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It makes me wonder if the pimp and the escort were one and the same. 
In any case, super sketchy. I think they’re about 30 years too late with their fantasies of running an agency. 

This is a get together of forum members and their friends and assorted escorts.  The event entails several get togethers over a weekend.  These events include a dinner, a welcome barbecue, a pool party and in the past, a breakfast.  These range from mild to moderate with nothing significantly wild going on at the events themselves, for the most part.  Probably R rated is a dramatic as it gets in the open spaces with some X rated activities in private.  Many of the guests stay at the same resorts, Inndulge, Hacienda, Canyon Club are three.  There are informal events such as hikes, trips to casinos, dinner, karaoke which are arranged by the guests.  It is mostly a chance to see meet fellow posters, escorts.  Fun in the sun.  Temperatures are usually in the 80s to 90s during the day and 60s at night.  The first people arriving from out of town usually get there the Thursday and most people who are coming from out of town stay from 4 to 7 days.     That is the thumbnail version of the events.  

To end the speculation, it’s on!😊  For those who like to plan ahead, mark your calendars for April 11 (Saturday) and April 12 (Sunday), 2026.  Information about the activities will be forthcoming at a later date.  I hope many of you can attend as I look forward to seeing you!🎉😄

It makes me wonder if the pimp and the escort were one and the same. 
In any case, super sketchy. I think they’re about 30 years too late with their fantasies of running an agency. 

It makes me wonder if the pimp and the escort were one and the same. 
In any case, super sketchy. I think they’re about 30 years too late with their fantasies of running an agency. 

Perhaps the bath house added to your discomfort. I wouldn't go to one unless I was feeling very confident. 
You had a bad experience and it really shook you up. But you know the saying. "Get back up on that horse." The best suggestion you've gotten is, next time, use a provider who is well known and experienced. 
As for all these suggestions regarding your mental health; it's sort of silly to assume we know the state of your mental health after reading your post.
Hang in there brother.

Stay tuned

Yes, tickling scenarios can be really fun. I would enjoy it, but the limit would be that if I’d had enough and said stop, it would need to stop. But in my experiences I’ve never had to say stop. 

It makes me wonder if the pimp and the escort were one and the same. 
In any case, super sketchy. I think they’re about 30 years too late with their fantasies of running an agency. 

I certainly would enjoy attending the event.    My largest concern is the timing with conclusion of tax season underway.   Certainly include me as a potential attendee.

After a hiatus of 7 years, I’m going to be there if we get the necessary number!

Given the context of the interaction, this safe word may not be too safe.  There are plenty of opportunities to (mis)construe it as an invitation rather than a cease and desist.  After all, it consists of ”top,” ”pit,” ”ass,” and ”hole” -- if you know what I mean.  🤭

Nate, stop is not a reason to stop tickling. Almost everyone says stop when they are being tickled.  Perhaps a safe word like STOPITASSHOLE would work better.  

Any excuse to visit Palm Springs! Yes I’d attend. 

Any excuse to visit Palm Springs! Yes I’d attend. 

Any excuse to visit Palm Springs! Yes I’d attend. 

I will come, as long as I can bring my dog. (he loves parties!)

Not an escort...
...but this is probably a case by case scenario. Some providers are open to a lot. However, it comes down with the provider/client comfortability and communication. So if you're in to something, and not sure if the provider is, talk to them directly about it. They may be ok with doing certain things with certain clients but not all clients.

This is true.   There is one relevant shade of gray in this particular situation that, in my opinion, matters most - the OP seems genuinely traumatized for the experience.   
Sure, in any interaction between two people, the potential for misunderstanding, insult, and injury exists.   In this case, for whatever reason, the provider took the knife of trauma, twisted it a couple times, and then came back the next day with a different weapon.   
While we must acknowledge fairly that the OP may have been contributory to the provider's reaction, it seems that the provider's reaction was beyond any measure of insult that might have been directed toward him.   Aftre all, if he's a "pro," he's seen it all and should have risen above the fray of the moment.   Otherwise, I'd have to question his constitution for this type of work.
 

There has been some useful and thoughtful commentary in this thread, but as others have alluded to, not all of it is encouraging. People will always see a variety of things in what's presented when asked about an uncomfortable experience. Almost everyone here has been there, reflected on what went well and what did not, and drawn conclusions of their own and the other party's actions. Some of those conclusions can be uncomfortable or even challenging.
When anyone poses the question here, not everyone will see it the same way, but when someone offers a raw or pained description of how they felt I think we owe them understanding and a serious explanation of how that experience could be seen, maybe differently than they did, for better or worse, not simply an endorsement of  the questioner's opinions about it. We certainly don't need to denigrate anyone's opinion of how their session went down, even if we see it in ways they might not agree with. And definitely not to offer them a gratuitous character assessment over what they asked.

No I don’t agree. Some guys are really anxious to go to a bath house (sauna) alone. They want someone to go with who will show them how to behave there and who they can walk around with to get comfortable.
If you’re exploring your sexuality or if you’re not conventionally good looking (or you think you aren’t attractive) then bath houses can be intimidating. It’s therefore helpful to have someone who will accompany you and spend time with you there to build your confidence. I’ve arranged quite a lot of sessions at bath houses with my clients. It’s sometimes to take someone who’s never been, sometimes it’s to help guys who want to have sex in public but who want to do it with someone they are attracted to, sometimes it’s to pretend I’m their boyfriend. 
I think in @ThrowawayAccount’s situation he didn’t get a very empathetic provider. He was clearly too anxious and it seems like there wasn’t much communication between the two of them about expectations. Someone with more patience and understanding would probably have behaved differently to him. It’s a lesson for guys hiring: choose carefully. I’ve had a few clients who seem to be far too anxious to relax despite me trying to help. I think some of these guys are still trying to work out things and they have misguided ideas about sex. They don’t need an encounter with a sex worker at that point, they need a counsellor or someone to help them get over the issues they have about their sexuality. 

Bottom line from this post is to never hire a provider to meet at a bath house! Bath houses are to go to for RANDOM encounters, not pre-planned ones. This detailed play-by-play is enough to hammer the point home. 

I love that photo. The book was on the coffee table in the lobby of the hotel I was staying at in Palm Springs last month and grabbed a pic… 
 

I love that photo. The book was on the coffee table in the lobby of the hotel I was staying at in Palm Springs last month and grabbed a pic… 
 

yeah you mentioned how terrible they are, your opinion is yours. and honestly it seems rude and condescending. Everyone has a different way of expressing themselves. I am not a career escort. I can promote myself however I see fit. Please be nice. The world needs kindness