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It’s probably this reason why guys who advertise they can either be your dom or sub don’t do one or the other as well as the other. In a broader sense, it’s always easier to just be who you are instead of putting on an act. Just be who you are. The act might not be malicious; can be well intended. But for most people, acting has an edge to it that can come over as ingenuine.

I don’t do 1hr sessions. But if I did, 10-2 would not be a good time for me. Interesting that it’s the busiest time for some…

No. There are plenty of clients here who have shared poor experiences across the spectrum of interaction. Hire him despite me. Knock yourself out. I care only insofar as I shared a very poor experience. After that, I don’t care whether you have a good or bad experience. I did my part. Don’t criticize me for trying to save you the headache. You read offense into this – prejudicially for I don’t know what reason.

I share your opinion on OF as a ripoff but I was trying to hone narrowly to the OP topic of a specific forum for OF. I don’t see the need.

Search Male Escorts & Best Gay Massage | Rent.Men RENT.MEN Search the best male escorts & gay-friendly masseurs and enjoy an amazing gay massage or gay escort... I hope that link works. But right there, simply putting in “FTM” renders 47 results. That’s more than you get with other searches that I would consider less niche. I didn’t do any further sleuthing, but you could cross-tab reference those usernames here in search to see if any have reviews.

There’s also the “pathetic” angle if you “need” to masturbate it must mean you aren’t able to win over someone for the real thing.

Some providers also seem annoyed they’re not the only gig in town too. Excuse me: I don’t have an exclusive contract with you.

Just put it in The Deli with a different number than 411. Or say OF in the subject. Seems sufficient for me 🤷🏼‍♂️ But what do I know?

Woooooah! I posted to say caveat emptor, not create a “dogpile.” Surely sharing a warning isn’t in poor taste?

“Capital” too. And “liabilities.”

I check in regularly with my regular. Another provider I thought I had a connection with has turned out to be uninterested to the point of rude if a scheduling is on the books. So I don’t check in with him anymore. One of my first guys is no longer officially doing escorting but we still communicate via Snapchat occasionally. He says he’d visit for the weekend for a dirt cheap rate, but I don’t know if I’m interested in that dynamic anymore.

Also don’t discount that they’re not looking to really provide a service as much as they are to make a quick buck off thirsty guys. It’s quite possible they are just looking to maximize their benefit – economically, temporally, physically, and financially.

Having dating a transguy, I just don’t resonate physically. Initially it was okay because of a personality compatibility, but when that fell apart, it was really not physically compatible either. 🤷🏼‍♂️

The term is “transman.” Having dated a transman, I speak on that with some level of confident authority. No doubt it will be called into question and challenged but that’s been my experience.

Am I dense? I don’t understand this comment 🤔

I don’t plan to hire him. That said, just out of morbid curiosity, I’d love to here some gossip on him, @Pensant

Blowing… hehe 🙃

Because we were discussing over in The Deli about looking for dominance and simply getting poor customer service, I went into my pea brain and considered it a bit… There’s a fine but crucial difference between assertive dominance and outright detached rudeness. Assertive dominance, when rightly expressed, is a form of strength that commands respect, earns trust, and—when paired with genuine care—can be deeply attractive, especially in romantic relationships. It’s the kind of presence that stands firm, makes decisions with confidence, and provides stability, all while being attuned to the needs and emotions of others. Many people, I believe, find themselves drawn to a partner who exudes this kind of quiet, self-assured power—someone who leads not through force or detachment, but through a combination of strength and attentiveness. But where assertive dominance can be a beautiful, magnetic trait, it is often warped into something far less admirable. Too often, what masquerades as confidence is really just laziness, a shield for detached rudeness, or worse, a form of unchecked ego. The difference is simple: true dominance is engaged, while false dominance is distant. True dominance leads, false dominance dismisses. A guy who is genuinely strong doesn’t need to belittle, stonewall, or act indifferent to maintain his authority—he already has it through his presence, through his ability to act decisively while still listening, through the way he makes others feel both safe and challenged. Especially in spaces where power dynamics are misunderstood or idealized, this distinction gets lost. A guy might act emotionally unavailable and call it “strength.” He might refuse to compromise and call it “confidence.” He might sneer instead of engage, bark orders instead of communicate, and convince themselves that his coldness is a virtue rather than a failure of emotional generosity. Detached rudeness, refusal to engage, and outright disregard for another person’s needs or emotions can be wrongly interpreted as signs of an alluringly unshakable figure. But in reality, these are not marks of strength; they’re signs of an unwillingness—or inability—to do the work that real connection requires. The difference is this: the truly strong do not need to be cruel. The truly dominant do not need to be distant. A guy who possesses real authority—whether in romance, in leadership, or in life—doesn’t rely on apathy or harshness to prove it. He simply is, and in that being, he creates space for others to exist fully as well.

That’s why I started a new discussion 👍🏻

Similar to Minnesota Nice? East Coasters tend to be assholes to your face, but will do anything to be helpful – even at times for strangers…all the while bitching but still doing it genuinely 😂

I think there’s a difference between assertive dominance and outright detached rudeness. I’m pondering that difference however. Stay tuned 😂

That’s an interesting take. I wonder if there might be resentment, from both sides, for different reasons. Has anyone ever had such an agreement and it worked?

Once the provider sours, there’s no coming back. I learned that with my first regular way back. A provider is also likely to cut off a client he deems incompatible; there’s no obligation a client carry on either if he’s displeased.

I just had a terrible exchange with JoshuaStorm of Vancouver on RM chat. He’s verbose and has a very high estimation of himself. He told me he won’t do anything in the US because it’s illegal here; that’s fine, his prerogative. But then he continues his verbal vomit and asks me if I’m new to this. When I tell him I’ve hiring for almost ten years he says he doesn’t care about my opinion. He also told me he doesn’t do fuck and run; he offers quality. When I ask his rates, he says it’s on his profile. I tell him that’s not viewable in the US whereupon he quotes me an hourly rate even after I told him I wanted an overnight rate for multiple days. Needless to say, no arrangements were made. Block. Sharing so others can be aware. Everyone makes their own choices. I would link his profile but I already blocked him and apparently RM removes your access to the profiles you block. Not a complaint; just an observation.