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Lmfao as a 5’3 guy, it’s hilarious how some guys have no perception of how the number translates to a human… so many guys have told me I was shorter than they were expecting 🤣

Thank you! Part of the reason I hooked up with the undetectable guy in the first place was in an effort to actively fight the stigma in my mind (previously a poz status had been an automatic “no”). I felt comfortable/safe with the science in my brain before the hookup, but not after the fact subconsciously.

Woooofff 🤤 Just buddylisted him even though he’s not in NYC…

Yes, it’s inherently dangerous in that you’re alone (and often in a vulnerable position) with a stranger! He could rob you, hurt you, or even kill you! And beyond that, the potential embarrassment and/or illegality that comes with the encounter makes it less likely for the client to report the crime. My vetting process on Grindr involved chatting over the course of several days. My vetting process with an escort would involve ensuring he has multiple reviews by people who gave other reviews on RM and on here. The reviews don’t necessarily have to be positive but it’s important that he look like his pics and not be deceitful. For the one escort I have met, I was able to figure out his real-life identity and confirm that he was a real person with friends, family, etc.

You’re not alone! I once had a very very mild/vanilla hookup with a guy who was undetectable… I was too scared to go anywhere near his cum, and my mind was racing for weeks afterwards, thinking that I could have caught something just from making out with him (what if we both had cuts in our mouths and he didn’t take his meds, etc). This fear of STIs in general has essentially made me celibate for the last few years. I know my fear after that particular encounter was illogical, but I can’t deny that I had it and have to accept that it’s best for my mental health to simply avoid.

Now I see what you mean! They are both significant differences but not comparable to each other.

You don’t think a 33% increase over the span of two years qualifies as “sky rocketing”? How much do you think wages have gone in that same span of time? Per the US inflation calculator, the increase from 2022 from 2024 should be 7.1%.

Omfg, who is he???

Agreed, restaurant prices in NYC have skyrocketed, especially in the last couple of years. The other day, a basic dinner for two in a casual Chinese restaurant was $80! Two years ago, the exact same meal was less than $60. Since food is where I spend the bulk of my income, I have been hit particularly hard.

The waste of time (and phone storage) is why I deleted Grindr a few weeks ago and Scruff a few months ago… just not worth it.

I totally see what you mean- I should have clarified that there are certain pictures in which I look the same and others I do not… it depends on lots of factors like angle, lighting, haircut, attire, etc.

I haven’t seen this movie but now want to. Both guys are very hot… Galitzine in the footage of “Mary and George” with darker hair is stunningly handsome imo. He’s not as striking with the lighter hair in RWARB.

Exactly! The thing is, I wouldn’t have minded the outdated picture if he still looked basically the same, just a little older… but quite a bit changed since that picture. I know I have pictures of myself from around 10 years ago in which I look basically the same as I do now.

I wouldn’t call any of these “horror stories”, but do have some negative experiences that come to mind. Pre-pandemic, when I was actively looking to meet guys on Grindr, I was picky as to who I would message/respond to and then would vet hookups by chatting on and off for at least a few days prior to meeting. I was lucky to have never been in a dangerous situation, due in part to these measures. Anyway, here are some of these negative experiences: 1- A cute guy invites me to come to his place for a hookup. A few minutes before I arrive at his place, he sends a pic of his (slightly less cute) husband and asks if he can join us. I say yes despite not generally being into three-ways. When I arrive, the guy I had been messaging looks about 20 years older and 50 pounds heavier than his pics, but the husband looks like his pic so I went through with it. I honestly didn’t have a terrible time, but guys sending outdated and/or edited pics became a theme (which I won’t go into since it’s self-explanatory). 2- I’m giving a hot guy a bj in his living room and his (likely Orthodox Jewish female) roommate walks in, screams, and runs out. 3- Another theme: guys I [think I] have a great time with blocking me seconds after I leave. Or better yet, blocking me or stopping responding/not giving an exact address right before we’re about to meet (I once waited on a guy’s corner for almost an hour before I realized he had ghosted me despite making plans). 4- I see a guy on Grindr who appears to be incredibly close, like 50 feet away. I’m intrigued and we hit it off. He then sends a face pic which I am not remotely attracted to, so I block him. The very next day, we got on my building’s elevator together. What an introduction to a new neighbor! 5- This one was completely my fault and I wonder if this guy could have become a boyfriend had our first encounter gone differently. He was gorgeous and our chemistry via messaging was amazing. In a nutshell, he asked if I could meet him for a quick drink and I should have said “not today” instead of “yes”… I arrived at the bar very sweaty/unkempt from a particularly physical day of work and didn’t realize I only had a few dollars in my wallet. I fortunately noticed the latter before I ordered so only got a water. I proceeded to be judgmental of my date for drinking “heavily” before his work function (I was an innocent 22 so my perception of heavy drinking was skewed). I then walked my date to his function and he gave me a kiss on the cheek (which I could still feel), but I knew I’d never see him again. Despite knowing his (relatively common) full name and vocation, I have not been able to track him down to apologize and ask for a second chance.

When I logged back in a few days ago, all but one of my messages had disappeared… I assumed it was because I had not logged in in several months. It definitely had nothing to do with number of messages since I only had a handful in the first place.

As a 100% gay guy, I must say that the most passionate kisser I have ever been with (and in my top three for best chemistry in general) was a bi guy. ETA: he was not a provider.

No, I’ve only had one encounter since posting this and chickened out- I ended up just licking his shaft a little… I do plan on using a flavored condom for my next encounter but would obviously have to 1- buy one and be prepared with it! 2- ask the provider before putting it on him.

I’m sure his masculinity, like everyone else’s, depends on context and the situation… how “masc” could you be with a dick in an orifice?

Very very handsome… I’d like to see him with less or no facial hair.

Wow!! I just buddylisted him despite his being a total top and not having kissing selected lol

Absolutely! The relationship to COVID is that it has made me more fearful of sickness in general. Agreed, that’s one of the main reasons I started looking into seeing professionals.

My thoughts exactly, and the main reason I’ve only had two hookups in the last year (one escort, one via Grindr). I have become increasingly terrified of STIs since the pandemic, and despite having never barebacked in my life (and barely fucked at all), I’m reluctant to start using condoms for oral. And on top of things, I’m a makeout monster (can’t fathom having a hookup without heavy kissing), and back when I was hooking up with slightly more regularity, I would get strep throat at least once a year… lord knows what I would get now.

Just came across this gorgeous guy’s profile: https://rent.men/Orion_xl

A friend of mine has sleep apnea and was not able to tolerate the CPAP. A combination of being retired and thus able to sleep with a less rigid schedule and losing a few pounds has somewhat improved her condition.

He is so fucking sexy https://www.backstage.com/magazine/article/nicholas-galitzine-the-idea-of-you-interview-photoshoot-77193/