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Dude, don't overstate the situation. I never said they had "fallen" for me in any way. A degree of emotional attachment isn't "falling for someone". They are regular clients and I remind them of the relationship. I don't manipulate them, I'm straight forward. One of the recently asked me "if it was appropriate for them to give me a small gift for Christmas". My response was a tip was plenty. Be upfront and straightforward, not a manipulator.

As a provider, I'm certainly aware that several of my regular clients have some degree of emotional attachment. I'm a professional person by nature (and via regular career), so it can be an interesting "tightrope" to walk to do a job, be balanced and logical and provide a very personal service. Think about it, it really is a contrast and to navagate it appropriately can require talent. I am not into drama, I'm there to provide a positive service that means something to the recipient.

My first reaction after hearing about it initially was "how sad and what a waste". The CEO sounds like a great family man and the accused sounds like he had much to accomplish in life. You wonder about why this happens? I've heard the term "off the grid" mentioned about his last several months. I have no doubt part of his actions were fashioned by conversations online. One question.... what the hell did he do for a living? I get he earned his Masters degree. Was he employed?

Well let me say, if you choose to hire, it should be based on your comfort level and desire to do so. I have many clients in their 60's and I am kept quite busy! You are not too "old" and if a provider judges one by age, he's no professional. Good luck and hope you do.

I'm confident all will go well based on our history and skills on the communication of expectations.

He is paying me and we've had the discussions about my going the work for the time expected. He understands (and suggested) interested parties give me their phone numbers for further interest later. I think we are of the same mind on expectations.

A regular client who is known for his parties and social gatherings is having a New Year's party and has ask if I would be willing to serve as one of the "greeters" for guests. My attire is a speedo and wear a big smile and welcome guests to the party and direct them to food, beverages, restrooms and other needs. I will also be delivering things like drinks and requests. I haven't done this previously in this large a gathering. I was told that not "if", but "when" I'm ask about spending time alone with guests, I should give my number out, but continue to do the assigned duties. Makes sense, but is it really that easy? I'm sure there are providers here that do or have done this kind of thing. I've done small parties, but not something with in excess of a hundred guests. Thoughts?

Well to start, I think how much one can "take" depends on a number of factors, including how comfortable the escort is and the location and means of taking the cock. I'm very flexible and when bottoming can accommodate a large cock, part of the reason I bottom more in the first place. I enjoy it. Orally I do well too, but that took more practice over time.

I've never asked for a deposit, but generally if I have to travel to a client, I have had some dialogue in advance and feel comfortable in going without any sort of deposit or money in advance. I can see the alternative, I can see when it would seem to make sense.

Interesting question. I think it all depends on the circumstances with the client. "Mental issues" is an vague description. Many people have mental issues, but it doesn't impair their behavior, others have more pronounced challenges. So long as it wasn't a problem with the relationship, I would likely continue. Suicide is another issue altogether. I might encourage assistance, but I would likely recognize that I'm not in the position or trained to take much of a role. "Stay away" sounds like a cop out, but I'd likely try and encourage him to see help and keep a low, but supportive profile (depending on how well I knew the client).

I probably don't have as much to say here as others, but just say that if you didn't receive the service that you both understood, probably wise to seek out others. I wouldn't second guess the lip piercing or the bandaid on his cock. For me it would totally be about whether you received what you believed you would be paying for. If not, time for a new dude and service.

So first, a "Happy Thanksgiving" to all in the US for a great holiday and season ahead. I was pleased when a regular client offered to buy me a dinner at a very nice restaurant to show his appreciation for my services rendered. Great guy, I enjoy in depth conversations with him and always nice to be appreciated, no matter what services one is providing. While this isn't typical, I do find clients in general to be more flexible, giving and appreciative this time of year.

Well a couple of things. I would never use anything that would make you uncomfortable. It should be safe and user friendly. Now having said that, I also think you should be open to changes in society in how we pay for things. I'm not saying "Bitcoin" is the answer, but I do think it wise to educate ourselves (me included). Do not use Bitcoin or anything else until you understand what it is and how to use it properly.

I suppose it would be helpful if clients provided clarity. I get that outside of the escorting business. It may be a way of saying that they want to do it and don't want you to tell them...no, so they try and make it what seems easier. I'd provide them a couple of time options and if it doesn't work, ask, "then what works for you". Being wishy washy isn't helpful, even if their objective is to be that. Human nature I suppose.

I'm not surprised. As a provider, I bottom more than top, but I have photos that provide a complete look of who I am. I like top with a great ass. More a complete picture.

As a provider, it simply means "open to an extended session", which can be great! Long sessions can be great if the provider is into providing quality service.

Always appreciate getting tipped. It implies I did a great job and the client was more than satisfied. Very much appreciated.

Thanks for the update! Always good to hear from you. I've never done a "cross country" type of approach, so good to hear input from someone who has. I typically visit the cities RM room and converse with interested parties there to see what degree of interest comes. I always feel that I have a head start that way. If I'm not getting positive vibes, I don't go. I do have a large number of "regulars" locally, so I miss out on some of them when I travel. Have to evaluate all. I've talked at length that this is a side activity for me and I have a busy professional career otherwise, so I also have the balance of determining making money on the side with a trip (with a day(s) off from work or to stick local . So far it has been a healthy mix for me.

A great topic to revisit and get input from those who perhaps didn't see it previously. I'm on Prep and yes, bare is a part of what I do. I think it is always prudent to remember that PREP is great for HIV prevention, but does nothing for other STD's (and I realize most here already know that). I think Prep is sometimes used with the idea one becomes "invincible". I think a conversation with the client in advance helps, but they can simply lie. If you have any concerns about the attitude toward you (a lack of caring or indifference), I'd ask that a condom be a part of the mix. Be aware, if the client has open sores or something suspicious, I"d be safe. So use common sense when dealing with clients. It might not protect you, but being aware certainly helps.

This is a hard situation to assess. The guy may really need help or it could just be a scam. I would probably ask a set of questions to determine if it was legit. Has he reached out for assistance? How did he get into this condition. I think a bit of conversation will yield the answers and approach you might want to take, but I realize this might be wishful thinking. I'm not sure giving him money is really the answer, he really needs direction and assistance, regardless of his circumstances.

I don't go on the road often, but do occasionally depending on the allowances with my "day job". I spend a little time on RM in that area and try and determine measures of interest before I get there. If I can see it looks very promising, I have no problem with giving the investment of time and money to see if it pays off. Most of the time it does. I've never walked away empty handed. Always know in advance the balance of travel, hotel and what I'm losing by leaving home and the potential gain. Life is about opportunities, a prudent evaluation always makes sense.

Well I have an interesting group of "collections" for sure. For one, I have a large collection of designer underwear. Probably not that unusual for a gay dude and wear new and different ones for clients when booked. Also a large collection of "turbo speedos" from Barcelona Spain. Beyond that, I have a large collection of Ralph Lauren polo shirts and another that a family friend started me on when I was in middle school..... Department 56 "Dicken's Village" collectables. I also have art by Jesse Barnes and Terry Redlin which I relly like.

Sadly, I'm sure there are always those (provider or client) looking to "get the best deal" they can and sadly, that means trying to take advantage of another. That's just life I suppose. I've had my share of clients who tell me "all they have is....." (typically a much smaller amount than my hourly rate). If they aren't going to respect your requirements, there isn' tany reason for the conversation to continue. Always rough to hear about rude clients, I hope you weren't insulted. For me there's always a line and when the client crosses it, the conversation ends and I move on.

I wasn't aware of this event. I see I need to be clued in on some of these around the country!

I don't talk about anybody... to anybody else. Discussing and disclosing identities of one to another is a breech of ethics. And yes, you can have (and one should expect) ethics in this business when it comes to privacy, especially. Without that, reputations will suffer no doubt. I never disclose someone's identity .