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Was having a lunch conversation with a friend who knows I escort on the side . A question came up about "first impression" by the client (and by me, interestingly) and how "first impressions" can affect the course of events with business. My thought that "escorting" is like any business. You want to make a favorable impression initially by being on time, clean, appropriate attire and a respectful approach. "Clean" as an escort means no drugs, physically clean and a "clean" choice of verbiage. Actually not much different than any kind of business one partakes, except that a good impression means "clean" a little deeper (so to speak). What about from the viewpoint of a provider? I see new and repeat clients and most are educated professionals. Most treat me as I treat them, but not always. A client that is on drugs is a no go, significant drinking isn't a good look. Dirty hygiene isn't attractive. Once in a while the booking can end at the door, but I've found most clients (especially those who hire) are quite aware of their own need to make a great impression. Thoughts?

Well to start with, I think it wise to remember that you will really have varied responses based on experience and where we live. In some areas not having a car would be kind of strange, but in others, a car is not needed and is almost an "extra" that isn't needed. I have several vehicles, but I wouldn't judge someone on not having or owning one. There might be a valid reason. The OP here just may not have need for a car since he lives in the City center. I personally thought it was gutsy that he ask the OP to come get him. I'd move on rather quickly.

If you don't have someone who is mature and responsible about their actions, I'd move along. If you are contacting someone who views the job as an escort in a professional context you will know.... and certainly the opposite.

Well to begin, don't let anyone make you feel awkward for staying with family, no matter what your age. If you are working and contributing to the household, you have nothing to apologize for. That said, living alone can be very healthful. You make decisions about your home, your stuff, how you want to live and aren't obligated to others. If it bothers you, and you can afford an apartment or home. Rent or buy one and have family come stay WITH YOU (are even get a roommate at your own place! Much to consider. I love having my own house, but I had to take responsibility early, but with years of school, I lived "at home" until my early 30's. I worked my butt off contributing as my mother passed when I was 24 and my Dad had some health problems. Good luck with whatever you choose. You don't have to ever prove or explain anything to other people.

So yesterday, I received notification that it had been a year since I first joined the group here on "Company of Men". I decided to reflect a few minutes and make a few comments. I remember I was surprised when I originally found this site and was eager to chat with others that escort and get input from those who hire. I viewed it as fantastic opportunity to share and get input. I remember I was impressed with the professionalism of how "Company of Men" was administered. I was moving into my new home and taking a partial break from the marketing side of escorting, so I really took some time to take it all in. Ultimately, I got back into my usual routine and with demands with my regular career were such my time here has been more limited recently. Really enjoy the site, however. I have had a couple of "poor experiences" on the forums, but everybody does. I think that is expected in any kind of discussion. People will agree and certainly disagree with you. While I'm political, I think it very wise the administration eliminated direct political commentary from the forums. I think I have seen at least some discussion on many other topics. I like the "national park" section and still need to add some input after my recent trip west and time hiking and exploring in 2 Utah parks. I hope the administrators know how much this site does mean to many here. Thank you for doing the work and I certainly appreciate being a member here. Happy Anniversary!

I think we have a pretty good choice here in the states. Variation is certainly the key. I guess I can see where the OP is getting his ideas from, perhaps that kind of man sells well in Europe. I hope there would be a choice and variation for all.

Thanks for letting us know. While I'm not here as much as initially, this is a great site overall. Most of the contributors are good people and certainly don't need issues with those who don't provide value. Don't mind reporting those who look like they are just here to create issues.

With the month of Pride coming to a close, I was curious about experience here regarding those who have witnessed some great Pride events. I know it varies from one city to another. Some Pride festivities are fantastic, other cities may have struggled a bit. What did you all witness this year and anything positive and special with which you participated? I have served on a number of non profit, municipal and other boards, Pride being one of them for a year. It seemed the board had some infighting, but the result was good overall. Thoughts?

Here's really the answer and this is the last post on will make on this matter. We all have our different perceptions of what is appropriate and what isn't given the circumstances. We are of different ages, education levels, have different focuses as to objectives and live in different areas. I'm an educated, professional, I have 3 degrees, including a professional degree (and job) which necessitates my compliance to a code of ethics. Those ethics are important to who I am. I escort as a very involved side venture and I'm comfortable doing what I do as an escort. That doesn't mean that others should do as I do or anyone here shouldn't do as they want. I was relating an experience and views I have and how I approach this intriguing side gig.

I don’t think this is rocket science. I’m a professional. I am both an escort and sex worker (and other as well). I simply have a code of ethics. Let me ask you. If you were ask to escort as an alibi for your client as a cover for the commission of a deceitful (but not illegal) act. Would you do it? What if it was illegal? I just have to ask based on the above conversation.

Odd that you would be puzzled. I prefer not to be a co conspirator in a "fantasy involving deception". Part of the thrill for him was the deception. It isn't like cheating on a spouse. Then I'm not included in the fantasy, I just do it. Here he seemed interested in including me in a deceptive plot and I have a problem with that. If you find that kind of thing acceptable, then do it, I prefer not.

Appreciate the input. Thanks very much!

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I understand where you are coming from. I think it bothered me that he was creating a fantasy to tell others. I had been involved with him for the last 2 years, suggested a profession I could pose for. I am a professional person and I do have ethics. If it was merely posing, it would be fine. To be a part of a fantasy is another.

Greetings all! Haven't been on a lot over the last couple of months with work and demands on time, but certainly miss and appreciate the site when I'm not here. So I had a perspective client as me if I would pose as his boyfriend in a social setting. I ask him to explain and it was more than just a "date for the evening" (which would be fine), rather to go with him and give the impression that we were a couple and I was his boyfriend in a serious relationship. I declined. I am not going to deceive people with my work as an escort. Thoughts?

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean. I've heard a lot of different descriptions. I largely view it as being open and flexible, including things like kissing and cuddling (but not always). Also there can be some "implied" things there, like tenderness, good communication and even (gasp) acting like a gentleman. A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

Well you sound like a very kind and generous man. It sounds like you went into with your eyes open. I certainly am not going to be the least bit critical, but to say I hope the provider knows what a favor you had done him and takes steps to recognize it by showing his appreciation by repaying some of what you loaned him. You are a good man, but please take care and don't put yourself at risk.

It does happen once in a while, but generally for a reason.

I think it all depends on how well you get to know him. In the beginning, I wouldn't feel any need to bring it up. If you get to know him and develop a friendship and a certain amount of trust (and talk about a variety of personal things), I'd probably mention that you saw his photos. As a provider, I don't have a problem talking with friends who ask about my escorting. I think it all depends on you and the kind of friendship you may have with this individual.

My rate is slightly higher than that. At $200.00, you are doing well, especially if the reviews are supportive. I'd pay the parking and not say anything. If the time is well spent, it will be worth it.

Ready for spring annuals. It has been a busy spring with non escort clients and tax season for sure. Ready to get out and with it with both annual planting and perennials. I not only have a green thumb, but a green hand as well.

Some nice photos. I think you should have a conversation with each.... and on the basis of the discussion, you will get a better idea of who would work and who should be eliminated. Good luck with all.

As a provider, I think a diligent response is always important. I say 24 hours for sure. To be responsive is to show interest in the client and in the job in general. Communication is a flow of ideas and interest. The only exception is if the provider was sick or simply unable to respond. Without it, a client should consider moving along and finding another candidate.

I concur on the fingernail (or toenail) polish. I have a client is who bisexual, and puts bright pink polish on his toenails. I always kind of chuckle, but to each his own I suppose!

So I had taken several months off from Rentmen with the construction of my home and ultimately moving in and the landscaping work. Made sure to see my regular clients, but needed additional time for my work, so I took about 6 months off. The return was a bit of a cluster. Really had a problem with my Visa card. Part of my profile was deleted and if I created a new profile, I could only use Mastercard or Bitcoin for payment. I fiddled both directions, but finally got my old profile moving. Need to replace photos, but the Visa card thing (and had several conversations with the Webmaster) took 10 attempts. Finally got it working . I still need to recreate part of the profile.