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What do you guys think about buying gifts for an escort on a first meeting? Does it seem creepy and make you feel uncomfortable? Would you see it as a nice gesture? The reason why I would do it is to give the escort a token of appreciation, make him rejoice if he's been having a bad day, and hopefully motivate him to have a good time with me. I think it also shows you a side of the client and helps foster bonding for the session.

 

I usually buy a gift for an escort after the first meeting because I want to get to know them first (or know their clothing size if I were to buy them a shirt or underwear). I prefer tailored gifts, but if I didn't get a chance to know the escort, I would go with non-tailored gift like souvenirs, a hat with a funny phrase, a humorous book, a funny tool (mugs with jokes, cartoonish stuff...etc). I never buy gift cards or the like.

 

Also, I'm just curious, how do you feel about getting gifts AFTER the first meeting (but not on the first meeting). Does the client come off as being too attached? Or do you see it as nice gesture?

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Keenan Community Regular

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A gift here or there is fine if that is how you want to show your gratitude, tips are also appreciated as well. The only gift I would avoid on the first meeting would be anything edible or drinkable. Until the escort has built up some trust there is always a risk that the food or drink could be "drugged" unknown to the escort.

 

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Not an escort... :)

 

Just like anything, it depends on the person. I mean I don't think a good escort would turn down a gift, especially if it was something they might like. They wouldn't want to hurt your feelings if it was something they didn't like. However, you might get someone who is suspicious of the gesture the first meeting. After the first meeting, I think its less of an issue.

 

Let me ask you this, what if you brought the escort a gift, the session wasn't too your liking for whatever reason... would you feel bad/cheated afterward? If not, then go right ahead, who cases what anybody, but you thinks. I don't think it's creepy, maybe a tad unusual, but not out of the ordinary.

 

I have never brought any working guy a gift on the first meeting. However, some I've grown particularly close to, I give or make them stuff all the time.

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Bringing a gift to an escort on a first meet, is for me, a bit of desperation. It says "even if you don't like ME, maybe you'll like my gift" ? It shows insecurity, and is unnecessary as you are paying for a service. Now, down the road, should you establish some sort of regularity with the escort, and business gets less business and more friendship, then perhaps a gift or little bonus may seem more apropos ?

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Gifts are nice they show appreciation but wait on the gift giving for the fourth or later meeting. This way it's genuine and you've hopefully gotten a chance to know the escort and what some of his interests are. Fyi, if you bought me an import of the album in your avatar I'd squeal like a lil school girl lol. Just sayin.

 

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Respectfully disagree, slightly. One former escort and I exchanged several emails before we met. Discovered we both enjoy a certain wine, so on the first "date" we shared a bottle. Another escort was a grad student working on PhD in music; I invited him to a concert (that I knew he'd love) after the first date. I saw both of these exquisite young men for a couple of years. I only gifted them either with something special or when the mood struck. They have since retired and we keep in touch. It's what I call "reverse customer service" and it's a lot of fun.

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I believe giving gifts is something one does for one's own pleasure, not for the pleasure of the other. I don't agree that it shows insecurity on your part, and I don't think it is weird. The only thing I would like to ask is, if you brought your escort a funny book the first time you met him, are you expecting him to display it on his coffee table or keep it forever?

 

I have been brought all sorts of things. Sometimes things that were disquietingly perfect for me, but also a lot of things that even thought they showed a kind desire from the giver to show some affection, were things for which I had absolutely no use and that I could not keep at my home.

 

If you give with the desire to give and the giving ends there, by all means, knock your socks off.

 

If you are the kind that will come back two years later and say "Where is that incredible Hulk bubble-head figurine that I bought for you? Don't tell me you threw it in the garbage!" Then the kindest way would be not put the recipients of your gifts in such a situation.

 

Sometimes subconsciously we try to populate the lives of people we like. Nothing wrong with that, it's natural, but it might not be entirely kind.

 

Give! Enjoy! Get a thrill out of it! And then move on and enjoy the interaction.

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Gifts are like compliments. You give them with joy and you accept them with grace. The minute you begin to analyze either (the act of giving or receiving gifts or compliments) your rational mind will taint the beauty of an emotional act. My two cents: Just enjoy the act, do not create expectations, and let the rest fall where it may.

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What do you guys think about buying gifts for an escort on a first meeting? Does it seem creepy and make you feel uncomfortable? Would you see it as a nice gesture? The reason why I would do it is to give the escort a token of appreciation, make him rejoice if he's been having a bad day, and hopefully motivate him to have a good time with me. I think it also shows you a side of the client and helps foster bonding for the session.

 

I usually buy a gift for an escort after the first meeting because I want to get to know them first (or know their clothing size if I were to buy them a shirt or underwear). I prefer tailored gifts, but if I didn't get a chance to know the escort, I would go with non-tailored gift like souvenirs, a hat with a funny phrase, a humorous book, a funny tool (mugs with jokes, cartoonish stuff...etc). I never buy gift cards or the like.

 

Also, I'm just curious, how do you feel about getting gifts AFTER the first meeting (but not on the first meeting). Does the client come off as being too attached? Or do you see it as nice gesture?

 

I love first meet gifts. Usually, clients have passed along underwear or beverages. I take gifts from clients to be extra sentimental. Not necessarily in a clingy or creepy way, but something as a symbol of success and gratitude.

 

One client...who happens to be a member here, passed along to me 2 silver coins and 1 antique coin. I've had a couple of rough and tough situations, and tempted as I was, I couldnt bring myself to sell or pawn them off even though they have value. Now, it's not even a question. I keep em in my jewelry box, and even carry one around as my lucky "lotto" scratcher for when I feel like a post card lottery ticket lol.

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I believe giving gifts is something one does for one's own pleasure, not for the pleasure of the other. I don't agree that it shows insecurity on your part, and I don't think it is weird. The only thing I would like to ask is, if you brought your escort a funny book the first time you met him, are you expecting him to display it on his coffee table or keep it forever?

 

I have been brought all sorts of things. Sometimes things that were disquietingly perfect for me, but also a lot of things that even thought they showed a kind desire from the giver to show some affection, were things for which I had absolutely no use and that I could not keep at my home.

 

If you give with the desire to give and the giving ends there, by all means, knock your socks off.

 

If you are the kind that will come back two years later and say "Where is that incredible Hulk bubble-head figurine that I bought for you? Don't tell me you threw it in the garbage!" Then the kindest way would be not put the recipients of your gifts in such a situation.

 

Sometimes subconsciously we try to populate the lives of people we like. Nothing wrong with that, it's natural, but it might not be entirely kind.

 

Give! Enjoy! Get a thrill out of it! And then move on and enjoy the interaction.

 

With that said, I'd say keep it simple stupid. Or simple sweet. Either romantic or practical gifts. No creepy bobbleheads.

 

I am a good steward of the things I receive. I still am using the same Walmart microwave and TV a client gave me 4-5 years ago even though I bought a bigger one. And they are in excellent shape.

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I have never bought a gift for anyone although I often give books off my bookshelves to one guy. Turns out we are both total book nerds. He reads them and always starts an email chain when he's done to discuss it. It's like our own escort book club. Ha. Smart guys are a total turn-on for me!

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in lieu of a tip, or in addition to one, I usually give a gift card to the guy's favorite food store or similar.....for a first meet, I'll ask during pre-meet planning what his favorite food store is or what place he'd like a gift card from.....responses include Whole Foods, Target, Amazon, Buffalo Wild Wings, Trader Joe's, Grocery Outlet, WalMart, "that's very nice, but you don't have to", and "just give me the cash, instead"

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