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Interesting question. I think it all depends on the circumstances with the client. "Mental issues" is an vague description. Many people have mental issues, but it doesn't impair their behavior, others have more pronounced challenges. So long as it wasn't a problem with the relationship, I would likely continue. Suicide is another issue altogether. I might encourage assistance, but I would likely recognize that I'm not in the position or trained to take much of a role. "Stay away" sounds like a cop out, but I'd likely try and encourage him to see help and keep a low, but supportive profile (depending on how well I knew the client).

I probably don't have as much to say here as others, but just say that if you didn't receive the service that you both understood, probably wise to seek out others. I wouldn't second guess the lip piercing or the bandaid on his cock. For me it would totally be about whether you received what you believed you would be paying for. If not, time for a new dude and service.

So first, a "Happy Thanksgiving" to all in the US for a great holiday and season ahead. I was pleased when a regular client offered to buy me a dinner at a very nice restaurant to show his appreciation for my services rendered. Great guy, I enjoy in depth conversations with him and always nice to be appreciated, no matter what services one is providing. While this isn't typical, I do find clients in general to be more flexible, giving and appreciative this time of year.

Well a couple of things. I would never use anything that would make you uncomfortable. It should be safe and user friendly. Now having said that, I also think you should be open to changes in society in how we pay for things. I'm not saying "Bitcoin" is the answer, but I do think it wise to educate ourselves (me included). Do not use Bitcoin or anything else until you understand what it is and how to use it properly.

I suppose it would be helpful if clients provided clarity. I get that outside of the escorting business. It may be a way of saying that they want to do it and don't want you to tell them...no, so they try and make it what seems easier. I'd provide them a couple of time options and if it doesn't work, ask, "then what works for you". Being wishy washy isn't helpful, even if their objective is to be that. Human nature I suppose.

I'm not surprised. As a provider, I bottom more than top, but I have photos that provide a complete look of who I am. I like top with a great ass. More a complete picture.

As a provider, it simply means "open to an extended session", which can be great! Long sessions can be great if the provider is into providing quality service.

Always appreciate getting tipped. It implies I did a great job and the client was more than satisfied. Very much appreciated.

Thanks for the update! Always good to hear from you. I've never done a "cross country" type of approach, so good to hear input from someone who has. I typically visit the cities RM room and converse with interested parties there to see what degree of interest comes. I always feel that I have a head start that way. If I'm not getting positive vibes, I don't go. I do have a large number of "regulars" locally, so I miss out on some of them when I travel. Have to evaluate all. I've talked at length that this is a side activity for me and I have a busy professional career otherwise, so I also have the balance of determining making money on the side with a trip (with a day(s) off from work or to stick local . So far it has been a healthy mix for me.

A great topic to revisit and get input from those who perhaps didn't see it previously. I'm on Prep and yes, bare is a part of what I do. I think it is always prudent to remember that PREP is great for HIV prevention, but does nothing for other STD's (and I realize most here already know that). I think Prep is sometimes used with the idea one becomes "invincible". I think a conversation with the client in advance helps, but they can simply lie. If you have any concerns about the attitude toward you (a lack of caring or indifference), I'd ask that a condom be a part of the mix. Be aware, if the client has open sores or something suspicious, I"d be safe. So use common sense when dealing with clients. It might not protect you, but being aware certainly helps.

This is a hard situation to assess. The guy may really need help or it could just be a scam. I would probably ask a set of questions to determine if it was legit. Has he reached out for assistance? How did he get into this condition. I think a bit of conversation will yield the answers and approach you might want to take, but I realize this might be wishful thinking. I'm not sure giving him money is really the answer, he really needs direction and assistance, regardless of his circumstances.

I don't go on the road often, but do occasionally depending on the allowances with my "day job". I spend a little time on RM in that area and try and determine measures of interest before I get there. If I can see it looks very promising, I have no problem with giving the investment of time and money to see if it pays off. Most of the time it does. I've never walked away empty handed. Always know in advance the balance of travel, hotel and what I'm losing by leaving home and the potential gain. Life is about opportunities, a prudent evaluation always makes sense.

Well I have an interesting group of "collections" for sure. For one, I have a large collection of designer underwear. Probably not that unusual for a gay dude and wear new and different ones for clients when booked. Also a large collection of "turbo speedos" from Barcelona Spain. Beyond that, I have a large collection of Ralph Lauren polo shirts and another that a family friend started me on when I was in middle school..... Department 56 "Dicken's Village" collectables. I also have art by Jesse Barnes and Terry Redlin which I relly like.

Sadly, I'm sure there are always those (provider or client) looking to "get the best deal" they can and sadly, that means trying to take advantage of another. That's just life I suppose. I've had my share of clients who tell me "all they have is....." (typically a much smaller amount than my hourly rate). If they aren't going to respect your requirements, there isn' tany reason for the conversation to continue. Always rough to hear about rude clients, I hope you weren't insulted. For me there's always a line and when the client crosses it, the conversation ends and I move on.

I wasn't aware of this event. I see I need to be clued in on some of these around the country!

I don't talk about anybody... to anybody else. Discussing and disclosing identities of one to another is a breech of ethics. And yes, you can have (and one should expect) ethics in this business when it comes to privacy, especially. Without that, reputations will suffer no doubt. I never disclose someone's identity .

There has been a lot of discussion here about the first meeting between provider and client. Most times, interaction online, email or text. There can be times when a perspective new client may want to meet in person and interact. I have no problem with any of the above. I had a perspective new client who requested a quick conversation during the middle of the business day and it coincided with my giving a presentation to a group with my "day job". I was in a white dress shirt and tie and in my professional mode. When I met with the proposed client, he was surprised to say the least, but positively so. We had a very interesting conversation and he was absolutely intrigued. In the end, it was a very positive take on a first time meeting. I suppose it could have been different, but many of my clients are businessmen and I feel very comfortable and confident chatting them up on various topics. I suppose it could have been the opposite, but I didn't have time to change my clothes. Anyone else have a similar experience?

Certainly there is some identification with you for sure. I have a number of friends and when I came out (in my 20's), I naively thought, "I'll have guys I really identify with and add a bunch". The reality is, I tend to be very friendly with those (gay or straight) that I share education, interests, ideas, view of life and other similarities. An older gay friend (who was a staff member at my college when I was a student) once told me, "I'm different, but you are really unusual for a gay man". He was right. I probably have more in common in many cases, with straight guys. Career work and goals keep my time with friends limited, but I do get out and see many, some are straight, some gay,

I have a flat rate I charge clients, but I add extra for travel to them (beyond the metro area). I think there could be things added for non "customary" service.... something above and beyond. I do think that if a provider charged a "different rate" for various clients, it would need to be based on some logic and reason... and be articulated to clients.

Let me say this, one of my first clients I had is a top, but really cannot perform that way anymore. He doesn't use any medical assistance and I think he'll get there, but he is always apologetic and is more of an "oral" experience. My job as a provider is to make him feel good, satisfied and accepted. I never am judgmental about what they can or cannot do or perform. I am there for their service, not my own. I always say, "it doesn't matter to me" and it doesn't. I have been asked what I think or my own opinion, but I make suggestions that will be helpful to him, not me or anyone else. If you want to mention in passing your condition, it is up to you. If your provider is a good one, it won't matter.

Wow, I have to say I've never had a client not pay me. Most give me a tip. What an unfortunate experience and one that many providers may face eventually. Very sorry you had to go through that! I would hope this is an exception and you won't ever have the experience again. When discussing booking, certainly getting a real understanding of who they are and how solid they feel are important. I'm sure you did that. Nothing is foolproof, but I would encourage you to not give up some trust with a client relationship. I can understand the "up front" approach. I would hope you never have a rough time like that again. Such a sad thing.

I was notified by Rentmen that my credit card had "failed", despite the fact I am nowhere near the expiration date and pay my card off each month. I use a regular VISA card for this transaction and was told to either use "Mastercard" or Bitcoin. I remember something about this last year and was told my card was fine since I have been registered as a provider on their site for some time. I have no desire to open a credit card with Mastercard just for Rentmen. For those clients and providers that actively use Rentmen, what have you heard and what do you use?

Well kind of hard to provide a complete answer here. We'd need to know more about the interaction between you and the proposed provider. I would never block an interested client if we were having simple polite interaction. If it became aggressive, derogatory or disrespectful, I might block the guy. I assume it was a simple interaction. If he did block you after you booked him without any sort of discussion, I'd assume he wasn't someone you'd want to hire int he first place and find someone else.

I generally get ask for my rate or "donation". I've had a very few offer less and tell me that's all they can afford. I don't think I have ever been "offered" a rate. Interesting idea, but I don't think it would be that successful. Different providers view the value of their work in different ways. Some would be offended no doubt. Definitely shifts the compensation "control" to the client. Interesting.

I've often talked about the mental and physical addiction that a provider can get from escorting. I don't like being "addicted" to anything to be honest. It sounds like you view it as a problem and are taking steps. A counselor can help or just removing it altogether. Perhaps being here is a step in your perceived recovery. Understand and hope you are successful.