John

For me, at least, anal muscles are controlled by the brain. If you feel comfortable with your partner and trust him it will be easier to relax. A bit of conversation, some smiles, a laugh. For me kissing is also important. Tell yourself to relax, to go with the flow, to enjoy this hot man. It's a little like peeing: nothing comes unless you tell the bladder to open up. The ass won't loosen until you tell it too. Manipulation, teasing, and rimming help like massaging a tight muscle, but they also tell you that your partner doesn't want to hurt you, knows what he is doing, and most importantly, that you are safe.
 
An experienced top with a big dick should understand this, but there are plenty who approach a bottom like they are fucking the Lincoln Tunnel. I have even found that some Spanish and Latin American guys fuck like they are excavating for a swimming pool. These I have to remind that my internal organs are fine where they are and do not need rearranged.
 
And also, a man I knew many years ago who had more experience than most said, "sometimes the little ones hurt more because they poke you, but you can just ride a big one."

I think you'd have to be out of your mind to hire him.

From a clients perspective:
PNP
Not a single smile in any of the pictures
If I ask multiple questions and don't get answers to all of them--even worse: if I repeat a question and get no answer.

If I were in Chicago, I'd contact him.  It would have to be an in-call as I don't mess with Uber.  The discounts are a double-edged sword.  He's going to say "You are not VGL, $50 more" ? Or, which would he rather have a foul-smelling, 20-year-old college troll or a handsome, fit 60-year-old?

I think you'd have to be out of your mind to hire him.

From a clients perspective:
PNP
Not a single smile in any of the pictures
If I ask multiple questions and don't get answers to all of them--even worse: if I repeat a question and get no answer.

I was wishing for a fast forward button like on VCRs of old.

Also the obvious tip: use hunqz or romeo.com and NOT Rentmen in Europe.

Also the obvious tip: use hunqz or romeo.com and NOT Rentmen in Europe.

Polish, per se, would not be a problem for me (I am not marrying him), but I expect it to be neat, well-applied, and not chipped in any way.

Polish, per se, would not be a problem for me (I am not marrying him), but I expect it to be neat, well-applied, and not chipped in any way.

I was wishing for a fast forward button like on VCRs of old.

I was wishing for a fast forward button like on VCRs of old.

In general, he can call himself whatever he wants.  My only concern is how he acts with me. The worry, however, is that a self-identified "straight" guy might have unexpected limits and be less free in his actions. This can be disappointing.

Fortunately most of my hiring is in Berlin, but even here some, mostly new, are trying to push the rate up to 200.  I simply decline, refuse to negotiate, and tell them to wait for someone who will pay their price.  There are LOTS of hot guys at 150.

Fortunately most of my hiring is in Berlin, but even here some, mostly new, are trying to push the rate up to 200.  I simply decline, refuse to negotiate, and tell them to wait for someone who will pay their price.  There are LOTS of hot guys at 150.

So, here's my tire-kicking:
-- are you interested in meeting me? Not every provider is. I'm 70.
-- kissing?  It's important so I ask even if it is mentioned in the ad.
-- safe or bare? Not often specified in an ad.
-- compensation? I have my limits too.
Only the last one gets answered in every case. I prefer to get past these before going to a telephone number.  If some of you guys don't like that, there are others in the business. I find providers to have fun with, and if I don't, well, I get to keep the money.  Wheeeeeeee!

Simple.  Some of us contact multiple providers before making a decision: to make sure they are interested, to check a few requirements, to see how they respond.  Doing it by text puts a lot of strange numbers in my phone and increases the risk of an inappropriate message ("hey stud, wanna....") popping up at an inappropriate time (it happens).  Of course, once the date is firm I have no problem switching to text.

I think you'd have to be out of your mind to hire him.

I think you'd have to be out of your mind to hire him.

Fortunately most of my hiring is in Berlin, but even here some, mostly new, are trying to push the rate up to 200.  I simply decline, refuse to negotiate, and tell them to wait for someone who will pay their price.  There are LOTS of hot guys at 150.

Fortunately most of my hiring is in Berlin, but even here some, mostly new, are trying to push the rate up to 200.  I simply decline, refuse to negotiate, and tell them to wait for someone who will pay their price.  There are LOTS of hot guys at 150.

All those incredibly hot pics and not a single smile.

From a clients perspective:
PNP
Not a single smile in any of the pictures
If I ask multiple questions and don't get answers to all of them--even worse: if I repeat a question and get no answer.

Has happened to me.
My response: "yes, I completely understand your choice.  You will also completely understand mine to never have contact with you again."