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I agree, on both points, but Season 2 is still better than most TV series of the sort. Maybe we're more critical than we were on Season 1 because it's not new any longer. Or maybe it will ramp up as the season progresses. One note in this season that I think is false. The strained relationship between Dr. Robbie and Dr. Langdon (the recovered drug addict) seems completely inconsistent with Robbie's whole wise, all-knowing, all-accepting persona. After all, when he was found out, Langdon did exactly what Robbie told him to do, go to rehab, etc. While I could understand any other character being cold to Langdon, I don't understand how Saint Robbie could be.

I'm not a native, but I used to frequently travel there for work and I quickly learned that San Francisco just isn't THAT big a city. If there was a conference of any size in the Bay Area (like the Dreamforce conference or the old Oracle OpenWorld), hotels rooms in the city would become incredibly expensive if they could be found at all. The Super Bowl would cause the same availability crunch. That might make a visit too expensive a proposition for a traveling escort.

To be honest, I don't even know what it means when someone says they're straight. People these days have become so casual about sex that being "straight" is more of a lifestyle indicator than a sexual preference. To me, a straight guy is a guy who appears hetero in social interactions and who dates (or would like to date) women, but I know there's a good chance that he'd happily hook up with a hot guy or a gay buddy if he's horny or bored.

I think you answered your own question. You're an overthinker. I am a fellow overthinker. Sometimes with my regular provider (I'm only seeing him at the moment), he doesn't finish or I don't finish. After the first one of us finishes, it's not always easy to rev up again for the other. When that happens, I'm disappointed in the moment (whether it's me or him), but afterwards on reflection I always realize that I enjoyed the session and I was glad to see him. Whether one "finishes" isn't the sole indicator of a good session.

I LOVED Patriot when it came out ten years ago, and I enjoyed it just as much when I recently rewatched it. I will certainly watch this. Patriot was a comedy-drama, and I hope "DTF St Louis" has the same mix.

I'm still attracted to the same types as I was 15-20 years ago when I started hiring. However, back then hiring (in NYC) was $200 an hour or less and now it's closer to $400 an hour. After inflation, that may be the same amount of money, but back then I had a job and was at my peak earnings money so it was easy to take a risk on an interesting provider who didn't quite fit the profile or come recommended. Now that I'm retired and living on savings, I'm much more cautious about spending on a provider without good reviews or who varies from my preferred type(s). In terms of taste, though, I'm hiring the current crop of the guys I always hired.

I agree. The OP clearly wants to go forward. Yes, the hot guy stole from the OP, but the OP is considering a dating interaction rather than a business interaction. My suggestion is to forgive but not forget. Go forward with caution and see what happens. If after a date or two he's asking for some financial help, I'd tell him you've already done that once with him and cut contact. Or maybe he was in a desperate place at the time and did what he felt he had to do, but he's now put his life in order and is a better person. You won't know until you take the next step. And you did say he is hot.

An upvote on the ATM suggestion. I doubt there's a location in the US where you can't access ATMs with your bank card for a fee of a few dollars, for which you get the anonymity and non-trackability of cash payments. If there's a concern about the provider being stuck with all that cash, then multiple payments both before and after the trip (assuming you can hand him cash) is another way to avoid electronic transfers, if that's your concern. I've used Visa or Amex gift cards in the past, but I've had trouble finding a vendor who will sell for cash a prepaid with a large-enough balance. It must be possible, but I haven't done the legwork to find a source.

These are my rules as well, except I have a burner phone for my communications with providers. Email seems to be too difficult for many of them. Kids these days!

My go-to explanation is that he's from my employer's tech group and is helping me solve some problems with my remote access to the company network.

If selfies don't work for you (and I think they don't work for a lot of people), go for it. A professional photographer or even a good amateur will put you at ease and get pics that let your physical presence but also some of your character show through. However, do NOT have those photographs retouched in any significant way. Even using AI, a retouched photo doesn't have the same impact.

The multiple looks go further than just facial hair. Providers may have pics with both long and short hair, natural and dyed hair, shaved and hairy bodies, etc. Since they're being chosen (at least initially) largely due to their looks, if there's any indication of variety, I ask how they look currently. Once, I hired a Latino provider based on the pics in his ad and to my surprise he showed up with platinum blond hair (which was not in any of his pics. I have to say the look did not flatter him at all. He was a good hire and the session went just fine, but I didn't repeat because the look was too distracting for me.

Can I ask why you're considering these alternative payment methods if you're regularly using cash? I imagine if you're paying an escort for a week-long engagement, the cash may get a little burdensome, but apart from that I don't see any advantages of your other methods over cash. Thanks.

Yes, I see him regularly. Not sure about his ads, but I do know he is/was taking a week or so for travel during for the holidays. He (if not his ad) will be back soon.

This is a pathological version of what I was talking about in my earlier post. It's nice to think that escorts (or any other people) are reasonable, rational economic actors, but it's often not true. We're all subject to our emotions and often react in ways that are unreasonable or irrational. Without having years of knowledge about the relationship between two people, there's always a risk of blowback when you might create tension between them.

There is such a thing as professional jealousy. In my professional career, when a client of mine decided to hire a different professional for work that I thought I could do just as well, I got pissed off. Even if I admitted to myself that his new hire was better suited to that particular assignment, I still got pissed off. His decision affected my feelings toward the client and, at least as far as I was concerned, permanently altered the relationship.

Something similar happened to me. I had a regular who was going to be out of town for a couple of weeks and he suggested that while he was away I should hire his boyfriend, who also escorted. So I did, and had a good time. If the two guys weren't connected, I might have kept with my regular and seen the boyfriend from time to time for a change of pace, but since I was sure they'd know about it I was afraid of the complications that could screw up the good dynamic I had with my regular. I think it would have been much riskier to change horses, so to speak. So I kept seeing the regular and only saw the boyfriend at my regular's suggestion. And of course, though it's not really my thing, they did talk me into seeing them together a couple of times.

Mine is too, but it's difficult to find a provider who wakes up early enough for me to stop by for a session and still get to work at a reasonable hour. For a while I had a regular provider who also had a 9-to-5 job, and we'd meet for a quick session before heading to work. Even if the session itself wasn't, cleaning up and getting ready for the office was about as realistic a BFE as you can get -- including elbowing each other out of the way to see in the bathroom mirror.

Agreed. His size on RM is no more exaggerated than anyone else's. He has a great body, great enthusiasm and a great attitude, but if you're looking for a big dick, you've got the wrong man.

So. lots of shade, but has anyone actually seen him? I'm discounting the review by the poster who created his account just to leave a positive review. Thanks.

In NYC, most bank ATMs dispense 100s, though standalone ATMs in grocery and drug stores only dispense 20s. I usually pay my regular for three sessions in advance to cut down on the need to make withdrawals. One time, I went to get the money to pay him but the ATM didn't have 100s or 50s, so I presented him with a huge stack of 20s. "Just like the old days" was his reaction.

I think this is another effect of social media. In the past, if a provider was lucky enough to find a client paying $1,000 for a few minutes of cursing, he'd devote a lot of time to thinking about how to make him a regular and/or expand the arrangement. (How much for an hour of cursing?) Now, too many of the post it on social media. They think they're taking a victory lap and encouraging more clients with the same interest/fetish, but I'm sure that's a very small market and not a way to build an escort business. After all, I get cursed at for a few minutes most days at the office.

If I'm traveling (which I would be in Toronto), I prefer to host at my hotel. If I'm home here in NYC, I look for providers who can host for the sake of convenience. I also don't want to book a room on dayuse, but I'm happy to reimburse a provider for the booking. My current regular books a room on dayuse for our sessions and his (elevated) fee covers the cost of it. Apart from the added cost, this is as convenient as an in-call.

I regularly saw a provider who had a pretty serious day job that let him WFH a couple of days a week. We would meet at his apartment for an hour or 90 minutes when we were both between business meetings. There was some coordination involved but we rarely had trouble finding a time to meet at least once every week. It worked great for us both.

Before you get annoyed, did you consider whether giving him the exact address made him justifiably reconsider whether an Uber to your area was necessary. I'm not a provider, but living in NYC I'm happy to travel to a distant or dodgy neighborhood if the location is near public transportation, but I'll only take an Uber if it's a long walk from there. I can afford to make that choice, but an escort can burn up a good part of his fee on round trip Ubers to a one- or two-hour appointment.