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@Simon Suraci, I did read that 😂 I will reply more at length at a keyboard. I think in short it’s about a vibe. I can take screenshots and show what I mean by good and bad customer service. But to put to rest one thing: I don’t expect to receive uncompensated service. That said, a provider, in my opinion, shouldn’t expect compensated administration. Booking is admin work. Compensation is for time spent together.

…or lack of changes! There are guys I see on RM and I’m sure they’re not 26 🤣 There’s a guy I follow on IG who looks 26 but says he’s 45(?)–40 something anyway. He definitely doesn’t look like he’s 30. I was commenting to a friend last night about pictures of colleagues at a conference we weren’t at and said everyone looked so much older. Her response: we can’t all have a babyface. Meaning me…If I shave my beard I look like I’m 12. I told her it’s not always a gift to appear younger than you are. And it’s not.

I did not in fact. I read til I realized it was condescending, skipped to the end, saw it was still condescending, and said not investing mental energy in parsing the middle. I read some; not all.

@Simon Suraci not reading all that. You went to a lot of effort to either change my mind or discredit me here among our peers. Or both. You may have succeeded in the latter (likely I’m not held in high esteem to begin with) but I remain unmoved in the former. Especially with your condescending tone.

I just tried paying the monthly fee for a provider’s profile on RM. Never had trouble using my card before. Today…they asked for identification verification. Yes—I’m using Mastercard. The hurdles are ridiculous. Has anyone else had to submit identity verification to pay? It seems they want to move to crypto payments.

This is a legitimate question and one a provider should be willing to demonstrate on some level beyond profile pictures and his off-hand “Yes.” Some providers convey enthusiasm when texting with them. It’s really not hard to do. Others seem incapable of what would amount to troglodytes grunts if you were in person. I don’t need to discuss the ins and outs of Plato to set up an appointment but part of time together for me is the conversation. Just saying in your profile you like deep conversation doesn’t cut it. We all know and have discussed ad nauseam how useless those profiles are. If you can’t show some basic communication skills in texting, then I already know we’re not compatible.

I do. That’s what I said I do. But you have to engage a guy before you figure out he’s a flake. I have quite a bit of experience with guys I can tell are treating RM like a monetized Grindr. They want to get paid for casual sex. Put another way, they’ll fuck you for a cost, but wouldn’t if it were purely a hookup. It’s a get-rich-quick-and-have-fun-at-the-same-time scheme in their minds.

His specific proclivities aren’t germane to the topic of communicating about proclivities in general.

Vehemently disagree. If you don’t book within three texts with many of these guys, they get impatient or will ghost you themselves. I never ask for additional photos. Perhaps a phone call if I’m suspicious about English fluency, but not often that. But if I had a dollar for every time a provider asked after three or four texts “So when u wanna book?” I could book an overnight!

…and if you want to ask some questions before booking, many lose interest and may even accuse you of wasting their time. A quick “yea, I love that” is my indicator that he’s just out to score a client, not deliver a satisfactory experience.

There is a lot of verbal vomit in this thread. I recommend taking some muting mylanta.

Not necessarily. That’s too pollyannish.

Not unfortunate. Intelligent.

@EricRamirez– Ugh I’m sorry 😞 Feeling unsafe is not acceptable whatsoever. Time is irrelevant to him. He also took inordinate amount of time getting ready when we would go out.

‘There were no warning signs’: what happens when your partner falls into the ‘manosphere’? APPLE.NEWS More and more men are being sucked into parts of the internet that circulate misogynist content, leaving their... So this was a new word for me, but I knew it existed as a phenomenon. While this is extreme and definitely terrible, there is part of me that resonated with the remark the ex made in the article – “Now we are not together, I don’t need to agree with everything you say.” I have women friends that it’s sometimes simply easier to relinquish for the sake of the relationship than even keep discussing something, let alone to attempt to change how they view something, or even further…change their mind. It isn’t untrue for me to say that with some women, I just accept I’m always wrong or need clarification. They think I’m being funny when I say, “I’m always wrong,” and I do say it with a humorous tone, but behind the tone, the words themselves are truthfully expressed feelings. Of course, these same women would explain to me why feeling that way is wrong, so why bother going further. My experience is that many women don’t seem to actually have respect for men. It’s not the same disrespect many men have for women, but definitely disrespect nonetheless. No one is a saint here…the most self-professed open-minded folks tend to be anything but. Tell me why I’m wrong 😜

@samhexum – 🤔❓

I guess I just never understood this aside from a spouse and maybe a child or parent – and only maybe then. I wouldn’t have anyone to care for me. I don’t understand this obligation in large part because I don’t feel it and know no one feels it toward me.

I started as the head of the branch office when I was 27; looking back, that was such folly on the part of those higher up. I knew everything and made every mistake that could be made. I’m no longer at that branch, and it frankly amazing it’s still there after the series of mistakes I made and the tyrannical top-down changes I imposed. I’ve been at this branch since and can, again frankly, say that I learned from those mistakes and I’m now surprised that things are so successful despite how little I actually know. I’m not so sure it’s a Gen Z thing as it is a young person thing.

Speaking of… I heard on Morning Joe the other day, but didn’t get to listen to the story, that younger workers are taking “early retirement” periods between jobs when they switch now. That’s not exactly a bad idea. One, they have the energy and stamina to enjoy it at a younger age. Two, given the state of affairs in the world today and all the talk about crashing markets and social security implosions with no promise of an actual retirement later, it makes sense to hedge your bets a bit. In economics, money is always worth more to you now than later. Maybe the same is true for retirement?

No good deed goes unpunished. I have colleagues in positions tantamount to mine in other locations who are 65, 70, one I know is 73. It’s simply ridiculous. They’ll never spend all their retirement!

Part of the problem is that Millenials and Gen X should be the ones in positions largely still occupied by Boomers, so Millenials and Gen X are still in positions that would open up for Gen Z. There are all sorts of reasons for that, but the reality is the employment structure that had largely worked before as people aged out and new people come in isn’t working because the older crowd is sticking around longer. What’s irksome is the older crowd for blaming the newcomers for not adapting when it’s precisely the older crowd who is causing the problem because of their unwillingness or inability to adapt.

@Vegas_Millennial, yours wasn’t the post that revived this thread. I actually find your punny remark clever. But that notwithstanding, there was no reason to revive this thread. As long as people here bitch about Gen Z, I will rail against Boomers. I agree that Gen X and Millennials have been unfairly stereotyped – but even that is based in this pseudo-scientific generation model that I find hugely unhelpful and frankly unhealthy precisely because of how divisive it is.

Here when I thought this thread was done…It keeps hanging on when it should quit – just like boomers.

So…not to split hairs, but as it seems we are to justify DMs and who’s doing it. Forgive me for thinking the word “I” means “I.” Instagram DMs – I don’t respond OnlyFans DMs – I do respond The juxtaposition of these two is intentional to say that. The intellectual gymnastics to defend not responding anyhow on OF is a bit laughable. Does he mean what he says or is he lying? As for me, I’m happy enough to believe he’s a liar – and frankly, find it more believable that he is and is just taking advantage of guys who aren’t discerning enough to understand that. I don’t like people who take advantage of other people and I’m not going to support them or a platform that allows them to do that. I (here I mean me personally – not my secretary etc.) am not paying someone else to pose as someone who says “I respond to you here.” Why is anyone still talking about hiring? I said moving on from that. It was dumb of me to bring that up as it was less about that for me. It was about just how likely it was to get a response from this guy if you in fact subscribe to his OF. As is clear, through the circuitous, verbose apologetics here, highly unlikely. To the unmerited point of why I might want to DM the guy – he addressed it. I didn’t just decide, “Hey…be nice to chat with the guy.” He proactively posted on his IG about DMs and DMs only on his OF. So the topic was raised by him. By all this, you all have simply validated my cynicism. He likely won’t respond and is driving traffic to his OF. I’m not interested in promoting or supporting a liar. He doesn’t answer DMs. Full stop.