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It has only happened to me once that I could tell a provider was not remotely attracted to me (not the same guy/situation I mentioned earlier). In my case, I was eventually able to figure out that the reason was one entirely out of my control.

Yes, wear whatever is comfortable and easy to quickly take off/put on! Whatever makes you feel sexy but is also logistically appropriate. I’m sure you already have, but make sure that the provider knows he will be with a woman so he can prepare accordingly… there’s really nothing you can do in that regard beyond making his expectations as clear as possible. Re hygiene: one thing that I now know to do if my appointment is not in the morning, is to use mouthwash or brush my teeth right before the appointment (I had a bad experience with a provider once because he “felt sick” after kissing me, and I later found out it was because I hadn’t thought of taking mouthwash with me to or brushing my teeth at work…).

Yes, advance research (including hours of operation) is key! I used to go on road trips with relatives, and my aunt was an expert at this sort of planning- she would do a lot of research and find specific restaurants en route to our destination to eat lunch and dinner, and then would plan the “travel day” around getting to these specific restaurants at an appropriate time to eat these meals.

Wooooof, this man is a walking wet dream

So handsome!

I’m frankly not hot enough to escort, and even if I were, I would be terrible at it because of my fear of STIs, lack of sexual experience/skill, and general prudence… but yes, I have absolutely thought about it in a “what if” context.

It’s funny, I’m a 100% gay millennial and am not generally a social person (and don”t date), but I do prefer to connect with hookups beyond sexually and am now friends on Facebook with both of the hookups I had the best chemistry with.

What incredible definition!

I finally got to see this- a few points: Audra’s vocals were exactly what I expected. I have always loved the richness of her chest voice/lower register, and she delivered. Transitions to head voice were not at all awkward, though I didn’t think some of the key modulations within songs were necessary. Audra’s acting was also excellent- her take on the role was similar to my memory of Bernadette’s performance. On that note, I wouldn’t say she did anything revolutionary with the role… she just gave a very layered, nuanced, thoughtful, and moving performance. Having now seen her, Nicole, and Jasmine, I’d honestly be happy with any of them winning the Tony. They all gave outstanding, deserving performances. Danny Burstein was far and away my favorite Herbie that I’ve seen- he truly made me understand how/why he fell for Rose and vice-versa. Joy Woods was also wonderful and completely believable in the transformation/arc of her character. There was a moment in the first part of “The Strip” where I could see her starting to enjoy it- this was a key moment that made the shift to the next part less abrupt. The supporting cast was uniformly phenomenal, including some understudies. It was nice to see a fully fleshed-out physical production. I actually thought the orchestra wasn’t loud enough and needed more “umph”. I don’t think I have thought that about any Broadway show ever (usually if anything, the orchestra is overpowering), but maybe I’m spoiled by the expectation of a very brassy sound for this score.

Right, unless I’m reading the graph incorrectly, the implication is that over 15% of people in West Hollywood are male escorts… that is not possible.

Exactly, and from down here I can barely tell the difference, so why lie? At that, any guy over like 5’10 is gonna be towering over me.

Totally, but unfortunately this homophobia is so deeply embedded in society that it is the default assumption even in accepting (or fellow gay) company.

He knew I was nervous and was definitely waiting for me to initiate. There was also no natural chemistry (I could tell immediately he was not attracted to me), so the entire encounter was kind of awkward. All that said, I did have a great time and don’t generally regret it.

It’s exactly the argument you’re mentioning that makes my point- society associates “gay” with “sex”; “straight” is considered the default so is not thought of in as sexual a manner. Literally every single person I have come out to has asked a followup question about or relating to my sex life… even if the question is something seemingly innocent like “how do you know?”, the answer would be inherently sexual (“I know because I get aroused when I see a handsome man, not a beautiful woman”).

My regret from my first time with a provider (just over a year ago; you’re not alone) was not verbally asking for what I wanted sooner- he had clearly read and understood what I had written, but when the time came was more go-with-the-flow and we didn’t do certain activities until the session was almost over and I realized I would have to ask for it. Your coworkers probably won’t see him entering or exiting your room unless they are nearby. If they do, you can easily make up something like that he is a friend who lives in the area visiting your room to catch up.

Yes, Bozo did exactly the right thing. Just the act of inviting him to a hotel (let alone following through) would have implied ulterior motives even if there were none.

Exactly! Something about it just feels wildly inappropriate to talk about/nobody’s business. I wouldn’t ask a straight friend about their sex life; why should they know about mine?

I wouldn’t say I’m “out” or “in”- I don’t come across as obviously gay to the vast majority of people, but some people definitely know. If anything, I probably come across as asexual (think Sheldon Cooper), but I frankly don’t presume anyone to be thinking of my sexuality at all. It actually mostly depends on context- there are only a handful of people I have told outright, so they are the only ones that know for sure. Otherwise, the majority of my family/family friends and my coworkers from my day job assume I’m straight, while my coworkers from my side jobs (in largely gay fields) and acquaintances from these fields assume I’m gay, although there have been instances during which certain cohorts assumed I was straight (which was hilarious given the context). Philosophically, I don’t like the idea of “coming out” because it places an emphasis on an aspect of my life that is very minor and doesn’t impact anyone I am not pursuing a romantic/sexual relationship with. Beyond that, coming out to my mother was extraordinarily difficult and painful, and I don’t wish to have to go through that again, nor do I believe I should have to with anyone else.

I don’t think I worded that clearly enough- I meant that it’s not realistic for a client to expect a provider to turn down another client for any reason. For example, it is not realistic for me to expect a provider to turn down a poz client.

That’s great to hear coming from an escort!!

Absolutely, any business owner has the right to run their business as they see fit and set proper boundaries, but that also means that they would have to be willing to turn down potential paying customers, which is not a realistic expectation from the rest of us as clients. My point is that the financial component changes the dynamic from it being a regular Grindr etc hookup.

I totally see where you’re coming from and know I have stuff to work on, but I think the “ick factor” would still be present if it were a woman/vagina. I was raised Jewish and the only shame I carry tied to being gay is that I will not be able to live a traditional lifestyle with a wife/kids/etc. I HATE the label “queer” and you may not self-identify as such, but others would say that anyone who is not 100% straight is “queer”. PrEP has never been said to be 100% effective. It also hasn’t been around long enough for anyone to truly know the long-term effects.

Totally! This is part of why I hire: providers are more likely to be more cognizant of their sexual health. But the second somebody BBs with anyone after getting a test, it renders the previous test invalid. Exactly. Even if there was no health risk, there’s just something “icky” about it to me.

True! But my point is that providers have a different vetting process from other guys.