jackcali

Massive props for "Moldavian Massacre" reference!!

Another motivation that nobody has mentioned is that when a company is being bought, it's pretty common for it to make some cost-saving moves pre-acquisition, either because the buyer wants those actions to be taken (to clean things up before the new ownership) or the executives who are hoping to keep their jobs want to look good (and not "lazy" as Johnrom says). This action was taken with Skydance's approval (formal or informal), so it was a long-simmering action. That being said, the timing couldn't have been worse.

If a session with a good escort "ends" early, I usually look at my watch and say something open-ended and inviting, like "We still have X minutes. Do you want to hang out?" That let's them answer either way. If they say yes, then they'll likely be a repeat hire. If they say no, they're a one-and-done (and no tip). Of course, if the experience wasn't great, I just say goodbye. I might feel different with masseurs, but I rarely hire them.

I would trade away everyone now on television just to have Joan Rivers back.

Colbert is paid $15 million a year. His contract is up in May 2026, when the show will end. $15 million plus the costs of production (even of a talk show) is a lot of money to spend on a time slot that can be filled with syndicated shows that will generate comparable revenues. Colbert has been making that $15 million for the last six years, so I'm not particularly worried about him paying his rent when he retires from the show.

I think that ALL ads should make clear if the provider can host or not, and that info should be updated often, especially for travelers. In NYC, where I live, I will only see providers who are hosting, but I assume most providers cannot host because it seems everybody under the age of 30 or 35 lives with roommates in an inconvenient part of the city. (Yes, I know I can hire older providers, but that's not my thing.) This means that I'm reaching out constantly to providers whose ads don't specify if they can host, and I'm sure I'm not the only client doing that. Putting that info in the ad would save both the client and the provider a lot of unproductive communication.

Added to that, I think communicating by email allowed for more extensive conversation between the client and the provider and a certain amount of comfort on both sides to be developed. Things happened slower in those days, which wasn't all bad.

I think it's naive to ignore the effect of evolution in our development of what we find attractive. Even week-old babies react differently to attractive vs unattractive faces - of CATS as well as of humans - and culture can't have had an effect that early. There are some inbred responses to something we viscerally deem "attractive" that, the evolutionary biologists will tell us, relates to finding the best possible partner for mating. Symmetry and fitness (though maybe not to the degree it's measured these days) are sought after qualities. But we are definitely more than what's coded in our genetic material. Cultural influences do have an influence. Also, the desire to mate involves compromise (one wants the best available mate, not the ideal mate). That's why we see (or at least I see) plenty of gay and straight married or paired overweight couples, in-shape couples and couples with one of each. Some of them are happy and some of them aren't, but I don't see weight being the determining factor in that.

I'm sure that escorts who don't specify whether they can host gets lost of "can you host" inquiries. I, for one, send them all the time. And it looks like this guy gets those inquiries even though it's clearly answered in his ad. Maybe RM should add a dropdown option for incalls/outcalls/both. Not only would that improve the search functionality of the site, but it might save unproductive conversations started by potential clients who are too dazzled by the pictures to read the ad text.

I never send photos for reasons of discretion, but I certainly would like to know before I hire (and I totally understand that the provider wants to know) if I am too ugly for him to do his job satisfactorily or at all. If I were an extraordinarily ugly 60-something fat guy (I'm not bald, yay!), I might be moved to send a pic, but being only ordinarily ugly I feel my stats give a good enough impression of what the escort will see. That being said, some escorts can't hide their lack of attraction and I never repeat with them or recommend them to others.

I think that is the same reaction that the rich old ladies experience.

This describes me. The most stressful part of hiring for me (once I've done the homework of deciding to hire a provider) is negotiating the fee. I say negotiating, but I don't negotiate. I ask the provider what his fee is and either I'll accept it and move forward or I'll say that's too pricey and walk away. Even if the provider comes back and offers a lower price that I would have accepted if it were offered initially, I turn it down. I don't want to meet someone if any of my mindspace is taken up with "did I get a good price". Also, my experience with an escort is good or bad regardless of price. I have NEVER walked away from a bad or mediocre encounter thinking "It would have been a good session if only I had paid $100 less." All that being said (sorry for the rambling), a regular provider offering me a discount would damage the relationship that we've built. Better, as suggested above, to offer something special or to extend our time. I wouldn't even point out that this is a frequent flyer perk. Better for the provider to say "I thought this might be fun" or "Don't go just yet. Hang out a bit."

An interesting ad. He offers a loyalty program (didn't someone just start a thread on that subject?). Also, he offers a sensual dance and relaxing massage off the clock to begin each session. Not your typical offering. Anyone with experience?

Thanks for the clarifications, Mike. I had thought that RM messenger was disabled for frozen ads (as it is for expired ones), but I may be wrong. Thinking more about my proposed text, while it would be fine as an RM message, as a text it should be more discreet (not use the word "client", etc.) to address your concern about the number being multi-purpose.

There are lots of reasons a provider might freeze his ad. Maybe he's traveling, maybe he's busy in his real life/day job (one guy I used to see was in law school and he froze his account for three months while studying for the bar exam), or maybe he has some personal issues to deal with or just wants to take a break. I don't think it's rude to send one text along the lines of "I see your ad is frozen, but if you're still seeing clients, I'm interested." He can always ignore your text, or respond "not now". Don't pester him, though. I would think a second text or a phone call would border on rude. I do the same thing with expired ads. My habit is to put a provider's phone number in the notes on my RM buddy list so I have it handy even when the ad is expired. From what I can tell, the expiration is often a money thing or an organization thing (the provider forgot to pay the fee) and the provider is still happy to hear from clients or potential clients.