GregWillingAble

"I'm horny. Wanna fuck?!" - Ignore.
"hi" or "u free?" - I'll still generally ignore. 

"Hi, I saw your ad and I'm interested" - They'll get a... "Thanks, please do tell me about yourself and what you're looking for?". If they elaborate within the next two message, cool... I'll engage and pursue.  
"Hi. My name is XXXX and I'm interested in an hour of XXXXX. I'm XX years old, XXXX height & build, not into XXXXX. Can you help!?" - 🧡🤲 WIN!!! You have my complete attention and I'll see what I can do 🙂
Re: Rates. 

I will specify my hourly rates and that trusted regular arrangements or longer bookings may be open to a little discount. But if you continue to haggle or push that my (completely standard national) rates are too high, or if I can do a "first timer discount", I will stop replying. If I were to offer a "first timer discount" and you never returned after, you've just screwed me out of my usual rate. Simple. So don't ask.
"But I know a masseur who'll also do a happy ending for just £40!" - Well, I'm an escort. Not a masseur. If you know a masseur who is happy to compromise their professional code of conduct and devalue themselves by doing sex work and not getting paid a standard rate for it, more fool them! 
This isn't an auction. If you don't like a sex worker's rates and terms of their own flexibility, please don't insult them by trying to barter, complain or plead a case. Us devaluing ourselves is of absolutely no benefit to us. 
 

"I'm horny. Wanna fuck?!" - Ignore.
"hi" or "u free?" - I'll still generally ignore. 

"Hi, I saw your ad and I'm interested" - They'll get a... "Thanks, please do tell me about yourself and what you're looking for?". If they elaborate within the next two message, cool... I'll engage and pursue.  
"Hi. My name is XXXX and I'm interested in an hour of XXXXX. I'm XX years old, XXXX height & build, not into XXXXX. Can you help!?" - 🧡🤲 WIN!!! You have my complete attention and I'll see what I can do 🙂
Re: Rates. 

I will specify my hourly rates and that trusted regular arrangements or longer bookings may be open to a little discount. But if you continue to haggle or push that my (completely standard national) rates are too high, or if I can do a "first timer discount", I will stop replying. If I were to offer a "first timer discount" and you never returned after, you've just screwed me out of my usual rate. Simple. So don't ask.
"But I know a masseur who'll also do a happy ending for just £40!" - Well, I'm an escort. Not a masseur. If you know a masseur who is happy to compromise their professional code of conduct and devalue themselves by doing sex work and not getting paid a standard rate for it, more fool them! 
This isn't an auction. If you don't like a sex worker's rates and terms of their own flexibility, please don't insult them by trying to barter, complain or plead a case. Us devaluing ourselves is of absolutely no benefit to us. 
 

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

There are very distinctive differences between Prostitutes, Sex Workers and Escorts. For as long as any of those are criminalised, the others need that difference in distinction in order to survive and not get tarred with the same brush. 

As said previously...

A prostitute is considered someone who solicits clients in public with a set rate for specific sex acts. In most western societies, this is illegal.  

An Escort is someone who charges for the time and companionship - any sex that happens is irrelevant and is effectively just private sex between two consenting adults. In most western societies, this is perfectly legal.

A sex worker is someone whose work is of a sexual nature, but is within the confides of legal parameters and not necessarily involving other people (such as porn performers / cam modes / Only Fans etc), and can include the likes of dominatrices and dungeon masters etc.

... and a "Masseur" is NONE OF THESE. 😠

There are very distinctive differences between Prostitutes, Sex Workers and Escorts. For as long as any of those are criminalised, the others need that difference in distinction in order to survive and not get tarred with the same brush. 

As said previously...

A prostitute is considered someone who solicits clients in public with a set rate for specific sex acts. In most western societies, this is illegal.  

An Escort is someone who charges for the time and companionship - any sex that happens is irrelevant and is effectively just private sex between two consenting adults. In most western societies, this is perfectly legal.

A sex worker is someone whose work is of a sexual nature, but is within the confides of legal parameters and not necessarily involving other people (such as porn performers / cam modes / Only Fans etc), and can include the likes of dominatrices and dungeon masters etc.

... and a "Masseur" is NONE OF THESE. 😠

There are very distinctive differences between Prostitutes, Sex Workers and Escorts. For as long as any of those are criminalised, the others need that difference in distinction in order to survive and not get tarred with the same brush. 

As said previously...

A prostitute is considered someone who solicits clients in public with a set rate for specific sex acts. In most western societies, this is illegal.  

An Escort is someone who charges for the time and companionship - any sex that happens is irrelevant and is effectively just private sex between two consenting adults. In most western societies, this is perfectly legal.

A sex worker is someone whose work is of a sexual nature, but is within the confides of legal parameters and not necessarily involving other people (such as porn performers / cam modes / Only Fans etc), and can include the likes of dominatrices and dungeon masters etc.

... and a "Masseur" is NONE OF THESE. 😠

Sorry, but no.
Firstly... a prostitute and escort are two different things entirely. A prostitute is someone who publicly solicits for sex that comes with a specific price tag per act (illegal in most places). Escorting is paying someone for their time - what happens in that time is between two consenting adults (legal in many places). Sensual masseurs are a huge grey area, where they mostly seem happy to do the work of a prostitute or escort for a bit of extra cash - but mostly underselling themselves by not openly calling it "sex work", and probably violating most ethical / professional codes of conduct for any trained health professional.    
Secondly... saying an erotic masseur is the same as an escort "just because they are both sex workers" is like saying an Uber driver and a private chauffeur are the same thing just because they both drive cars.
Sure, ultimately they can both help you arrive at the same destination. But the service you pay for and agree to in advance are two VERY different things, and should not be confused.

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities  

Sorry, but no.
Firstly... a prostitute and escort are two different things entirely. A prostitute is someone who publicly solicits for sex that comes with a specific price tag per act (illegal in most places). Escorting is paying someone for their time - what happens in that time is between two consenting adults (legal in many places). Sensual masseurs are a huge grey area, where they mostly seem happy to do the work of a prostitute or escort for a bit of extra cash - but mostly underselling themselves by not openly calling it "sex work", and probably violating most ethical / professional codes of conduct for any trained health professional.    
Secondly... saying an erotic masseur is the same as an escort "just because they are both sex workers" is like saying an Uber driver and a private chauffeur are the same thing just because they both drive cars.
Sure, ultimately they can both help you arrive at the same destination. But the service you pay for and agree to in advance are two VERY different things, and should not be confused.

Agreed. Some clients want to get off and think they can beat the stigma of hiring for sex by seeing a massage therapist, and some think they can save money and request escort services from a massage therapist. 
Some people think masseurs are budget prostitutes, and some masseurs market themselves that way, but it hurts masseurs, it hurts escorts, and it hurts the egos of men when their offers are declined, and their expectations aren't met if they didn't have the balls to ask for things upfront.

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

This is why I have a registered massage therapist for my massage needs and then see an escort for the rest.

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

"How to bring up more with your masseur?" - Simple... agree to parameters upfront and you - the client - learn the difference between a "masseur" and a "sex worker". 
This is a subject that, frankly, pisses me and a lot of other actual escorts / sex workers off, as the grey areas some masseurs work in really make life difficult for everyone.
I'm a sex worker / escort. I'm happy to offer (self taught) massage as part of my bookings. I charge standard male sex worker rates for my sessions... and obviously I am open to all pre-agreed sex acts during those sessions. However, I have lost count how many enquiries I've had by men who balk at my rates and say "I know a masseur who'd do that for £40!" 
1. More fool that masseur for doing the work of a sex worker and but not getting paid their worth, just because they want to avoid the label of being a "sex worker". 
2. Masseurs might except the request to give a happy-finish or more for an extra on-the-spot tip, but there is no ethical obligation to actually do it. If they aren't attracted to the client, they could make take offence at the offer and you feel awful for simply requesting it.  How much they bend their ethical code of professional conduct on occasions should never be at the expense of misleading a client and shaming them for expecting a more sexual service. 
If you want a professional massage, see a masseur. If you want sex and intimate contact, don't be cheap and expect a masseur do bend their rules for you for a little extra pocket money.... See an sex worker who will be happy to set comfortable parameters for everyone up-front, and get exactly what you pay for (with the option for more) with no risk of rejection, judgement or shaming. 
And masseurs... please... either just be sex workers or stay in your lane. I promise you'll still get more regular work than we do. 

Condoms are the initial assumption with all my bookings, but I am open to bareback requests from clients - but only following a sincere and honest conversation about our sexual health practises first. I am routinely checked very often at my clinic with a full screening and am on PrEP, which is as much about protecting myself as it is them. 
However, I will still charge a considerable premium for bareback (whether I am top or bottom). That premium definitely forces them to take the principle of bareback seriously and consider their own behaviour rather than judge mine. In my 6 years of sex work, this approach has worked very well and there has never been an issue.
Without sounding preachy... "Safe sex" is as much about clear conversation as it is condoms.   A premium charge for bareback is just a logical insurance policy for everyone. 

Clients flaking is part of the course for sure. I've had a few last minute cancellations / no-shows who suddenly ghost, but I always ensure I've had a proper phone conversation after any initial arrangements by text. This tends to help ween out the likely flakes before anyone has really lost anything. 
I've had a few clients offer deposits before (usually for longer, niche bookings or outcalls that involve travel costs which is appreciated), but I've tended to avoid asking for them personally for standard hour incalls and other basic arrangements. I've heard so many tales from clients who've been ripped off my escorts demanding deposits and it infuriates me.
Sure, there are clients trying to take advantage of the escort which hopefully we are all sensible and experienced enough to see a mile-off and avoid. But, we (the sex workers) are in a more threatening and intimidating position to a nervous, naive client sometimes and it seems to becoming more common for supposed (usually new) sex-workers to exploit of that, which just gives us all a shitty reputation. 
If you take the time to offer reassurance and sincerity before hand, most of the time a client will do the same if their circumstances change and they have to cancel / postpone. 
 
 
 

I agree clear conversation is important. So is regular testing. I’m on prep and I prefer not to use condoms (to top or to bottom) but I think it’s just a personal choice. If a client wants to use a condom that’s fine too. 

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities  

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities  

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities  

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities  

Yes, absolutely I kiss clients. Kissing is my biggest initial turn-on, and for me it is the first clue into establishing the kind of chemistry I will have with a client and helps me navigate what they will / won't be comfortable with. So it is important on a basic sexual interaction level really (but yes, good oral hygiene is expected, and I will never permit anyone tasting or smelling of cigarettes). 
Clients who don't like / want to kiss do make things awkward sometimes, as I'm instantly starting on the backfoot and have to try and rustle that incentive up in other ways. If they want me to top, it makes my role trickier as kissing gets my dick going.  So it's more of a challenge if the connection that comes with kissing isn't there. 
Just try it guys. Good kissing leads to all kinds of opportunities