mentioned to me that he's straight and married to a woman who does escorting. He said that she keeps some kind of electronic device in her anal cavity as precaution when she does outcalls. I asked him how does he protect himself, since he's a bottom and his anal cavity is expected to be busy. To my surprise, he told me that hasn't even considered the possibility of him being in danger; he was only thinking about his wife's safety. He says that since he only offers "massages" he felt no need to consider being exposed to danger. I think that there is always a level of risk in everything we do (on both sides). Sometimes we do have a good sense of intuition but don't listen to it (probably thinking with the wrong head). I have been fortunate of encountering only one unsavory situation when cruising, but the guy who wanted to attack me was almost half mi height and was unarmed, so I beat the crap out of him. I've also been able to stop before starting something when the situation or area don't look/feel safe. I obsess with my personal safety, so I might have missed great experiences, but I am also still alive, well and with stories to tell that are not unsavory. Stay safe.

My thoughts: I agree about not discussing any kind of personal (protected in USA) health information of providers, though I think it's ok discussing the issue without mentioning names or identifiable information. I also think that there are plenty of advances in the treatment of HIV, where in some cases, it has become not a life threatening chronic condition. That's definitely far from it converting into HIV-, but with proper care it's no longer the issue it once was. I also agree that any advertisement always stretches, exaggerates, or manipulates facts and truths. In this line of work there is in fact a lot of false advertisement on both sides, that is, some clients do lie to their bones about them or about what they can offer. There's always been a level of risk in this, and in fact, a great deal of why a site like this exists is precisely to verify information that clients and providers give. Gar1eth: Best wishes, and hopefully your condition puts you back able to hire and play.

The posted review says that he paid $220 for 90 minutes, but he advertises $40 for a session (I imagine an hour session, quite vague in fact). Then his add states "I offer 60 min sessions for 120 for and 90 min sessions for 180". Calculations seems like he's quoting for about 25 minutes of massage, based on wthat the clienbt actually paid. Only one picture in the add. Seems too vague and unclear.

Which is why I said "it felt", not "it was".

Same, but enver mind.

Seems like the bottom line is that thigs, including this type of drugs, should never be abused or used without the supervision of a spoecialized medical professional. As a teenager I felt like I had a 24/7 erection, so I wonder if the 4-hour benchmark applies to men of certain age.

Are you referring to: "Hmm...this page doesn’t exist. Try searching for something else." That's what I saw.

You do make a good point, but to me, based on what and how it's written, doesn't seem to be specific about him offering it to the client or mentioning that it's for personal use.

Well, the name is TRIMIX, not TRIMEX. Since I obsess over my personal safety, I wouldn't be comfortable trusting anyone providing me with something that I'm supposed to inject in my system without a prescription and without knowing where or how that came into his possession. Second, as a combination drug, it is still not approved by the FDA, which to me (depending on the drug), is a warning around safety of use. Hard pass for me.

In addition, I also think that now there are many competing destinations. Many have realized that there's gay "something" weeek, big bash, cruise, etc., in more affordable places. I haven't been to an American "gay destination" in ages. The world has many other places to go, many that are more affordable.

Regardless. My best wishes (and I'll see if I can donate).

My two cents: I have seen an immense amount of discussions about the deposit thing. The thing is that there is risk on both sides regarding the money part. Clients have gotten ripped off, and providers have gotten ripped off. I don't think that there is an definite answer or course of action that can be satisfactory for both the client and the provider, so a "hram-reduction" approach might be more suitable. My suggestion will be, as others have mentioned, if the request involves additional expenses, such as traveling and more time, a deposit seems fair to ask. If you prefer a deposit in every booking, the way you communicate it to the client might influence their agreeing or disagreeing. Probably showing undertanding of people being ripped off in the past might help the client see that not all providers have that intention (of getting something for nothing). I'd remove the [somewhat] victim mindset ("...why should I be punished for other people’s miscues and their issues with other people that doesn’t involve me"). That seems to deny your clientele and where they come from. What they have to say matters, and at the end of the day, they do have to protect their money. As a client, when I'm asked for a deposit, I immediatelly see it as a potential red flag, but I keep the conversation going to get a sense of the level of money safety I'm dealing with. It's always going to be a risk for all parties involved.

Sad to hear about New Hope. It was great in the 90s and easly 2000s.

Awesome and inspirational. Thanks so much for the kind words of encourageme for some of us. Enjoy your time with your "uncle" and Europe (whichever part you are going to be).

No. Especially since I wouldn't wear them for long under the circumstances that merit having them.

Maybe, priorities and all that.

They don't embrace everybody. In my city they completely dismantled Gay Pride allegedly because it wasn't inclusive. In the following years they had this unadvertised, poorly attended flock of disorderly people who do absolutely nothing but walking around being obnoxious to passersby, and they called that "Pride". They advertised that in the planning of the new Pride events, certain racial minority group was to be "first and center, prominently featured" in the parade, parade that never happened, anyway. The committee that was organizing that other "Pride Event" didn't even want to reach out to the people who had the connections or contacts in the city. Some inclusion! With all the issues that the previous Gay Pride had (let's not be naive) still we had the city mayor, the police and other influential organizations in the city participating. Now it's just a bunch of kids running around like an unatended Kindergarten. I also see the same disruptive effect even in the media that once was dedicated to the entire community. I see editorials that had derogatory words towards the older generation of the LGBT. "Eff you if you don't like us", or something to that effect. That was form a once award-winning newspaper for the community. All in all, there's always been bickering and disagreement in this "community", but what I see today is more than that, it falls into extremism, the same attitude and culture of the religious right, only with a different theme.

I saw the acronym now including numbers I saw a 2 and 4 included in the acronym. It's ridiculous. Funny thing is that it gets more and more divided and consequently divisive, which doesn't clarify what the end game is supposed to be. I hate the term queer, I dispise it in fact. Don't care for it much. It's common, accepted and used as a replacement for "gay". Apparently the rationale behind it is that "gay" is supposed to refer only to gay men (not sure when that happened). The way I see it is that extremism is present in every aspect of society, and the way things seem to be going are towards extremism in the community (I use the term "community" losely). For example, the UK now has a "National Pronouns Day". At first I thought that was a joke, then I thought that it was sponsored by Sesame Street, but no. They have a day to celebrate pronouns, whatever that means, not sure what is that supposed to accomplish or how different that is supposed to be from any other event. Extremism seems to be taking over, and I don't care much for it. Growing up, I never let my homophobic family, school, community, or church define me or tell me what label I should wear. I'm not letting the LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ, or whatever they keep adding, do that either. I say who and what I am, and I decide what my community is and isn't, nobody else. I stopped paying attention to all of it. It's all extremist nonsense to me.