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I know that you;re just ranting, but here are my thoughts, not necessarily advice, but more like "food for thought". If you are the one paying, you are the one who can demand how things go. It should be part of the conversation about the deal. I've had my fair share of threesomes, most of them OK, one or two amazing, and a handful that I just walked away from, precisely because of that. Some might get off feeling like the third wheel in the threesome, but I prefer them to be fully democratic. If that's your case, maybe that's something that should/can be discussed beforehand. Providers, of course can/should enjoy themselves doing their jobs, but at the end they should cater to the paying customer, ensuring the client's satisfaction, not just them. Only what we see in porn (that is, the final edited video content) is when we see that everything in the 3some happens perfectly, and it's because it's recorded, choreographed, and created precisely to give the viewer the fantasy of the perfect experience. In reality, one of the guys might like one guy more than another, one might be using the 3some as an excuse to hook up with the other (dissing the 3rd), one might not be as good as another, one might have better chemistry with another, one might be more attracted to one than the other. A good, satisfying 3some, in my experience, doesn't happen in perfect harmony, or spontaneously. There has to be communication, agreement, and maybe even compromise beforehand. In a provider setting, IMO, it should be part of the arrangement discussion.

I'm with all of you. Not sure I buy it. Seems more like an attempt at celebrity victimhood.

In that case, bubble wrap it.

I've checked most-to-all of my clothing, including my phone and never had a problem. Sometimes, I keep my ID, card and some cash and place it inside my sneakers. I bring a minimum. Never had a problem losing belongings.

Hopefully the good experience gives you some hope that the bad ones will weed out.

The look AI-generated, actually.

Why is this turning me on?

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Really? You truly think that a generation is at fault is at fault here? Last time I checked, the VOTERS are the ones who choose if/who to vote. Californians age 55 and older make up 35% of the state’s adult population but constitute half (50%) of likely voters. So where are the younger people? That's right, complaining and expecting things to just happen to them instead of actually getting involved and voting. Message: MOVE YOUR ASS AND VOTE. If not, then don't cry, complain or blame others.

I'm glad that things turned out better than expected. I agree with what others posted. First, it's up to you if you want to continue, keeping in mind that he will continue seeing clients and I guess you are ok with that. Second, still being on the lookout for him not getting you involved and later extort you, want to recruit you (actually, are you open to that yourself?) or ask for money. I'd keep enjoying things as they are and let things evolve and unravel as time passes. One of my masseurs hinted me on wanting to see me outside the provider/client setting, so it's possible for that to happen. However, I ended that relationship altogether for unrelated reasons, so I didn't spend extra time, didn't go out with him outside his studio, but had some communication that was more social in nature. He also told me that he has been on dates and have been mistreated as soon as they found what he does for a living. Escorts and masseurs are human and have social lives like all of us, but some people seem to have an issue with dating or getting romantically involved with a person in that line of work. If you are ok with it, I don't see why not letting things evolve (with caution, like with any other people we date).

I mean, not to be a smart ass, but you guys advertise as, escorts, that's what the word actually means, to accompany someone. Think of it as people who go to peep show places to actually buy DVDs.

From Phoenixville? Who knew? I'll ask my in-laws.

Thanks for the visual help. I guess I'm running out of imagination.

I can attest to that being possible. I tried a 4-hand massage and it didn't do it for me. I'm not against the concept, but it wasn't anything I cared for. In my case I stopped it (politely, didn't want to create an unsavory situation). I felt crowded. Yes, the filters in the websites help with at least sifting through those who are clueless by not having any kind of certification.

I don't know if this is a "technique", but I do a combination of what most people have posted. If I see that the masseur also has a profile in rentmen, chances are that he will either offer more extras than massage, or might offer to up-sell the massage for extras. If the profile's rates say "Ask", I look at the reviews, and the rates can give me a clue of what people are really paying for. The rest is just my own intuition, and the masseur's credentials. RM has a filter for certified masseurs only, and that should screen out those that are less qualified for quality massages. I once reached out to a masseur that in the text was very clear and descriptive of what he offered and his rates: $XY for massage only, $XYZ for massage, some play and HE, and $XYZABCDEFG for everything in the book. That takes away the "thrill", but sometimes is useful to have a clue of what to expect. I think communication and directly asking can help too. I imagine they should not be offended for asking about expectations. I'm sure that they know what kind of site they are in.

Sorry, but I still fail to see anything remotely related to an anus there. The bigger question (at least to me) is, why does that matter anyway? If it looks like an anus, or if it was intentionally created to look like an anus, what then?

Good God! We all need therapy after this discussion.

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Just my thoughts, not law: I think that for as long as we are men, especially the gay kind, we are always going to like the thrill of the unknown. I also think that in a massage setting, the masseur has the upper hand and can decide to give hints, as well as how far he's willing to go. Here in Spain where I'm vacationing, I scheduled a massage at the hotel where I'm staying, not a gay hotel, just a mainstream hotel that has a spa and offer massages and spa-related services. When I scheduled mine, I was asked "Chica or chico?" (girl or boy?) for the masseur. I said "Chico" because, why not? Not expecting anything other than a nice relaxing massage, as the facilities are for all kinds of hotel guests, I went to my appointment not expecting and not even having anything in my mind, other than a relaxing time at the pool, the sauna and the thermal baths. The massage time came in, they gave me this paper/disposable g-string to wear, so I wasn't "naked". A minute or two into the massage, the nice gentleman masseur pulled the paper/disposable g-string down. Half an hour into it, the masseur and I almost break the massage table having sex. The fact that it was unexpected did add to the excitement and thrill of the whole thing. However, I am 100% sure that none of that happened if it wasn't for the initiative that the masseur took. Personally I don't give hints if I don't get one first, so to me, it's up to him.

I'm right with you. I have seen plenty of anuses in my life, and none that look anything like that, nor do I know (and hope never to) of an anus of that size. That's just typical art pursuing fame by creating controversy.

I've always stayed away from the apps and hookup sites, precisely because of that type of scams, in addition to the amount of guessing that one has to do when connecting to others based on text typed and two-dimensional pictures. So it seems like yes, there are way too many risks for me to feel comfortable, about my personal information, my investments, my reputation (do I still have a good one? I wonder) and other things. It's not technology fear or illiteracy; I think it's age. I have a different overall mindset about it.

Unfortunately things have changed with the newer generation. I do remember there been groups for people exactly like you, gay men in heterosexual marriages. They were support groups, but they also have social venues. And of course, they were not hookups nor sexual in nature. I found the psychotherapy network web page that might have information on it: The Gay Man in the Straight Marriage WWW.PSYCHOTHERAPYNETWORKER.ORG Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He set his bags down, gently put his... And the National Library of Medicine has a study: Gay men from heterosexual marriages: attitudes, behaviors, childhood experiences, and reasons for marriage - PubMed PUBMED.NCBI.NLM.NIH.GOV In the current study, the attitudes, behaviors and experiences of 26 gay or bisexual men who were married to a woman are examined. Data are provided on... Not specifically for men who are in your situation, but Philadelphia has the LGBT Elder Initiative, which can provide resources for your particular situation: Seniors — William Way Community Center WWW.WAYGAY.ORG I think your approach to ignoring negativity is great, but it might depend on what you consider negative. Sometimes there are things that are not attacks, just things we don't like hearing. Best wishes.

Personally, I see no reason to not be nice when using RM for messaging, at least that's my rule. I'm not sure what you mean by "it's one service connecting you to providers". Yes, the very existence of RM is to connect clients with providers and manage all the logistics around it.

The entrance fee is €21. You get a locker, and the locker number is what they use to charge for things like a VIP room or drinks at the bar. The pay-for-play with the guys is what's negotiable. They propose a rate and you take it from there. Most approached me offering me a massage, not sure if that's the common practice. It's not a set rate. They make a proposition and you decide/negotiate. One asked me for €150, another asked for €70. I don't think there's any criteria, other than what you might look to them.

I went twice in the past two weeks. I'm currently vacationing in Barcelona. The first time I went was on a Tuesday afternoon and it was pouring rain. The place was not too full of people, and there were mostly young guys, but none of them I could characterize as muscular. Also, I didn't see a single one from Spain, if that matters to you. I hooked up with a young guy from the Dominican republic and got the worst BJ I've ever had in my life. He did seem very inexperienced at everything, from the moment he approached me, immediately offered me a considerable discount from the rather overpriced rate, and he was just awkward. Left after that because the place didn't feel right for me. The second time was in the early evening, and there were many guys to choose from, some muscular, but most twink types, with one or two with a few strings of grey. That time I had a "massage" with a nice young Colombian man who actually knew well how to give massages. The extras were just ok. Didn't up-sell for more. Then after that I got a nice young Cuban man. I don't know what to say about this, maybe it was what I was projecting or who knows what, but the session felt more like a therapy session. We literally stopped to start talking about anxiety medication, his past addiction treatment and my OCD. If that was a trick for him to get the money without any action, who knows. However, I did take some time to talk to him at the bar before going into a room. He told me that the vast majority of his clients there don't talk much and go "to the point". Who knows. There were many other guys who look really good, and they were diverse in type, role and physical appearance. The facilities are good, rates are up for negotiation, guys are friendly and not pushy (they get the "no" right away if you say no). However, it seems like the muscle guys expect to be approached. Not a one went to anyone asking for anything, at least when I was there. The address of the place is easy to find and feels like a safe neighborhood, and the process of entering and paying is easy. All-in-all is a good place. I'm still evaluating if it is for me. This is my first time trying a place like this in my entire life, so I personally wouldn't count my experience as something that is what usually one can get in a place like that. Just my two cents.