Money first

[Chelo]

Guys, is it a turn off for escorts that wants you to pay first before the action? Or it’s just a normal and purely business and no need to be too sensitive about it?

[azulpalido]

I've found that it means one of two things...

 

- that escort has been ripped off several times

- that escort has ripped off others several times

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Guys, is it a turn off for escorts that wants you to pay first before the action? Or it’s just a normal and purely business and no need to be too sensitive about it?

I only take out my wallet once.

So I can pay first, but it means no tip at the end, because I am not taking out my wallet once again!

[Chelo]

I've found that it means one of two things...

 

- that escort has been ripped off several times

- that escort has ripped off others several times

@azulpalido isn’t it insulting for a client’s part that escorts think they are a ripped off kind of customers?

[youngboldone]

It hasn't happened to me, although I've only hired now a couple of times. If it ever did happen, it would be offputting to me. I would not tip, and I would not hire the provider again. It would taint the entire session for me because asking for money upfront starts things off with a sense of distrust, and I would not be able to fully get comfortable and enjoy myself knowing the escort distrusted me from the start. This is why I think vetting (on both sides) is important - to get to know a little bit about each other's personality via a short phone call and establish a small foundation of trust before you meet face to face.

[+ lookingforfunny]

It is usually a scammer who requests up front. Especially, if you host.

[GTMike]

It would make me very uncomfortable and off-putting, and it has only happened twice when i first started exploring this, but in the escort's defense, it was only after about 30 - 45 mintues after initially meeting and we were in public bars/casino's at that time getting to know each other and in restropect i think the guys were worried that I would be the one who would bounce and not live up to the session expectations and could just "talk and dash".

 

Once i started "hosting" and having guys come to my house it would totally make me uncomfortable if they asked but it hasn't happened ever. (But when i first meet gentlemen, i make it a point to make a "partial down payment", early enough into the session for the initial time spent chatting getting to know each other.) And after that first encounter never have had a problem or issue compensating "whenever" before, during and/or after cuz the mutual professionalism and trust is established.

[+ freecahill1965]

Guys, is it a turn off for escorts that wants you to pay first before the action? Or it’s just a normal and purely business and no need to be too sensitive about it?

I have never had a good eschort ask for the money upfront. The one time I did give up front it was a very bad experience.

[PMintJack]

It definitely should be considered a red flag. So far for me the guys who've asked up front have at least been nice about it. The last one said something like "I'm worried I'll forget to ask for it after". They were also positive experiences otherwise.

Agree with other posters that if payment is required up front then you get the agreed upon amount, nothing extra.

Sometimes I'll have the money out in a conspicuous place so I know they will see it when they walk in. That way we don't even have to talk about it. I figure if they grab it and run they were planning on ripping me off anyway. Hasn't happened yet *knock wood*

[+ lookingforfunny]

It would make me very uncomfortable and off-putting, and it has only happened twice when i first started exploring this, but in the escort's defense, it was only after about 30 - 45 mintues after initially meeting and we were in public bars/casino's at that time getting to know each other and in restropect i think the guys were worried that I would be the one who would bounce and not live up to the session expectations and could just "talk and dash".

 

Once i started "hosting" and having guys come to my house it would totally make me uncomfortable if they asked but it hasn't happened ever. (But when i first meet gentlemen, i make it a point to make a "partial down payment", early enough into the session for the initial time spent chatting getting to know each other.) And after that first encounter never have had a problem or issue compensating "whenever" before, during and/or after cuz the mutual professionalism and trust is established.

 

 

I will place half on the table at the beginning for someone new, who seems a bit nervous. I am usually nervous with a new person, but I tend to have regulars who would not dare ask for an advance. I doubt they focus on time at all.

[+ lookingforfunny]

It definitely should be considered a red flag. So far for me the guys who've asked up front have at least been nice about it. The last one said something like "I'm worried I'll forget to ask for it after". They were also positive experiences otherwise.

Agree with other posters that if payment is required up front then you get the agreed upon amount, nothing extra.

Sometimes I'll have the money out in a conspicuous place so I know they will see it when they walk in. That way we don't even have to talk about it. I figure if they grab it and run they were planning on ripping me off anyway. Hasn't happened yet *knock wood*

 

I have been ripped off for the half I left out

[nsguy45]

I've hosted a number of Boston area escorts from the RM site in the past year or so and the only one who demanded he be paid upfront was Tyler Desmond, who has recently changed his screen name to Tyler Dickson. For that and the fact that he was a total disappointment, I now wish I had not gone through with our encounter. By far, he was my biggest mistake of 2017.

[marylander1940]

Guys, is it a turn off for escorts that wants you to pay first before the action? Or it’s just a normal and purely business and no need to be too sensitive about it?

 

NEVER.... do that!

[Stormy]

Guys, is it a turn off for escorts that wants you to pay first before the action? Or it’s just a normal and purely business and no need to be too sensitive about it?

Big red flag. He's almost assuredly a disappointment in bed

[+ nycman]

Never paid upfront and never will.

 

One loser in Vegas even had the balls to call me out on my

refusal and tell me “that’s the way we do it in Vegas”.

 

Thankfully I stuck to my guns....I still get a little bit of

a chuckle every time I hear someone bitch about how

the same guy took their money and ran.

 

Listen to that little voice in your head....and think with

you big head...not the little one between your legs...

never pay upfront....and you’ll do fine.

[TruHart1]

I admit, I am at a loss about this because out of the 60+ escorts I have hired since I began this wonderful hobby in 2011, not ONE escort has ever asked for payment upfront! I am quite careful to vet any new guy in whom I'm interested, whether by finding reviews on Daddy's or by requesting a 411 here on the forum. Even the few "clunkers" (only 3 or 4 in all!) I've hired have never asked for money upfront!

 

It seems that I also read here on the forum that most truly professional escorts realize that a demand for payment upfront, besides being a red flag for many clients, might get them in trouble if the client turns out to be an undercover cop, since legally, money for sex = prostitution! If I ever do run across an escort who demands payment first, I hope I have the wherewithal to think with my brain, and not with my dick!

 

TruHart1

[Epigonos]

Since I first started hiring escorts in the fall of 2002 I have hired dozens (hundreds) of guys. 90% of the time I thoroughly vet all escorts I hire, requiring that they have positive reviews (for my age group) on this site. I have never had a guy ask for the money upfront. The probable reason for that is that I always give him the money, in an envelope, soon after we meet. I always hire for lunch or dinner and then a couple of hours of play time and I simple do not want to carry that amount of money around. I have NEVER been ripped off and can only attribute that fact to my careful vetting.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I disagree with those who say it is a red flag. Maybe light yellow for me. I think most of the guys who ask for the money upfront are honest sex workers. Which does not mean they are talented or good at it.

To start, upfront payment is standard in street trade and the low tier of escorting.

Most of the premium escorts do not ask for upfront payment, but a few of them do. I think it is perfectly reasonable when it is a first time meeting. I know of no escort, top or bottom tier, who has asked me for upfront payment after the first time.

[Fyton]

I never pay upfront, any more, and it has lead to some tense moments. Too bad. The client is FAR more likely to be ripped off than the pro. I have walked, blue balls in hand, and I go into every encounter resolved that that is a possible outcome. I have never regretted it. I have very much regretted, and still do, being ripped off. I have stood screaming at the top of my lungs in a Crown Royale hotel room, with two black studs threatening to hurt me and not let me leave, and prevailed. Man up.

[+ glutes]

"Money see, Monkey do......"

[+ azdr0710]

"Money see, Monkey do......"

 

ahh, one of the classic lines/threads from the annals of hooboy/Daddy's forum history....

 

there is a remedy to this dilemma, guys and gals!!.....tell the provider, ahead of time, in pre-meet communication that you will pay at the end of the meeting, that you don't want to talk about money at all during the meet, and then ask if that is ok with him......

 

this gets the money-up-front question resolved...and also does a little to prevent a highly-unlikely sting (discussion of money matters (and sex-for-money) upfront is usually involved in a successful sting)......

 

a somewhat-new/shy provider asked me for money upfront once....I'm sure he was just trying to cover his bases and didn't intend to suddenly run off.....I fairly strongly told him that I will pay at the end, that he can trust me, and that it's typical to take payment at the end.....he meekly agreed with my terms and the meeting proceeded as normal

[talktomeprodigy]

When communicating with an escort I'm interested in hiring, I always ask if he's cool getting paid at the end of the session. Most say yes, and I pass on those who say they're not okay with it--why take the risk of being ripped off?!

[+ lookingforfunny]

I've hosted a number of Boston area escorts from the RM site in the past year or so and the only one who demanded he be paid upfront was Tyler Desmond, who has recently changed his screen name to Tyler Dickson. For that and the fact that he was a total disappointment, I now wish I had not gone through with our encounter. By far, he was my biggest mistake of 2017.

That is too bad. He has a huge white cock in his jock. Tsk tsk for failing to deliver. Sick of those types. Let's run them to across the border and into Saskatchewan.

[+ Billsboy4]

I've been asked twice for upfront payment and was ripped off both times. Never again.

[+ glutes]

Funny to be standing in your birthday suit in 'scorts digs, then the old "Let's get the money out of the way first." statement happens.

I usually put my clothes back on and leave.