Simon Suraci

Here is a copy of my rimmer’s pocket guide, this time formatted in black and bold for easier reading. Dark mode is so much easier on your eyes, guys. Anyway, for those who insist on living way back in the light ages...
Rimming 101
1.  Cleanliness. Be sure the rimmee is clean and prepared so there’s no anxiety about it. If either of you prefer natural, musky, sweaty, or not cleaned out at all, have good communication beforehand to get on the same page.
2. Foreplay. Get warmed up and build up some anticipation. Do not rush. Kiss, touch, oral (cocks), nipples, stimulate erogenous zones, neck, ears, pits, whatever gets both of you going.
3. Control. The rimmer should initiate rimming. Move your partner’s body, even throw him around a bit if you like. Indicate with your body language that his hole is yours and you’re taking it. Assuming you’ve both worked out some mutual consent beforehand.
4. Position. Some enjoy doggie style or 69 style rimming. These are fine to mix it up, but they offer less access and a suboptimal angle. You’re fighting to get in there to the best places. The first and primary position I recommend is with the rimmee on their back, at the edge of a bed or comfortable horizontal surface. A sling works well too. The important thing is both of you are comfortable, and the rimmer’s body is lower than the rimmee’s. Don’t strain your neck getting low. Raise your partner to a comfortable level and consider bolstering their pelvis with a pillow. You’re going to be in this position for a while and you don’t want to be preoccupied with fucking up your neck. You might also consider a knee pillow or something to cushion your knees.
5. Do not neglect his balls. Start with the taint and scrotum, and return to them periodically. Take advantage of how sensitive his scrotum is right off the bat and apply light pressure with your tongue, almost like running your fingertips over his body. This will drive him crazy. Run your tongue all the way up to the side of his cock and around each side of his scrotum. Then run down the taint and back up the middle of the scrotum. At points, return to this technique throughout the rimming session. It feels better and better the more turned on he gets. Vary the pressure at times, using your whole tongue with heavier pressure, and then medium, then light. Vary with using just the tip of your tongue.
6. Avoid over stimulating the opening or going inside too deep or too often. A lot of men just shove their tongue directly into the opening and try to worm their way inside. Do NOT do this. Rimming is a dance, a tease, and an extended buildup of pleasure. It’s all about anticipation, not arrival. By all means you can do the worm move, but use it sparingly, as a surprise, an accent, a flourish, not the main thing. It quickly gets repetitive and boring on its own, and you tend to overstimulate that way.
7. Magic button. This is the secret to mindblowing rimming sessions. For spatial reference, he’s lying on his back now, and you’re kneeling in front of him. Men have a very sensitive point above their opening, at the base of their taint. It’s not a button, more of a divet, a slight depression. Magic button is sexier than saying divet. Call it what you will. You can find it by running your tongue above their opening and finding some muscles running just to either side of it in a downward V shape. For those of you familiar with finding a clitoris, it’s not that far removed of a process, except there’s nothing sticking out to draw out. You have to find it buried within the tissue, almost like giving a deep tissue massage. (Damn, I’m good at my job!) The button is at the top of that V point, close to the outer edge of sensitive skin surrounding the hole, but still within it. It’s not inside the opening. Go above the opening. It takes a lot of practice finding the button. Don’t be discouraged. Practice, practice, practice.
8. Once you’ve found the magic button, press with the tip of your tongue into it. Vary your pressure from heavy to light. Maintain firm pressure, then release, then barely touch it. Switch up your stimulation techniques. Tickle it, tease it. Try everything you can to stimulate in just a little different way, and keep changing it. Vary your patterns and switch it up. The button is a powerful sensation point, but just like the glans penis, it’s not everything. Come back to it regularly but please keep a balance of stimulating ALL the areas around his hole. Do not overstimulate any one spot. That is KEY to your success.
9. Use your breath. Suck in air slowly, and then rapidly. Concentrate it in a small opening in your lips, or over your whole open mouth, and everything in between. When you suck in air, it cools the surface of his skin. It’s quite stimulating, especially when combined with other techniques at the same time or one right after the other. Similarly, slowly exhaling warm air will stimulate him in a little different way. The contrast between warm and cool is mesmerizing. Controlled breathing can even be part of your tantric practice if you want to incorporate it with your rimming skills. You can almost go into a trance.
10. Use your hair. If you have a beard, use it to your advantage. Push your chin up into the bowl of his hole and run it up and over across the taint and onto his balls. Use this technique periodically and return to it here and there. If your facial hair is particularly coarse, soften it with beard oil and conditioning products. Nobody wants steel wool on their asshole. If you have stubble, be VERY careful. It’s a hazard with rimming because you can get carried away in the moment and scratch him inadvertently. It really hurts. Stubble can be nice when used in a controlled way, but generally does not feel good on sensitive skin, especially for extended periods. If your chin is smooth or freshly shaven, use it similarly as mentioned above. It’s a different sensation but equally good to provide some variety. If you have long hair on your head, incorporate that stimulation into your routine. 
11. Use your nose. Yup, that’s right. Don’t laugh, it’s seriously a great technique. Run your nose up and down, all over. Do the same breath techniques already mentioned, but through your nostrils. Press your nose directly into his opening. You don’t need to fuck him this way, just use pressure. It’s kind of like frottage in that way. Use your nose as a way to provide more and varied pressure everywhere, including the taint. Come back to using your nose here and there, but not for a long time at a stretch. As with any of these tips, do a little bit of everything. See what drives him crazy, see what sticks. Then withhold it from him and surprise him with it later…so much so that he squeals and begs!
12. Use your tongue. Obviously. What is not so obvious is to maintain variety. Use your whole broad tongue up from the ass crack all the way over his hole, up over his taint, past his balls, and lick his cock. Then try medium pressure, or less tongue contact, or just the tip, or light contact. Try slow, like VERY slow. That drives him nuts. Occasionally go faster, but not for the majority or for a long stretch. Too many men try to go too fast for too long. It’s too fucking much! Just calm down and take your time. It’s not a race. Please avoid: tickling and swaying with the tip of your tongue the way Eastern European porn actors kiss. It’s annoying. Be more intentional. Get more creative.
13. Involve his cheeks. Lightly bite or lick his ass cheeks. Use your hands. Rub your beard or chin against them. The hole is not everything. Cheek play provides more variety and more stimulation.
14. Hold his legs. Check in regularly. Sometimes he needs a break for his legs. Rimming can’t go forever otherwise he’s too raw. Find the right limit for you both, and don’t be afraid to move on to something else and come back to rimming later. Often rimming is foreplay leading to penetration, but it’s a worthwhile activity on it’s own.
15. Spread his cheeks. But not the whole time. Use this technique as another form of variety. The sensation is slightly different when you do this. Even better with the contrast of not doing it and then returning to it later.
16. Vary your motions. Try spelling something with letters across his hole, or whatever it takes to get you to avoid making the same dull motions over and over. Avoid too much monotony. Every 30 seconds change at least one item from the above list, by adding, changing, or taking away. Variety is paramount to your success.
17. Stimulate his cock. Rimming is about his hole, not his cock. However, feel free to add a little cock stimulation, a little lick, a little stroke, a little brush. This can be pretty sexy and gives more variety. If he’s hard, you might consider stroking him. If he’s soft, don’t worry, it’s completely normal and more typical for him to be flaccid. He can still be extremely turned on in this state, so do not take that as an indication of your success. His breathing, moaning, arching, verbal affirmations, and so on also tell you you’re both on your way to bliss.
18. Ditch the underwear. It’s sexy beforehand, but you need full access. Not just jockstrap level openness. You need the whole damn buffet on display to work your magic. Use all the tools in your box and use the whole box laid out in front of you, not just one corner. And if the box is only half open, rip off whatever is in your way and proceed with passion.
19. Most importantly, love what you do. If you’re not into it, it shows. [good] Rimming is not for everyone, certainly not the faint of heart. If you’re not into it, please save your partner the annoyance of performing a half-assed rim job, pun intended.
20. When he begs you to fuck him, you know you’re doing something right.
21. Advanced technique ***approach with extreme caution***: Biting the magic button. If and only if, and when you master the magic button, experiment with biting it. By that, I mean in a very controlled way. Softly. Think of the way you might nibble on someone’s earlobe, or maybe their nipples, but not hard like some guys enjoy their nipples tortured. Please do not attempt without consent, or without mastering the magic button. If you are not sure you have, you most definitely have not mastered the magic button. It takes a long time and lots of practice to even find it, much less master it. If you manage to do all of that, then consider experimenting with some light, controlled biting. It places pressure in a concentrated point where extreme pleasure is centered. Do not do this for an extended time. Only a little nip for a few seconds here and there. That’s all you need. It’s the cherry on top, not a scoop below.

Sky’s touch that would be helpful :)

I’ve heard good things about Reyn from a couple of my clients. He’s on my list to try.
What does his membership service entail? Cost, frequency, services?

It was a delight meeting @IronMaus in PS a few weeks ago. I can’t say I am one to hire for anything more than therapeutic massages from time to time. If I did, Maus would be right up there on my list. He’s a gem.

I LOVE rimming. It’s among my best sexual talents, and one of my specialties. I enjoy doing this for my clients, and sometimes they book me just for a rimming session. It’s not infrequent I make men cum this way. Great if a client enjoys rimming me too, but I’m truly a giver. I wrote a guide. Linking below:
 

These drugs sound like more trouble than it’s worth. And it’s not permanent. Even if you experience success without any major side effects, you still have to stay on the drug indefinitely… as soon as you stop the meds, the weight comes right back!
Meanwhile your body still needs adequate nutrients every day. Not eating enough quantity and variety of the right foods poses other problems.
What about good old fashioned lipo? 😛

many gay men share a history of being bullied & mocked as children/teens when they didn’t fit-in, looking & acting different.
funny how some haven’t learned as adults how to extend grace when someone looks/acts different
i guarantee there are people in all of our lives that don’t understand our choices - and they don’t need to.  same thing 
 
 

I agree completely, but have also been here long enough to know that under the guise of anonymity, people post some ugly shit.
It's always appreciated to see someone occasionally remind us to not act like uncouth swine.

It was a delight meeting @IronMaus in PS a few weeks ago. I can’t say I am one to hire for anything more than therapeutic massages from time to time. If I did, Maus would be right up there on my list. He’s a gem.

I have found Rent Masseur to be hit or miss with providers responding.  I have seen providers more than once, in fact one is a regular that never responded to a review.  Seems like a timing thing more than anything where they may respond to a bunch at once, then not be on the site for awhile after.
Rent Men has been different for me for whatever reason.  If I have a good time and post a review, I'll text the provider something like hey had a great time and I posted a review.  
Three times now that I have done that I have gotten replies via text thanking me profusely for doing that and telling me they will make my next session extra special.  Great marketing on their part because of course I rebooked them to see what that extra special was.  I will say all three came through big time,  so no complaints here.
 

I preemptively booked a whole week in a deluxe pool view room at InnDulge for next year 4/7/25-4/14/25. That room type has a better shower, more clear floor space for my massage table…and more room for various extracurricular activities. Maybe I will set up a sling 😈 

In my experience, when you seem the same masseur regularly things progress naturally to the level they're comfortable. My regular guy definitely goes way further now than when I started seeing him three years ago. But we also have lovely chats, and genuine chemistry. But that unfolded over time. 

So I just left the session and it did change.  The routine was the same up to the HE part where his shorts were down.  He was again sporting a rock hard boner.  This time I stroked that, but I also massaged his biceps a bit which he seemed cool with, then I reached under the shirt and massaged his stomach and nipples, again seemed ok.  So I put my hand on his hip and slightly tugged towards me and before you know it, I had something in my mouth.  We both had near simultaneous finishes.  Was a fantastic day!

You can always ask if he offers other services and if so what are the prices.. but if he says no he’s only a masseur then I’d let him lead and see how far it goes.. I’ve had some guys after a few appts and get more comfortable allow more to happen and I tip well to show them my appreciation and I’ve had other times where the provider doesn’t.

He’s being respectful of you. Thats to be valued. As a masseur I really appreciate the clients who aren’t demanding I fuck them or whatever. I suggest you take it slowly with him and if you’d like him fully naked for example then perhaps run your hand up his torso under his top when his shorts come down. He’ll get the hint and either remove his top, or your hand….

I LOVE rimming. It’s among my best sexual talents, and one of my specialties. I enjoy doing this for my clients, and sometimes they book me just for a rimming session. It’s not infrequent I make men cum this way. Great if a client enjoys rimming me too, but I’m truly a giver. I wrote a guide. Linking below:
 

I need to get in on this action next year.
Me, pretty much:

I need to get in on this action next year.
Me, pretty much:

I preemptively booked a whole week in a deluxe pool view room at InnDulge for next year 4/7/25-4/14/25. That room type has a better shower, more clear floor space for my massage table…and more room for various extracurricular activities. Maybe I will set up a sling 😈 

I preemptively booked a whole week in a deluxe pool view room at InnDulge for next year 4/7/25-4/14/25. That room type has a better shower, more clear floor space for my massage table…and more room for various extracurricular activities. Maybe I will set up a sling 😈