jackcali

I'm mostly a side these days, too, and hire escorts accordingly. Not that I don't like anal. In my fantasy life I top and bottom until the cows come home. However, at my age and diminished health, effectively topping is difficult even with pharmaceutical and mechanical intervention and I always liked the idea of bottoming more than the reality of it -- too much preparation and physical discomfort to enjoy it often. I've never had an escort turn me down for a side-activities-only session. In the moment, some escorts express a desire to go further (one way or the other), but turning them down hasn't affected the quality of the session.

Neither am I attracted to my brothers-in-law. One of my nephews, on the other hand . . .

I don't provide a face pic, but several times I've had providers hosting incalls meet me on the street near their places. I assume that's partly for safety but also partly so that they can walk away if I am extraordinarily ugly. But, since I'm only ordinarily ugly, it's never been a problem.

He was RedRyder when I saw him in 2024. I couldn't tell you if he had a different name before that.

Nope, side activities only in that session, by my choice.

I recognize him. I saw him in NYC in March 2024. His non-premium pics, the only ones I can see, are from back then and were a good likeness at the time. The jacuzzi pic is new and he looks a bit beefier in that one, but maybe it's just the angle. Dealing with him was easy and we had a solid A-/B+ session, which is a pretty good grade for a first time meeting. Events intervened and I didn't see him again for a while and then I think he disappeared off RM or at least left NYC.

Bumping this. Any more info?

Don't forget Dr. Whitaker. He's TOO good, so I'm hoping he loses it in a big way at some point. For me, seeing him beat Dr. Santos to death with a bedpan would be the ideal story arc, especially if the actor lets his Welsh accent run free.

Similar story here. I asked a provider I'd seen a couple of times before to dress like an applicant for a professional job for a roleplay with me being the hostile interviewer. He came to my hotel room in a suit and tie and white shirt (I specified that detail). We started the "interview" but within 60 seconds I was so revved up I said "forget the roleplay, let's just get to it." It was a great session.

Peace, Peter. I wasn't suggesting that the real world, wherever that can be found, isn't different from what it was fifty years ago. (I remember, I was there.) The gist of my point was that today's 19-year-olds don't know how to interact with other people in real life. Social skills are like all other skills. Some people naturally have great skills, others don't, but everyone improves their skills with experience. Many of today's kids don't get enough of that experience, and while they may have other positive qualities, interpersonal skills are rarely their strong suit.

I totally agree. Most 19 year olds in the '70s weren't coddled and protected from the real world the way they are now. They didn't breeze through high school and go to college regardless of how they performed (you had to study to gain admission) and you had to pay for it if your folks couldn't, because loans wouldn't nearly cover the cost. You probably had years of summer jobs and maybe an after-school job to make spending money. If you were 19 in the early '70s, you even went through the draft and might have served in the military (or gone to Canada). You just grew up faster in those days, because you were exposed to the real world and learned (by trial and error, if necessary) how to behave in society. Now, a 19-year-old probably has never had a job, might spend all of his time gaming and doesn't go out much - either to movies or restaurants or even just to hang with his friends. No wonder they're so unsocialized. Sorry. End of rant.

In the right circumstances or for the right incentives, ALL of them.

Heading to New Orleans for a conference next month. Very limited talent on RM. Oh, well, maybe I'll be a good boy while I'm there . . . or import someone! Orlando is the most popular conference location on the East Coast, so it sees a lot of travelers with time on their hands and lust in their hearts. I'm not surprised that a big escort community developed there, but it's more to serve the visitors than the locals.

I also like the younger guys and, while many of them are immature, scammers come in every age. I am guessing that he wanted the cash for the Uber because he wasn't going to take an Uber but would travel to you another way (e.g., by public transportation or a cheaper car service). Sending the money to a 'friend' could be because he doesn't have a bank account, but it complicates the negotiation and raises suspicions, which you don't want to do when making a sale. You were kind to go along with it as far as you did, but if his request was really about transportation, he'd have just taken your offer to get him an Uber. It was him trying to grab for just a little more money that made it all go south. Years ago, I hired a younger guy in LA for a one-hour session at my hotel (I was traveling for work), and we had so much fun I extended it for a second hour and then a third. I paid him three times his one-hour rate (I didn't ask for a multiple-hour discount) plus a very good tip and I told him that I was in town for the rest of the week and would love to see him again the next night. Shortly after he left, I got a call from the hotel garage saying that someone was trying to charge a parking fee to my room. Hotel garages are expensive, but the charge was maybe 3% of what I'd paid him or 10% of his tip. I rejected the charge and didn't contact him again. As much as I wanted to see him and as great as our time together was, his grabbing for a little more pissed me off so much the connection I felt with him was ruined.

I usually hire for an hour or two, which is enough activity for me, and I'm not an interesting enough conversationalist to fill the time of a longer session. I do love to cook though, and the idea of cooking and enjoying a nice dinner with an escort (with other activities before and after) sounds like my perfect multi-hour session. I'll have to keep an eye out for the opportunity.

While I'm super-discreet about hiring, I never considered this before, mostly because my communications with providers are through my burner phone. That being said, I like receiving a "thank you" text after a session, at least with a new hire. I'm sure it's just marketing, but it does reenforce any positive feeling I may have had from the session. After a session with a new hire, I decide whether the provider is someone I'd like to see regularly (most all of my hiring is of a regular). Some clearly fit in that category, some clearly don't, but for some I'm not sure so I consider going back for a second session to make up my mind. For those in the last category, a "thank you" could be enough to change the result in my thinking. With a regular hire, a "great seeing you again" text as opposed to a "thank you" text deepens the connection we've already established, though not getting a text afterwards isn't a big deal.

While there's variation in what escorts charge, that variation is not THAT wide. In NYC, where I usually hire, hourly rates are between $300 and $500, with $400 being the most common figure quoted. (Second hours or longer sessions are usually less per hour, etc.) Of course, there are the $1,000 an hour guys, who I don't even consider. But within the "normal" range, I'm insensitive to price and make a hiring decision based on looks, convenience (whether and where they can host), reviews, and vibe from the initial communications. In my experience, I never had a good session with a $300 guy that wouldn't have been just as good if he cost $500 and I've never had a bad session with a $500 guy that would have been any better if I'd only paid $300.

I also am amazed he left money on the table. If you enjoyed it and want to hire him again, discuss with him beforehand how you're happy to pay for the full two hours and would like him to stay even if the 'business' is done by then. Of course, it's always possible that there was something about the interaction that caused him to want to get out of the session early so much that he'd give up some compensation. In that case, he'll probably not agree to meet you again if you ask.

That's a great itinerary for an overnight, but at my age it would have to be an overnight in January at the North Pole because I'd need two weeks to get through all of that activity.

It certainly was not. Back then, $10 would get me and a date movie tickets and a meal at McDonalds or a diner, or it would buy two or three record albums. It would take six hours at my minimum wage job to earn that much. Getting blown for fifteen minutes was much easier work.

Ha. I think this happened a lot, certainly back then in a more closeted time. The first time the older guy (and by that I mean 40-ish) asked me, I was with friends so I brushed him off only to hear a bunch of other guys in the store joking because the older guy asked one of their friends too. I'm guessing he approached enough guys that I wasn't his only recruit or that I wasn't the only one to go back after the first time. I never did run into another of his boys, though. Now THAT would be the plot of a movie.

Oh, stop hating on the guy. I think there's a bigger market for prettycollegeguy's services than you think. I was even a provider of this service fifty-plus years ago. An older guy picked up the apparently straight teenager that I was (in a record store - remember those?), blew me to completion at his apartment, gave me $10 and told me to come back any time. I went back a number of times when I needed the cash or the relief. He never even suggested that we do anything else. Neither did I.

This is close to my behavior, but I'm even more cautious. Accurate stats are something the provider is entitled to know before agreeing to a session, but I use a burner phone and don't reveal my name or any other details until we meet. Then, if I feel comfortable, I'll share my real first name (which is a common one) and a few details about my life (the industry I work in, the part of town I live in, etc.) but I may fuzz up the latter details. And I'm happy to talk about my younger days or my interests or other information that doesn't reveal my identity. I've seen providers regularly for a couple of years without sharing any identifying information about myself. The reason I am so cautious about sharing this information is not because I think I can't trust the provider but because I can't KNOW that I can trust the provider. I worry about and overthink everything, so if a provider had what I think is too much identifying information about me, I would start to see them as a potential threat. That ruins the relationship from my perspective. I realize that that is all about me and not the provider and that it may border on the paranoid, but I live close to that border.

I agree, on both points, but Season 2 is still better than most TV series of the sort. Maybe we're more critical than we were on Season 1 because it's not new any longer. Or maybe it will ramp up as the season progresses. One note in this season that I think is false. The strained relationship between Dr. Robbie and Dr. Langdon (the recovered drug addict) seems completely inconsistent with Robbie's whole wise, all-knowing, all-accepting persona. After all, when he was found out, Langdon did exactly what Robbie told him to do, go to rehab, etc. While I could understand any other character being cold to Langdon, I don't understand how Saint Robbie could be.

I'm not a native, but I used to frequently travel there for work and I quickly learned that San Francisco just isn't THAT big a city. If there was a conference of any size in the Bay Area (like the Dreamforce conference or the old Oracle OpenWorld), hotels rooms in the city would become incredibly expensive if they could be found at all. The Super Bowl would cause the same availability crunch. That might make a visit too expensive a proposition for a traveling escort.