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Or put another way, entitled to a guy’s money simply because a guy reaches out. Or put more crudely, sees clients as nothing more than ATMs. I was going to say human ATMs, but such guys don’t really see us as human. Calling them providers is also laughable because they really only take. I’ve dealt with those types and if I sense it while attempting to book, it’s a pass. If it turns out I was duped, they generally offer a shitty experience and they’re definitely not a repeat.

Well, of course they’re not going to say they’re available for hire. Hence why I asked what the strategy is. In this hobby, we have been working with indirect discussion forever. “It’s against the rules” does not apply to any logical behavior in escorting because escorting is itself against the rules. There are clearly guys on IG who escort. And many a guy who does will direct you to his IG to see more pictures if you ask. So the question is…what strategies, if any, does someone use to approach a guy successfully on IG for a meetup? Clearly @arnemgreeves doesn’t do it nor does he have any advice on how to do so, but does anyone else?

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I’m sorry. I don’t like paying more for anything. Everything has gotten more expensive and I bitch about it. The product/service is no better…and my paycheck hasn’t gone up. In fact, my employer has told me that my health benefit will be reduced this year. So excuse me for not being happy that the cost of anything, including escorting, has gone up. I wish I could set my pay rate and just expect people to accept it and happily so!

How about this added element… Texting with a client who’s paid a deposit? Or bought a plane/train ticket already? I will book in advance. And I have (very rarely, and not without some unease) paid deposits. I believe that signals intent. I also like to text periodically before the meetup. I like to be friendly. I struggle with understanding how texting is such a time sucker. In my job, I receive emails, texts, and calls (I’d guess in that order of frequency) from people I work for at any hour of the day and in the middle of anything I’m doing. I always respond. It’s not an isolated event either. I have it from the moment I wake up til I go to sleep, even out of the office. Even with people who aren’t likely to produce a “connection.” I don’t find engaging people in communication in a people-job as that unbearable. I sometimes wonder what escorts do with all the time saved when they choose not to engage in small talk texting. I don’t mean that judgmentally, but just as a curiosity. I don’t invest a lot of time in a text conversation with specific folks as a general rule, and it usually satisfies/placates folks. When I send a message to a booked escort to make small talk maybe once a week before we actually meet, I don’t understand why that’s so terrible. It’s also okay for him to respond when he has a chance. I don’t expect immediate responses. I don’t like when an escort will say he’ll text me back because he’s occupied in the moment. Not once has that ever happened. Whether I’m attempting to initiate booking or I’m booked and just checking in. Like an escort can tell the particular signs of behavior of clients, I can read the particular signs of behavior of escorts after having done this for a while. “I’m not able to text right now. I’ll text you back in a few hours/tomorrow/next week” never materializes. At least it hasn’t for me. Maybe someone else has had followup, but no moi.

Me too. And I’m someone who does book…

@MikeBiDude, I know some guys here have from time to time mentioned having made such arrangements. So I know it happens. I’d like to hear from those who have success stories, particularly on IG. Not other platforms.

“TOS” never really stopped anyone before. There is PLENTY of salacious material on IG. Circumlocution has been the name of the game no matter the platform.

I have a proliferation of social media…I really don’t want more. And since Musk has lost his mind, I’m not excited about Twitter/X.

I know this has been visited on before… …but how do you guys who’ve done it have success engaging the services of guys on Instagram? I have yet to have any success. I’m sure many of these guys are on there. What am I missing as the clear indicator that a guy is a provider when I’m browsing Instagram?

That actually will make me want to give a knee-jerk “Next!”

But, but, but… It’s clients who waste time!

That’s how it is everywhere. And it’s even worse for women’s fashion too.

I wish I could have an electric bill under $100…

@Thomas_Belgium, all those shades of purple will be hard to distinguish not lined up against each other for comparison!

That’s the idea. Sometimes it’s a matter of finding the right thing in the right fit!

Never heard of Gruff Pup. Thanks!

Absolutely. Did that. Now I’m asking for first-hand recs.

I’ve given up hope on such things.

…what underwear/swimwear do you guys know of for plus-size guys that is “sexy?” I’m talking more than 300lbs… I will report fat-shaming comments, no matter how oblique.

Why must seemingly every thread descend into a catfight? 🙄

Also…speaking of waxing poetically! A prolix overture to a post if ever I did read one! 😂 * *Said with affection…I’m a lexophile at heart!

I’m torn. If the photos look too good, I’m not interested because I don’t want to be hiring a guy who thinks I’m there to pleasure him, as if he’s some pseudo-celebrity. At the same time, I don’t like grainy pictures that look like something run through an IG fifty times… In today’s age of smartphones, you can take good quality pictures without spending a fortune on a photographer or resorting to photo editing in IG or the like. Take some good pictures that show something decent (more than the nether regions, preferably) and post those. Normal photos suggest a meetup with a normal guy, at least subliminally.