Your Man in Arlington

On 5/17/2024 at 4:58 PM, DrownedBoy said:

I've never met a provider who asked my STD status.

I'm hoping it's because, like me, they assume that all their partners have STDs (including HIV) and take the proper measures. 

I had one young, inexperienced provider ask, and I thought it was ridiculous. Of course, I don't think I have or have been exposed to anything based on my visual and sensory experience. But that's no guarantee, especially since so many STDs can remain asymptomatic.

8 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

 🤮

Sorry, I have no experience with 😺.  I am a proud Platinum Star ⭐ Gay.  Any tips or tricks based on my experience have pertained only to the arse.

I think we can substitute "bussy" or even "mussy"? Yes? No? Maybe?

On 3/9/2024 at 8:55 PM, socurious said:

And it hurts even more trying to do doggy style!!

Maybe not with a toy, but I think spooning can be a great position for a beginner (or experienced) bottom. If the top lets you "drive," you have great control of position, depth and pace; and, most dick shapes will provide an excellent prostate massage all along the way in and out.

11 hours ago, socurious said:

Are you saying I should get a bigger dick to play with?

I'm 6" - 6 1/4" long and about 4 1/4" around. From what I've read I'm  slimmer than average, and not short, but not also not long.

I've had nothing but rave reviews as a top, and very recently had a provider request that I get him off while I was buried inside him. Afterwards he said I had the perfect size dick for topping, hit everything in the right place. Of course, everyone has their unique anatomy and preferences, and as a provider it may be more important for him not to get too much at a time.

As others mentioned, it's more important to find someone who really enjoys topping, in that they enjoy the process of going slow and feeling a bottom open up around them. I love it so much that I still sometimes find it hard not to cum during insertion and will have to go through multiple cooling off periods. 😅

PNP but no rimming? 🤔

18 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Ah... This right here.  If you're not horny, then it's not going to feel good.  You need to want that tongue/finger/penis/fist inside you with all of your being.  Then your sphincter will open up and swallow whatever it is!  Enjoy!

All of my best experiences as a bottom were after an "I need that in me" moment. Not because it was large or impressive, there's just something about certain cocks that call out to be taken in.

BrettNY AI'd into an alternate universe. For prior thread see:

So far, I've only met with 2 guys who identified as bi in their profile, and both were very into kissing as well as everything else we did. 🤷‍♂️

While it's one less transmission route, unless your using condoms for oral, aren't you still putting yourself at risk for exposure to STIs?

Over the past year I've met up 32 times, 7 of them for massage, another 8 with a local regular, and then only a few other repeats. Most of them were in bursts while traveling. This is after going 3 years without any sensual/sexual contact. I'm recently starting to feel caught up on that deficit, so I foresee the frequency dropping dramatically.

In my dozen plus meetings over the past year, I have rimmed every guy with with no issues—usually welcomed, even—whether or not it was listed in their profile. Being the giver in rimming is more important to me then getting, which I do enjoy, and pretty much a must for me whether I'm topping, bottoming, or flipping.

I have only been rimmed 3 times:

Once the guy just kept traveling south after some head.

With another, I had asked about rimming when we started the meeting, meaning me rimming him, but while he was giving me a backrub/massage at the start of the session, he dove right in.

The latest asked if he could rim me while we were in the middle playing, and to others' point in this thread, it was one of the best—if the not the best—rimming of my life because he was just into it as an activity.

I hesitate to ID any one provider, because for whatever reason, I agree with @marylander1940 think it's a more likely to be a case by case or moment by moment decision for a provider than other activities. I'm also meticulous about cleanliness, and will be sure to thoroughly shower, prep and/or finger check as close to a meeting as possible.

Down to one faceless chest pic and "Usually looking for around 1k to meet…" is now in profile text (which I didn't think was allowed).

Based on the photo with the tape measure, he doesn't know how to properly measure, and is adding 1.5" - 2" to quoted length.

I don't see the actual length a problem—not a size queen, and it's plenty big—but why make an assertion and then have a photo that disproves it?

This can sometimes be an issue with me depending on the provider, mood, or how recently I came. When this happens, I have no problem saying that we need to take a break, and even breaking contact (pulling out or guiding them off or away). Never been a problem, and providers have been more than happy to make sure I'm getting the desired experience.

So, I would provide some direction along with those four words, eg. "I come very easily, so we may need to slow down or back off at times."

9 hours ago, spacecowboy said:

so everyone likes to call this out, and i get it.  i will say, i have noticed that sometimes i "search" and nothing comes up - to include stuff i've commented on.  dunno if its a glitch or what, but even if someone tries a search, it can appear to come up empty.

If you're reading a forum or particular topic the search box defaults to restricting your thread to that scope. I've been faked out by this many times, it's very frustrating.

8 hours ago, Archangel said:

I don’t believe I have any reviews on my RM client profile

The reviews would most likely be on Mr Number. RM doesn't allow providers to review clients on their platform.

On 11/9/2023 at 5:29 AM, DamizzonNYC said:

Like someone said above: rehearsal is everything!

Just commiserating: I'm still figuring all of this out, too.

After prepping for almost an hour earlier this week, I still had a very little bit of mess, but enough to interrupt activities.

Then today, I didn't prep at all (other than the finger test) for a meeting with a strictly/mostly bottom. Plans changed, his "service top" side emerged, and I was as clean as, or even cleaner than a whistle.

The two differences I can discern are that I forgot to take psyllium the night before the first guy and met with him in the afternoon, which was after my first meal of the day.

For the second guy, I took psyllium the night before, and met with him earlier in the day, before my first meal.

Too bad there's no way to perform a controlled, double-blind study for each independent variable. 😜

I saw Djthomas in DC last July, have since had numerous PM inquiries from my post on the thread about him, and all reports back have been very positive!

5 minutes ago, coriolis888 said:

In his ad, under "Safe/bb" he says "safe only" but in looking at his open photos of himself, he shows two naked guys, graphically having anal sex.

Some providers are strictly safe-only with clients, but not in their personal life or when creating OF content.

Maybe there are negative comments on Mr Number associated with the number you text from?

6 hours ago, Thique said:

Going silent is not OK. At the very least the provider should communicate if they are running late and an expected ETA. This communication should be sent before the scheduled meeting time. This is common courtesy and good business etiquette.

This! Communication is key, and 15 minutes without communication is my upper limit, as well.

Fortunately, all of my hires so far have been on time or communicative, even if just a few minutes late. I think the longest I've had to wait is 15 minutes. And, I've even had a few guys arrive "Japanese on-time" time: 5 - 10 minutes early.

One case that was somewhat different was a same day hire, who said that he would shower and head my way, but couldn't confirm an ETA. He seemed more worried about me flaking, as he spent his entire metro ride chatting with me over text.

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

But many of us are already married and/or in relationships and are just looking for some hot🔥hot SEX.

I'm married, but for me kissing is still a part of  hot🔥hot sex.

Was just quoted $300/hr or $550 for 2, lowest NYC rate I've seen in about a year.

I'm looking for more of a BFE type experience when I hire (kissing required), so I avoid straight providers. I've had good experiences with both gay and bi guys, and am more concerned about "I am into" than orientation.

I will always start on RM messenger before moving to text, unless the profile specifically says to contact them by text. Mostly works out for me.

I've recently noticed some providers include a phone number for texting, so you have to contact them on RM messenger first. Probably provides them some level of inquiry control and screening?