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I agree! I really liked it when he changed his look to what he’s got going now. 

I agree! I really liked it when he changed his look to what he’s got going now. 

I agree! I really liked it when he changed his look to what he’s got going now. 

I feel that 20% is fair for "rub and tug." Personally I tip at least 25% or more if I find a legit massage with sensual/erotic elements. I feel that if they can actually give a really good therapeutic massage they deserve the tip more than just being cute or naked. 

I keep it simple. 20% of the rate. More if he went overtime and didn’t charge me for it, which does happen sometimes. 

This turned out to be really great advice. Dancers from Wild Men of the West perform at several Phoenix clubs on different nights of the week, and at a few venues (Karamba on Thurs, Cruisin' 7th and Anvil on Sat) they did lap dances in a semiprivate area. 

Lots of good advice here. I wanted to add that my understanding is that PrEP takes a couple of weeks to become fully effective for anal sex, so having someone slip you one or two won’t work. As others have mentioned, talk to a medical professional about starting PrEP. For most people it also takes some getting used to. For me it took just a few days, but others it can take a bit longer. 
I’m not a doc, though I do have a lab coat for those who are into that kind of thing.  But talk to a real medical professional to get yourself ready for your adventures. 

I’ve also met him socially a couple of times, and he seemed like a nice sexy guy. I too didn’t get any PNP vibe from him at all, so I’m surprised to see that listed in his “I am into” list. He carries himself with maturity and I enjoyed talking with him. I have no intimate experience with him however so can’t comment one way or the other. But from everything I saw, I’d think it would be worth giving him a try. 

I've met him socially and he seems like a nice enough guy, though I don't really know him.  There are a lot of "drug addicts" where I live and he certainly doesn't come across like that, by which I mean he was perfectly capable of carrying on a normal conversation, didn't appear to be under the influence during the few hours we were at the same function, and didn't have any physical characteristics that one might associate with heavy drug use (by which I mean he didn't look unhealthy, and many guys who have a major drug habit look haggard at a relatively young age).  I don't know what PNP means to him, but if you are interested in him and want to make sure that drugs aren't part of your interaction then have a conversation with him before booking him. 

Please mark your calendars for the Weekend – April 13, 14 and 15, 2024.  Specifics will not be posted here, in order to preserve confidentiality.  Therefore, if you are serious about attending this year’s events, please send an e-mail to me (if you know my address) or a “private message” with your return e-mail address so that I may send you the pertinent information as it unfolds.  Your confidential information will be respected, as I expect mine to be.
 
The first order of business will be Saturday dinner reservations at a local contemporary restaurant, followed by RSVP’s for the Sunday pool gathering at my temporary residence, followed by Monday morning reservations at a local popular breakfast restaurant.  You will be asked to prepay the dinner fee and the breakfast fee prior to the event via either PayPal or Venmo (instructions will be sent later).
 
If you will be bringing a “guest”, please tell me who. That information will also be kept confidential, unless you say otherwise. Attendance by escorts (by themselves or as someone's guest) is greatly encouraged.

If you will be coming from out-of-town and need accommodations, you should arrange for those ASAP, if you have not already. There have been several suggestions put forth in previous threads concerning possible accommodations.

Again, the dinner will be early Saturday evening, April 13, the pool gathering will be in the afternoon of Sunday, April 14, and the breakfast will be Monday morning, April 15.

If you have any questions, please ask in your e-mail or message.  I look forward to renewing acquaintances and meeting new ones!  Come and enjoy!😃

Lots of good advice here. I wanted to add that my understanding is that PrEP takes a couple of weeks to become fully effective for anal sex, so having someone slip you one or two won’t work. As others have mentioned, talk to a medical professional about starting PrEP. For most people it also takes some getting used to. For me it took just a few days, but others it can take a bit longer. 
I’m not a doc, though I do have a lab coat for those who are into that kind of thing.  But talk to a real medical professional to get yourself ready for your adventures. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

Lots of good advice here. I wanted to add that my understanding is that PrEP takes a couple of weeks to become fully effective for anal sex, so having someone slip you one or two won’t work. As others have mentioned, talk to a medical professional about starting PrEP. For most people it also takes some getting used to. For me it took just a few days, but others it can take a bit longer. 
I’m not a doc, though I do have a lab coat for those who are into that kind of thing.  But talk to a real medical professional to get yourself ready for your adventures. 

Welcome to the Forum, and to your exploration of manhood!
From a provider's perspective, I've never been with a trans guy but I'd be up for it. I expect some of my colleagues will also be up for it, others not, but you might be surprised how many guys would be into meeting you. The only way to find out is to ask. I see there are a couple of transmascs who advertise on RM here in SF, but I expect lots of cis guys would welcome the opportunity to meet you too.

Lots of good advice here. I wanted to add that my understanding is that PrEP takes a couple of weeks to become fully effective for anal sex, so having someone slip you one or two won’t work. As others have mentioned, talk to a medical professional about starting PrEP. For most people it also takes some getting used to. For me it took just a few days, but others it can take a bit longer. 
I’m not a doc, though I do have a lab coat for those who are into that kind of thing.  But talk to a real medical professional to get yourself ready for your adventures. 

44 is not old as fuck.

Lots of good advice here. I wanted to add that my understanding is that PrEP takes a couple of weeks to become fully effective for anal sex, so having someone slip you one or two won’t work. As others have mentioned, talk to a medical professional about starting PrEP. For most people it also takes some getting used to. For me it took just a few days, but others it can take a bit longer. 
I’m not a doc, though I do have a lab coat for those who are into that kind of thing.  But talk to a real medical professional to get yourself ready for your adventures. 

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

First, welcome to the forum. I can only provide (and maybe) some insights based on my own experiences, but by now you might know that different people experience different things.
I didn't struggle with feelings afterwards when I decided to finally hire because I did not hire until I was sure that I was not going to have feelings of regret, shame, embarassment or anything negative that can impact my wellbeing. (Probably like you are doing now) I decided that it was more workable for me if I worked on those feelings and their source first. I rarely take actions that I am not 100% sure I can take without consequences. What I found in my case were the typical twisted notions of sex within a client/provider setting coming from my Christian upbrining, which were quite hypocritical and inappropriate. Something else that I found was that I was already paying and had paid for sex many, many times before in other ways:
Going to bath houses Going to peepshows Going to adult movie places Paying for drinks at a bar to a guy I'm interested in Going to sex parties None, not a one of those things are free, and the purpose of all of them is sex. So yes, I have been paying for sex for quite some time.
Then there's the convenience factor. Some of the service that I have looked for in providers have to do with my overal mental and physical wellbeing; it's noit just sexual pleasure alone. Others look for a deeper connection in the form of a "boyfriend experience".
Like you, I am married and I have no interest in having any committed relationship with another person. My husband does not/cannot provide everything there is for me to have in terms of physical or sexual contact (no need to get into details on that).
I also found that something that helped was the use of sensual and erotic massages since it is meant to be a relaxing, "put you at ease" experience with sensual/sexual elements.
I'm not a provider, so I will not comment on the question that you have to them. I defer to expertise on that.
I hope this helps. Again, welcome to the forum.

Did have to Google that.....
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Great news! My travel companion and I arrived in PS. 
Rain.....rain.....go away. BTW.....heaviest rain here for the entire 2200 mile trip. Haha!

That's what we're here for... among other things 😛

That's what we're here for... among other things 😛

I took a little break and had to drop out due to concerns around me adopting my special needs brother! He’s 18 now and I am considering jumping back into nude massage. At 32, 6ft6 275 lbs. I’m back coming down the slope coming in hot!! I was just curious how everyone is doing and it took me 10 minutes to find the new forum, I’ve been gone FARRR TOO LONG !!