Reputable reviews?

[cautious]

Hi All,

 

First of, I apologize if I have posted in the wrong section or break any of the forum's ettiquette rules... I'm a frequent reader (for years) but infrequent client, and therefore, infrequent poster.

 

My last experience hiring was over 10 years ago so I was very nervous about hiring again and have spent years checking reviews hoping one ad would be so perfectly well suited to me that it helped me work up the nerve to hire. I found one such escort and have been following his reviews for over a year. He has just a handful of positive reviews here, but he has over 40 raving, descriptive reviews on canadianmale.com. Those reviews painted the exact picture of a patient and caring gentleman who was giving others the exact experience I was looking for, and his photos were exactly what I fantasize about, so I went for it.

 

From the time I made contact with him via text message earlier this week through to today there were some things that made me hesitate, but I knew if I backed out, it would likely take me years to work up the nerve again, so I went ahead despite some red flags. When he opened the door, he was handsome but significantly different than what his ads show. As we got into it, his body also differed substantially from the photos. I'd venture to say the pics are quite old (or possibly not even him) and his reported age is definitely an exaggeration.

 

That being said, he was handsome and I was there, so I continued. I paid upfront for 90 mins, but left after 45 as it just really wasn't the experience I had pictured. He advertises a very romantic, attentive BFE, but on top of seeming to be rushing everything, he was actually texting while we were intimate. He tasted of smoke and just seemed generally disinterested. We got off, but I don't think either enjoyed it.

 

So all this to say... I suspect many would say that I should have followed my instinct at the first red flag. And that's why I didn't protest the full fee, because I chose to go along with it, and chose to leave early. But, I'm wondering what I could have done differently. Perhaps I chalk it up to 'no chemistry' - but I just feel like he was so very different from everything I'd read. Is there a known issue with reviews on canadianmale.com being less reputable than here? Is there any other trusted source of reviews I should be checking?

 

I guess I'm just looking for any words of advice for next time. I thought I'd done all the research I could, but I learned a pretty costly lesson in not believing everything you read.

[+ bigjoey]

"texting while intimate" is a capital offense in my book. Write a formal review so others my be spared.

[stop]

hey sorry to hear this happened to you it can be a bit discouraging when something like this happens. I can tell you about a year ago I met with an extremely well reviewed pro (daddys reviews no less) and the experience wasn't great. It wasn't bad but it just wasn't a great time for me. I chalked it up to chemistry. The challenge with reviews is everybody has different tastes and different perspectives. look at the monster cock thread for just how different everybody's perspective is.

 

some guys aren't just aren't going to be a match for you.

 

one observation is about you waiting a year.....sometimes if you wait too long you may build up in your head how session/meeting should go and then when it actually happens it can never live up to what you imagine in your mind.

 

tt ah said he did some things during your session that are just bad business. the texting is a real no no. everybody is always quick to point out your paying for their time. he shouldn't have been texting

 

Hope you don't give up and try again.

[+ glennnn]

I don't think you did anything "wrong". It sounds like a combination of over-thnking and bad luck. I contrast it with my three (so far) escorts and, other than saying, " Better luck next time", may I suggest:

 

1. Don't expect to find "Mr. Perfect". Each of my three are very different, but wonderful. None of the three is absolutely perfect in looks or in actions, but each of them really turn me on.

 

2. Depend on this forum, both the reviews and the fantastic people who post here. Chose 3 or 4 escorts that attract you and who have good reviews. Then ask for advice from us. Ask someone here who has hired each of your choices to have a PM conversation with you to calm your fears and be on your side as you choose. Ask questions. Ask for help.

 

3. Make your choice and follow ALL of the suggested guidelines for communicating and follow through that you find here.

 

This is exactly what I did before my first escort and all was well. Don't give up. Just be smarter.

[Despardo]

Sorry you had a disappointing experience. Written reviews are good. Many good reviews are better. Nothing is foolproof.

 

Don't know much about canadianmale.com although I have probably checked it out once or twice, so I can't speak to the reliability of their reviews. Some escorts may not be as great as they used to be--burnout, bad day, whatever. It seems as if this guy was just phoning it in--anyway he was phoning.

 

If he advertises on Rent.men, you could easily give him a mediocre rating and indicate that his photos are dated and that you would not care to repeat, or review him on Canadianmale. It would be great if you would review him on Daddy and just be honest, but not nasty. Give him credit for his good points, but say he did not live up to your expectations based on previous reviews. In other words, be kind, but honest. Or, just chalk it up to experience and move on. We have all done that I think.

 

I agree with a previous comment that perhaps you invested too much time and mental energy fantasizing about one particular guy and got your hopes up too high. On the other hand, it really sounds as if the escort didn't live up to his reputation.

 

May I ask which Canadian city he hails from? I know of at least one attractive Canadian escort all of whose glowing reviews are written in exactly the same elaborate and distinctive literary style.

[coriolis888]

Sorry you had a disappointing experience. Written reviews are good. Many good reviews are better. Nothing is foolproof.

 

Don't know much about canadianmale.com although I have probably checked it out once or twice, so I can't speak to the reliability of their reviews. Some escorts may not be as great as they used to be--burnout, bad day, whatever. It seems as if this guy was just phoning it in--anyway he was phoning.

 

If he advertises on Rent.men, you could easily give him a mediocre rating and indicate that his photos are dated and that you would not care to repeat, or review him on Canadianmale. It would be great if you would review him on Daddy and just be honest, but not nasty. Give him credit for his good points, but say he did not live up to your expectations based on previous reviews. In other words, be kind, but honest. Or, just chalk it up to experience and move on. We have all done that I think.

 

I agree with a previous comment that perhaps you invested too much time and mental energy fantasizing about one particular guy and got your hopes up too high. On the other hand, it really sounds as if the escort didn't live up to his reputation.

 

May I ask which Canadian city he hails from? I know of at least one attractive Canadian escort all of whose glowing reviews are written in exactly the same elaborate and distinctive literary style.

 

 

While good advice, most of us now know that rentmen removes negative reviews from most escort ads.

 

Too bad about your experience. The escort's use of outdated photos, smelling of smoke and texting while meeting with a client indicates that the numerous excellent reviews he has are probably bogus.

 

In my book, the escort is a scam.

 

Oh, why did you pay up front. Was the up front payment the idea of the escort? If so, he is a certified fraud, given the misleading (outdated) photos.

 

It is the luck of the draw. You were dealt a bad hand.

[caliguy]

he was actually texting while we were intimate

I wonder how many of us have done that. You hear the phone do it's notification. Do you just keep on going or do you check it?

[+ harey]

@cautious Sorry you had a disappointing meeting. I've had similar experiences once or twice and didn't follow my instincts, because I wanted it to be a great time and kept hoping it would improve. First meetings are always uncertain, so don't let your guard down too soon. Being face to face with an escort doesn't mean you've crossed a line and can't walk away. Keep a critical eye when the appointment starts. Spend at least a few minutes to chat and make an assessment. Listen to your gut and remember you don't owe him anything just for saying hello. If his real appearance doesn't match the photos, then leave. Never pay up front, especially for a first appointment, unless you're flying someone out to meet you and covering his travel costs. Texting while intimate is just so disrespectful. That's good reason to stop and leave midway through without paying the full amount. The next client would thank you, if the escort learned he can't get away with that kind of behavior. You mentioned needing time to work up the nerve to contact an escort. Maybe explain that in your first message and see if the guy is willing to have some back and forth texting to establish rapport, or try a Skype chat for a reasonable rate before initial contact. Maybe that will provide an ice breaker and an opportunity to gauge his personality. I hope you aren't completely discouraged and will try again when you find another good prospect. Good luck.

[+ Just Sayin]

I think all of us have won some and lost some in our endeavors; reading the reviews is important, but one must always rely on the red flags that pop up; but please do not let this negative experience prevent you from trying again; I just submitted a review to Daddy yesterday about an experience I had earlier this month, and I still grin ear-to-ear when I think of how much fun I had!

[marylander1940]

"texting while intimate" is a capital offense in my book. Write a formal review so others my be spared.

 

Yes, mine too... despite that so much talk about guys texting while having an overnight.

 

One more thing, this subject came up before and I was "pack" attacked for saying and escort's phone should off/silent during an encounter, I'll remember you next time it happens.

 

I wonder how many of us have done that. You hear the phone do it's notification. Do you just keep on going or do you check it?

 

That depends on what are you doing at the moment, so many guys text from a business meeting.

[Rudynate]

I wonder how many of us have done that. You hear the phone do it's notification. Do you just keep on going or do you check it?

 

I must have a guardian angel. I have never had an escort send/receive texts or take calls during an appointment. The cell phone is always silenced and out of sight.

[+ José Soplanucas]

@cautious , thanks for sharing your experience, I join the rest of the friends here in their advice and solidarity.

Do not worry, you are posting in the right forum and you are not breaking any guidelines as long as you do not share publicly here the name of the escort. You can do it through PM, never here.

Let me join everyone else on insisting on you submitting a formal review to daddy's reviews. That review will be published after giving the escort the chance to explain himself, it is a procedure we follow to assure fairness.

It is not rare to struggle during the first hires. Most or at least many of us did. I did. Just keep learning and you will get to enjoy our deliciously sinful hobby.

[+ glennnn]

Texting while working, or in a classroom, or a business meeting, or a.......? is becoming so ubiquitous that people have forgotten how rude it can be. Do people text while getting married, while talking to a judge, while fucking?

[+ José Soplanucas]

Texting while working, or in a classroom, or a business meeting, or a.......? is becoming so ubiquitous that people have forgotten how rude it can be. Do people text while getting married, while talking to a judge, while fucking?

 

Don't ask me to look for it, but I do remember at least a couple of posts sharing that one of the partners was checking his phone while fucking. It's a fucking addiction and it's getting worse.

[+ glennnn]

I wonder how many of us have done that. You hear the phone do it's notification. Do you just keep on going or do you check it?

 

Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?

[rvwnsd]

... Do people text while getting married, while talking to a judge, while fucking?

 

There are people who text at inappropriate times and people who don't. It cuts across age lines. Yesterday I was walking down a street in Glendale (CA) and an older man was texting while walking down the street. He was all over the place and I had to step into Colorado St in order to avoid him walking into me.

[whipped guy]

Damn I can relate to this on so many levels. First most of us here who have been hiring for a number if years have probably had one or more less than stellar experience. Of course that includes the no chemistry excuse and the guy trying to cut things short. It goes with the territory and that should not deter you. I have had one and a half bad experiences over the years. (The half being the guy trying to cut things short, but It was going to be over my dead body even though it was not going perfectly!) The first one was what persuaded me to formally join the forum so I could warn others since I failed to submit a review.

 

As for texting and phone calls, I never had that happen during a hire (not yet!), but I can certainly document the fact that people do it in the most inappropriate of situations. Like at the dentist , when they are lying flat on their back, all sorts of devices and tubes are attached to their mouth, and the dentist is wielding a high speed Black and Decker-like device! I kid you not!!!!

 

Yes, I have had an elbow push me away in such a situation because the text or phone call was more important than anything else in their life at that particular point in time. Again I kid you not! Fortunately that portion of my life is over and done with.

 

In any event to the OP...IT WILL GET BETTER!!!! Trust me!

[Rudynate]

There are people who text at inappropriate times and people who don't. It cuts across age lines. Yesterday I was walking down a street in Glendale (CA) and an older man was texting while walking down the street. He was all over the place and I had to step into Colorado St in order to avoid him walking into me.

 

 

I have seen parents, pushing young children in strollers, texting while crossing the street with the kids - not even looking up before they step into the street.

[nynakedtop]

I have seen parents, pushing young children in strollers, texting while crossing the street with the kids - not even looking up before they step into the street.

 

even i, who will admit to a chronic addiction to my electronic devices, shudder at that image.... but examples of people turning into zombies because of their phones are far too plentiful to begin to itemize, i fear.

[mike carey]

Texting while working, or in a classroom, or a business meeting, or a.......?

I'm not one to watch my phone for texts or for new posts in Daddy's forum, but the issue that is illustrated by people who do that is not a new one. I have caught myself on occasions (two of which I remember being jarring at the time) answering my phone when I was talking to someone else. I put it down to a reflex reaction to the phone ringing (yes, I note the Pavlov comment above). When I was growing up, the phone was 'important', so it was seen as impolite not to answer it, and I think that is why I answered in those cases. It has been an effort to see the phone as something that is there for my convenience, not the convenience of people who want to contact me. I think I have overcome that reflex but it doesn't mean I won't slip up again.

 

We now have voicemail (going out of fashion I have heard) and texts as backups to immediate voice calls, and also calling number displays so we can decide whether we want to answer a call. If I am with someone I don't have to look at the phone or respond. If I am meeting a guy and doing the 'in 5 minutes' and 'where are you sitting' calls or texts, I can pay attention to them and no others. You don't need to answer every call or text, your phone will remember who tried to contact you and you can call them back later. It's not always inappropriate to answer your phone, but it is always appropriate to think about where you are before you do.

[MikeBiDude]

There are people who text at inappropriate times and people who don't. It cuts across age lines. Yesterday I was walking down a street in Glendale (CA) and an older man was texting while walking down the street. He was all over the place and I had to step into Colorado St in order to avoid him walking into me.

Maybe he was playing Pokemon Go?

[+ Funguy]

sent you a PM

[down_to_business]

Maybe he was playing Pokemon Go?

 

If your escort catches a Pokémon inside of you, I would really like to hear about it!

[whipped guy]

Years ago one would leave the house to get away from the phone.

 

Now one doesn't leave home without it.

[+ Funguy]

MBDude - you may not be wrong!