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Let him know (if you are willing to move the appointment) that you are willing to wait for him to be ready for you. How exactly, I'm not sure, but you should have a comfortable, private and discreet experience.

He has a WhatsApp account, so you can have a video call with him, that will give you proof that he exists, looks like in his profile and at least that part is real. Not a guarantee about not being a scam, but it helps.

Nothing like I've read, I saw a masseur in Puerto Vallarta, and I had a great time with him, but when I returned he was all business, no extras. later in the year when I returned, he was no longer at the place where I met him. The rest of the year was rather uneventful in that respect.

Details? How was he rude?

Thank you. Count on me for it.

In NYC, I dare to say that it's more than that (at least in my experience). As a person who has been to this type of venues in many cities around the world, there's definitely what you mentioned, but in NYC is part of the culture, it's expected, it's ever present. Many people there just posing and being seen by others, and that's it. There's no "strategy" in what I see there. The funniest moment around the posing thing that I experienced was at the now gone west side club where there was almost one person per room just standing there by their room doors, looking stupid, and suddenly in the background they played Madonna's Vogue. I and a few others looked at each other and couldn't stop laughing, plus that was my cue for me to just leave the place.

Enjoy. Please do share how it goes.

I remember going there once, and I can't judge a place for only one time. The facilities are conducive of what it's intended for. It' a sex club, but as my experience has always been in sex clubs in NYC, it's always jammed packed... with attitude. People are just there posing, looking stupid.

I've heard of it, never cared for it, and people who like to be on the receiving end of it should use their financial resources to get therapy.

There are many right and wrong ways of asking. Though others have pointed at the way you asked, I also have to point at the way the masseur takes your communication. I have been rejected by masseurs when I have inquired, and I have done it in the exact same way some here suggest, and pasting the exact same words in the initial text. Is this the first time you reach out to a masseur? If not, has this time been differently in the way you initiated the conversation? There's never going to be a perfect way of communicating. As others suggest, look into the way you inquire, but also be aware that the masseur himself might take it differently than its original intent. There's no guarantee either way. I'd just move on to the next. Just make sure that your 50% of the conversation is right and adequate.

To add to the weirdness, the ad is now gone.

If he's still in Havana when I'm there, I reach out to him.

Not my thing (officially), but I posted this: Not something I consider, but not against it either.

Interesting statistics. Right on time for my 2025 travel plans.

If you have the means and interest, I'm sure you can have a good idea of what a fair compensation is. Be ethical about it.

The way I see it: In Facebook, everybody is happy In X, everybody is right In LinkedIn, everybody is a big shot expert In Grindr and RM, everybody has a big one

One of my favorite providers in Mexico has a partner, and what's more, according to him, his partner is not fully aware of what he really does for a living. I also know providers who have children and girlfriends. It's their lives and their prerogative to decide what to do with them. I think it's a little naive to expect that providers are these lonely people or single men who don't have a life and love outside of their business. People are people. Furthermore, why being a provider should be a source of guilt? And why should that be my business as a client? Speaking of clients, how many clients aren't out there who have partners, children, wives, or belong to conservative organizations that go against what they are doing with a provider? The heart and soul of this business is precisely around things that people do "on the side". Like others mentioned, I'd look into why knowing the provider having a partner makes your react. No judgement (ok, some judgement), but not meant to be an attack to you, more as some insights on this topic.

Th I don't do deposits. If that means I cannot see a given provider, then so be it. It's a deal breaker to me. This is one of those things that don't have a solution, it's going to continue being a challenge for both the providers and the clients. I can suggest that you can try asking for deposits and then see if there's a benefit to your business, or if it's impacted positively or negatively. I see no harm in trying to protect your business as a provider and then seeing if it results in something beneficial to you. There will be clients like me who will skip providers requiring deposits, but there will be some who have no problem with it. As you and others stated, your reputation might help clients feel comfortable providing you with a deposit. There's no one solution to this on either side. We're all going to do what's best to protect ourselves and our assets. Best.

I "reach out", but not aggressively. Never had a rejection. The thing with massages is that there really isn't any standard practice or signal. If you feel the vibes, especially if you're not expecting any, chances are it's ok to "reach out". The worst that can happen is that he might place your hand back in place and continue the massage.

Don't hire him, then, and look for one who will be willing to send you pictures. I never ask for pictures. The ones in the websites suffice for me to get a sense of what to expect. I haven't come across a profile without any pictures, so I don't feel any need to ask for any. Size, circumcision status, girth, body hair (or lack thereof) or Peyronie's disease are not of importance to me at all. I've had fun with all kinds. The only physical attribute that might make me think twice is height. I don't prefer guys who are much taller then me.

I guess it depends on the person. I happen to have done work with the ex-offender population, and in that respect I see no difference between people with criminal records and people who don't have a criminal record. The first thing that come to mind is that there are people out there with no criminal record who deserve to be in prison; they just haven't been caught. Second, there's a difference between having a record and being a repeat offender. Then there's the type of offense that the individual has a record for. I wouldn't care if the person has a record for prostitution, for example. If I can, I ask for details. I also am aware that hiring involves a level of risk in terms of personal safety. That all means that to me, the simple fact that a provider has been to prison is something to maybe inquire about details, but not necessarily a deal breaker. I'm not into the "bad boy" fantasy, but I have seen how appealing being in prison has been to many gay men I know.

Difficult to tell if it's age related in the physical sense, or if it's related to the fact that our needs change as we age, or if it's that after some time things can become redundant. Aside from the physical changes that our bodies go through as we age, have you noticed any change in your views, interests, what matters to you? Maturing does contribute to how we approach and or perceive things and events. Also there's the type of guys that you might feel drawn to. I've known so many of use that love "the forbidden fruit", which sometimes turns to be not as satisfying as we picture it in our minds. Some providers are excellent at making the client feel at ease. It might be a matter of being more picky when looking for a provider. There are definitely providers who seem to think that being old and wanting sex is reason for them to up their prices, but there are some who are not of that mindset. I don't think that not hiring anymore for being 60 is a solution to anything. Maybe taking a break for self care is a healthy thing to do, but just not hiring in that manner doesn't sound healthy. Just my thoughts, not law.

Thank you.

I don't care if I have to go out on the street naked to call the cops. If I am held at a place against my will, I will call the cops. I'm not ashamed of them knowing that it's a HE place. They should be ashamed of their criminal activity, especially if they are the ones trying to upsell, which is prostitution.