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What is legal thing (or policy) to say in RM? That's what they have to post there. Or they leave it vague on purpose so the client can inquire and get specifics.

Don't be harsh on yourself. It can mean all of the above or none of the above. There really isn't a specific definition to it. My best guess is that he might be telling you that he's willing to let you get your way with him. It can also mean that he wants to continue whatever type of arrangement or relationship you have where he will not be a burden to you, It's not that deep. I've been told that and finidng out what that means in a more hands-on way has been part of the fun.

Not exactly. One of my providers is not a clock watcher, and I have been with him way after the agreed time. There was this one time when he seem to have forgotten about a client after me, and though I didn't see him, seems like there was a little overlap. I don't feel awkward if a person sees me leaving or arriving to/from a provider. I know that that's just me. I prefer to maintain privacy and confidentiality, but if people know, I don't care too much about it, I'm not ahsamed. People who talk and gossip and judge are the ones who should be ashamed of stepping into others' private business. As for "gross", why? Some people in my generation went to hospitals where we had thermometers who were in somebody's butt put in our mouths. They have been sterilized prior to it, but yes, some of us got thermometers in our mouths that had been in another person's anal cavity. Is it gross to think of that? Of course. Is it harmful? No. It's one of those things that we prefer not to know or think about. In my case, I am ok with it. I know exactlky what (and who) I am getting into when I agree to see a provider. Besides, it's not that I am a virgin when I go to see him.

Morboso means more and differnt things than what you state, of course. It also means thrill seeker, and like in English, it's also a medical term. Additionally, it's used in a sexual content, as meaning uninhibited, which not necessarily means kinky. It could also mean attraction or willingness to delve into the forbidden, whatever that means. Of course it can mean kinky, but not necessarily, It's a mistake to think that equivalent words in one language are used exactly the same way that they are used in English, or in any other language for that matter. It's a common mistake that sometimes English speakers make and look ridiculous using certain words in other languages, thinking that they can use it as they use them in their native tongue. The way I see it, Spanish speakers use "morbo" as widely as English speakers use their own common terms ("personable", "friendly" "wild in the sheets", etc.) Just a filling expression (IMO). As much as some of us might love to get kinky with some of them, I'm not sure that's what they all mean. Interesting observation.

I find the topic interesting, and although I don't know that person, I find it a good reading. To me it's just news. If somebody doesn't care for it, I don't see the point of having so much discussion about it. It's like having a dysfunctional boyfriend constantly calling to tell me that he's not talking to me. I like the topic, I like hearing news that I deem interesting, relevant or important. If I give a "who cares" statement (as I have in other threads), that's normally the extend of it. Keeping it in the topic, I think it's good that the public ingeneral is informed about same sex attraction in professional sports, especially among men athletes. We see many news of hetero males involved in similar accusations, but not as commonly in same-sex relations. Down the line (I think) there might be more to this story.

More likely than not you don't know. That's kind of the point of blocking you, letting you go and you figure it out. It can become a sensitive topic. Some people do not handle rejection too well, and in some instances it can escalate into violence and stalking. A psycho who gets a message of being blocked might react violently and might cause harm to the person who blocked.

There's a "block number" option in your phone list of contacts or in your call history, There's no message telling you that you have been blocked.

Took some time. Still, this lawsuit is going to follow him for some time. Thanks for the follow up.

Regardless, if he blocked you, leave him alone. As of 2024, there are 4,103,612,213 males in the world. You can skip that one.

What an interesting read this thread has become. I love this conversation. I don't see a lot of consensus, but I personally have learned a few things. My own position about BB/condom use is similar to some of those who have posted here. I personally don't judge other clients who prefer a higher level of protection. That said, I don't think is realistic to expect no (or minimal) risk while hiring people who are in a high-risk area of work. To me is more a matter of "comfort" (what you believe your appropriate level of risk is). I also agree with the recommendation that if you are comfortable using condoms, bring some yourself, It's better to have extra than not having any.

This is what I know: 1. Most places, including adult movie theatres, peep shows and bars in NJ that I've been to, especially those who have women of any kind, either as employees or features live or in porn, are heavily guarded and monitored for activities that go against their policies. 2. A lot, and I mean a lot of gay men exaggerate and overinflate what goes on (if anything) in places, probably in an attempt at attracting people to go there. I've been reading exaggerated charcaterizations of places since the 90s. It baffles me why some gay men do that, but some just do. 3. Every single time I've heard of any spa-type of place with some kind of sexual harassment, misconduct or assault acussations, rumors or actual proven cases, it's always been places where hetero people and/or women go or are employed. That has been the case in USA and in countries other than USA. Of course, this is only my experience (and in no way am I implying that sexual misconduct and unwanted sexual advances don't occur among gay men). 4. Many places that cater men only, but that want to offer a relaxing, non-sexual experience have facilities monitored, exposed and as public as possible. Most of the times it's to prevent some idiot who can't be discrete ruining it for everybody, or because some idiot who can't be discrete has already runied it for everybody,

The website doesn't look too organized or informative. Looks like it's not being managed properly. Never used it because it doesn't look right for me.

I missed all of the previous threads and comments. I'm glad I did if they were body shaming you, You certainly have nothing to be ashamed of. You are stunning. Welcome and best wishes.

Thanks for sharing. Not my type at all, and maybe that's why I feel similar to the way you do. I'm not looking for that type, and it seems like every other profile is a person of that type. Maybe is some kind of confirmation bias in our searches. Best.

Now you know what he was seeking. Never a pleasant situation, but better that it ends sooner than later.

Short answer: it's always a risk, personally my policy is no cash upfront. Best wishes.

Depends what for. If it's hire just for sex, I can't care less about the level of maturity, for as long as there is cognition enough to understand consent and the deal. I've always been terrible at flirting, so in that respect, the level of maturity of the other person doesn't necessarily place a role. I imagine you didn't get a response that made you want to continue the conversation. Just one of those live and learn things. Normally I just move on. Plenty of people out there.

I do. In fact, I've worked for a non-profit that serves a lot of people from that demographic. I don't see what point is that supposed to make, one way or another, Is that supposed to imply that I know nothing about people in that demographic because I don't talk to them or something? In any event, here is my stance on this: What I said about it is only supporting information of my point in my comment I am not interested in discussing this matter, as it is not going to go anywhere I am not interested in convincing anyone of my beliefs about it, and not interested in anyone's convictions about it I am entitled to my opinion about it, so I will express it as I see it fit If anyone is offended by it - go fuck yourself (now you have a real reason to be offended) If you have to clarify that you ignore my impoliteness, you don't. Now back to the actual original topic. Through the years I've seen many fake "straight" men posting that that's their sexual orientation. Because of that, and due to time passing and later seeing those men in and outside of porn with boyfriends and in Gay Prode marches, I guess that the "straight" label might not be as useful as it used to be, I am only guessing since I personally don't look for that type of sexual orientation when hiring.

I do see a mess, inconsistent, arbitrary, non-research based, and a lot of it downright made-up bullshit.

I agree with you 100%. I hate, hate, hate seeing masked men in porn. I get it, some might want/need to concel their identity, but I just don't like it, no matter how hot he is or how he moves. It's off-putting to me.

About the "straight man" thing, I see many clients attracted to straight (or to the claim to be) from providers. No judgement, nothing wrong with having a preference. Since I don't look for those (I see absolutely nothing wrong or inferior in perfectly fine gay men, some quite fine, actually), I don't notice if there is a decrease in availability in younger ones. The newer generation has created a mess regarding gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, gender expression, sex assigned at birth and blah blah blah, at-nauseam. I wouldn't be surprised if some actually struggle with what to put in their profile about their sexual orientation. Seems like they have a different mindset. So don't be surprised if you see a female who "identifies as a straight man" with a RM profile. Just signs of the time.

I agree with all that attitude matters, but I also know that being nice, friendly and even having good chemistry doesn't necessarily mean quality experience. Attitude is only one of several things that matter to me.

I have some who have reached out to me, who I have no interest in rehiring. I've texted them back simply saying that I am currently not looking for a masseur, and that I will reach out if I decide to hire him again. That did the trick for me. In other instances with other services, when I find pushy people, I increase the level of directness and unpoliteness until they get it. There's no need to be nasty right way if there's a chance that he will get the message when told nicely.

OK, we'll behave.