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I have the same problem distinguishing between masseurs and sex workers, particularly when the masseur makes a point of emphasizing his therapeutic skills. Just recently, I booked a therapeutic massage with a provider discussed here (where it was said that extras weren't on offer) and was very surprised when he started giving me a handjob. He read my surprise as offense and asked if I didn't want one. I clarified that I'd love one but didn't expect one and didn't ask for one out of respect. That started a long convo about how some of his clients always want one, some of his clients never do, and some ask for it from time to time, and he's just decided to go with the flow. Just wait until next time when I bring up other things we might do . . .

Another strategy is to put the providers you're following on your buddies list. Then, you can go to your buddies list and click on the "Buddy Activity" button. It shows changes to travel plans as well as availability and the posting of new pictures and new reviews. That way, you don't have to "lurk" on their profiles.

This is true in many cultures and has been for millennia. In classical Roman times, it was fine for a man to fuck other men but beneath contempt to be fucked by one. Julius Caesar's political rivals used to play up a rumor of a gay dalliance by him with the insult that Caesar was a man to all women and a woman to all men.

100% agree on Close Encounters. What a boring, vapid, pretentious waste of film. Spielberg at his worst. Also, can I say that I hate Richard Dreyfuss in everything he's in. I didn't like Jaws mostly because the shark didn't eat him. It would have been a much more satisfying movie if Dreyfuss's character had been chewed to pieces.

I think situational horniness is more prevalent than just in jail. When I was in a geographically isolated prep school (back in the Truman administration), I'd venture that most roommates frequently jerked off together and often gave each other a hand, so to speak. I'd also venture that half of them sucked their roommate's dick from time to time (sometimes infrequently, sometimes daily or more). Nobody thought it was gay or embarrassing, though it was rarely spoken about. Only anal was gay. The joke we used to tell each other was "How do you know your roommate is gay? Because his dick tastes like shit."

I think this is a very big factor. I haven't been on SA in a couple of years, but when I was there was a new crop of 20-somethings showed up in the fall. The mid- to late-20s guys I reached out to (the undergrads were just too young for me) were in grad school or recent grads working at internships or entry level jobs. They were mostly new to New York and had no idea how expensive it is to live here as a penniless young man.

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I've helped my regulars or guys I hoped would become regulars with advances for specific needs. I paid one guy's expenses for a summer study abroad (tuition was paid by a scholarship) which I got back in services in the fall, another was a photographer who got a big job for which he needed some specialty equipment so I paid him for half a dozen sessions in advance, etc. I don't think I would ever pay in advance an escort who I hadn't met, though. Too big a chance of being scammed.

He's certainly not going to make a living escorting with such limited services, but the economics of an RM ad are such that if he finds one client a month he more recoups the cost of his ad. I'm guessing he figures he's hot enough that he'll get takers for even his limited services. I'm guessing he's right.

Just confirming what others have noted. I'm seeing dick pics in profiles, including Simon's, with my basic membership but they are blurred out if I'm not signed in.

He chose that location because it was cheap, especially compared with Manhattan hotels. I told him that if he wanted to be serious about escorting he'd have to spring for a better hotel in a much better location. That's when he told me that he's more focused on being an OF content provider and only escorted occasionally. I feel honored he met with me, haha.

Seattle is his home. I just saw him in NY, where he's currently visiting (until tomorrow, I think). Very nice guy, looks like his pics, he actually is 6' 3". I had a great time with him. He's more focused on his OF work, so doesn't escort full-time. I'd happily see him again.

I knew my approach wouldn't be AS efficient, but I didn't realize just how much additional work was involved. That must be frustrating for you I think the strategy is designed to extract more fees from clients. The two RMs basically have a monopoly on advertising (a provider pretty much has to be on there to be seen by potential clients) and now they're turning to the client side of the transaction -- they limit what non-premium clients can see (either by blocking the hot pics or making the private gallery harder to access) to encourage them to go premium. They don't care if that strategy adversely impacts a provider's business because the provider has nowhere else to go.

I imagine the best you can do to get around the paywall problem would be to post all the "hot" pics kept behind the paywall in your private gallery and then share your private gallery with anyone who asks who doesn't seem sketchy. That way, you can advertise to non-premium RM members almost as effectively as you can to the premium members.

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Exactly right. It's not personal, it's strictly business. The provider unlocks his private pics or denies or ignores the request depending on how he chooses to market himself given what (if any) information he has about the potential client. The client may think he's made a bad business decision (and he may very well have), but it has nothing to do with the provider's character. It's all about his business sense.

I'm not sure what all the hubbub is about. I am pretty sure I'm interested in hiring a provider from his ad even without seeing his private pics or the locked pics that I can only see with a premium membership (which I don't have). After that, it's more the compatibility of our interests and the ability to schedule conveniently. The private pics are more for confirmation of what I've seen than the decision-maker in my choosing to hire. My habit is to send a message on RM to the provider saying I'm interested and directing him to my RM profile (stats, interests, def no pics). After that I hit the button for access to the private pics. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I've given the provider all the information he needs to decide whether to carry the conversation further.

He's back in SF. This provider was on RM once before, maybe a year ago, under a different name that I can't remember. There may have been a thread on him, but can't find it without his old name. His old profile was explicit about being into findom and not offering penetration or anything sexual. (I asked him then if he was serious and he said he was. I moved on.) Then he went on X and Instagram to market an OF account, though I don't think there's any sex on that either. When I saw the new ad, I hoped he had accepted the reality of the escort business. He still lists findom as a kink but doesn't put it front and center. He offers the Boyfriend Experience, but I seem to recall penetration being a regular part of the experience with my boyfriends. From the above response, though, it sounds like it's the same old (non-alcoholic) wine in a new bottle. Too bad, he's a good-looking guy.

So is there anywhere now that is close to what they were back then? I certainly haven't found it. I guess everything has been monetized by RM, RMass, etc. 😢

I completely agree, but I think it would be good marketing for a provider to include in his unlocked pics one where you can get a sense of his dick through underwear or a towel. Even a draped pic would give more info than the less-than-reliable dick size they post in their ads.

I wasn't looking for masseurs. Craigslist was where I found escorts, though most of them weren't professionals. Rather they were young guys who escorted occasionally to supplement their day job earnings or student stipends. Nothing against the people I hire from rent.men these days, but I liked those young guys' innocence, if you can apply that word to a sex worker. Seeking may be the closest thing these days to the old Craigslist m4m, though Seeking is filled with young men with ridiculous expectations that I never ran into on Craigslist.

I haven't hired from Craigslist in ten or fifteen years, ever since they got rid of the m4m section, so I have nothing useful to tell you about Craigslist. However, you might want to do an internet search on any photographs in the ad to see if the masseur is on a massage site like rentmasseur or on social media. Finding more info about him might give you more confidence in hiring him. Good luck.

Not true re access to videos. I'm not a premium member, but there are videos I can see. Others are locked for premium members only. I agree though that videos are not as important as accurate photos.

Trust me, cab fares aren't any cheaper these days. I would have been totally respectful of your friend's desire to be near St. Pat's for Sunday mass, but if she's not willing to take the subway on Monday morning, she's on her own.

Back to the subject of NYC rates, I am almost always quoted 400 for an hour. I haven't heard 300 or 350 in over a year. I don't like to haggle with an escort because afterwards (whether or not the price has been reduced) the memory of haggling makes the session seem more mercenary to me than if I just hit the first bid. Also, if I'm honest, the 50 or 100 means a lot more to me than to him and I've never had a session after which I thought "That would have been a good session if only I'd paid 100 less." I am hearing 500 more and more often, but I think in most cases that's just too much.