A Case of the Nerves

[Reluctant Daddy]

I'm meeting with a well reviewed guy this coming weekend. As excited as I am, I think that I'm actually more nervous. This is only my second hire of a legit escort - the rest have been Backpage disasters that inspired nerves, but not to this extent. I've read through all of the threads about dealing with this, but I'm not sure that any of it will help. Does anyone else go through this kind of nervousness and fear when hiring? Is there a sure fire method of dealing with this, other than a fistful of Valium? I just don't want to be an absolute basket case when we meet.

 

P.S. To the well reviewed guy, it's not you, it's me.

[jjkrkwood]

Give him an extra big Tip....he'll forgive you !

[whipped guy]

I view being anxious as part of the excitement and thrill of hiring and especially for a first time hire with a guy! Add into the equation that it is all illegal and that can even escalate the anxiety if you are meeting at a hotel for example. It's all NORMAL and it's all GOOD! Plus, the really good guys out there know how to deal with such a situation. I recall my first hire and such was the case. We had a nice chat, he put me at ease, we went into his playroom, he beat the living crap out of me (and it was my first professional BDSM experience...talk about having trust in someone that you just met!!!), and I left the session feeling like I was a super hero ready to conquer the world!!!!

 

Sit back, or get in what ever position floats your boat, relax, and enjoy the ride to the max!!!! No worries at all its NORMAL!!!!

[+ Keith30309]

Sit quietly for a few minutes and visualize how you would like the hour(s) session to go, from door-open to door-close. Think about how you will feel and those things that create a sense of elation and happy satisfaction.

Envision the comfortable hugs and easy conversation in the beginning. Think about all the sensations: the vision of his smile as soon as the dr opens, the scent of his skin, the touch of lip to lip, the taste of his earlobe at your tongue and sounds of his breathing at your ear.

Relax your body and allow the vision to roll around in your mind and have a little pre-meeting party. :)

[+ sync]

When I was beginning, I would tell the gentleman up front that I was nervous. Most professionals deal with nervous clients regularly and are adept at relieving it.

[LADoug1]

I'm usually nervous when hiring. I try and convert the anxiety to anticipation. I find this to be a kind of foreplay.

[+ WmClarke]

Relax and spend time chatting first. It helps immensely.

 

The one time I had a session with a popular well-reviewed guy that did not go perfectly, it was because I rushed things into the bedroom. Enjoy getting to know him. THEN enjoy getting to know him (in the Biblical sense)!

[whipped guy]

Relax and spend time chatting first. It helps immensely.

 

The one time I had a session with a popular well-reviewed guy that did not go perfectly, it was because I rushed things into the bedroom. Enjoy getting to know him. THEN enjoy getting to know him (in the Biblical sense)!

Excellent advice... Don't rush and the get to know him in all senses of the word!!!! I did rush once and the guy slowed me down. Even though we had met previously he wanted to get into my head space at that particular moment in time. The good ones want to know what you need even if you don't even know it yourself!!! The best are true professionals In every sense of the word!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

When I was beginning, I would tell the gentleman up front that I was nervous. Most professionals deal with nervous clients regularly and are adept at relieving it.

 

i have been up front several times. And the most common response is, "that's OK, I am too.". As with any interaction with someone for the first time, there is bound to be some level of nervousness.

[MikeyGMin]

When I was beginning, I would tell the gentleman up front that I was nervous. Most professionals deal with nervous clients regularly and are adept at relieving it.

 

This is a great strategy for the start of the meeting. It isn't going to help your nerves between now and then, but it is a good ice-breaker and instant bit of shared intimacy. I've always found that getting it out in the open and allowing the escort to provide some comforting comment, or at least acknowledge it, really helps to get me out of my head and focus on getting to know him.

 

Keep telling yourself that you will be fine after the first few minutes. Unless you are a complete extrovert, meeting new people can be stressful under any situation. But it's kicked up many levels when you know where it's leading. Nerves are completely normal for most people.

[Kevin Slater]

He's well reviewed; he'll be skilled at putting you at ease. Don't fret it, and let him help you have a great time.

 

Kevin Slater

[big-n-tall]

I don't get nervous so much any more, unless it's someone I'm severely crushing on (escort or not).

 

One well known working guy told me he still gets a bit nervous seeing clients... even with the clients he has a long standing relationship with.

 

So having nerves is normal. Just don't let them get the best of you. You'll be fine.

[+ purplekow]

To calm down nerves, I suggest that at the earliest opportunity during the meeting, if possible before you even speak, that you give your man a long soft kiss which gets progressively firmer and deeper and when that is done, say something such as " Hi, I am clocker. You've met my tongue" Once that first kiss is done, the nerves will fade.

[LADoug1]

To calm down nerves, I suggest that at the earliest opportunity during the meeting, if possible before you even speak, that you give your man a long soft kiss which gets progressively firmer and deeper and when that is done, say something such as " Hi, I am clocker. You've met my tongue" Once that first kiss is done, the nerves will fade.

 

Clocker?

[LADoug1]

Spending time talking with an escort is foreplay for me. That's why I prefer a 2 hour appointment. Gives me time to warm up before the sex begins. And the most professional escorts talk AFTER the sex rather than rushing you out or immediately looking at their phones.

[Reluctant Daddy]

To calm down nerves, I suggest that at the earliest opportunity during the meeting, if possible before you even speak, that you give your man a long soft kiss which gets progressively firmer and deeper and when that is done, say something such as " Hi, I am clocker. You've met my tongue" Once that first kiss is done, the nerves will fade.

 

This is so not me. I'm afraid I'd come off as stupid and clumsy doing something like this.

[liubit]

I must be getting old....or jaded, because I cannot remember the last time I was nervous when meeting an escort. Nowadays, when I see a working boy for the first time, I am somehow excited and kind of expectant, but never nervous.

 

Like I said, time has made me jaded.

[rvwnsd]

One of the things I try to do is reserve some time before a playdate to simply sit down, close my eyes, and relax for a few minutes.

[+ Truereview]

[uSER=12070]@NYClocker[/uSER], I think you are in great shape with all the advice above. The only thing I would add (and only if you are ready to do this) is to ask yourself "what exactly makes me nervous about this?" Maybe this hire is not the right time to do this, but getting at the root cause for the nerves may be helpful to address this in the long run - instead of just placating the nerves with practices that don't fully get at it. Then again, it could be just nerves from healthy excitement. Only you will know.

 

May you have an orgasmic, fun time!

[+ bashful]

Maybe this hire is not the right time to do this

 

Agree. I found myself hiring a guy once simply because (in hindsight) I thought it would be some sort of an accomplishment to meet him. Another time I hired, but it really wasn't in my budget. Doubts, both conscious and unconscious, will rattle the nerves.

 

Then again, it could be just nerves from healthy excitement.

 

The best case of nervousness to have.

[Reluctant Daddy]

"what exactly makes me nervous about this?"

 

Every imaginable thing!

[+ Lance_Navarro]

This has been my career for 7 years and I still get anxious every time, especially when I'm meeting someone for the first time. While it partially comes from a nervousness of not knowing entirely what to expect, I'm more anxious because I always want it to be an amazing experience. You'd think that the longer I've been doing this work, the more relaxed I would be, but in fact, it's the opposite. I am increasingly aware of the importance and significance of my work and therefore take it more seriously. The beauty of it all is that the anxiety disapates quickly, for the both of us. I start most encounters with a nice long hug and some shared deep breathes, it works wonders at melting away any nervousness.

[+ Truereview]

This has been my career for 7 years and I still get anxious every time, especially when I'm meeting someone for the first time. While it partially comes from a nervousness of not knowing entirely what to expect, I'm more anxious because I always want it to be an amazing experience. You'd think that the longer I've been doing this work, the more relaxed I would be, but in fact, it's the opposite. I am increasingly aware of the importance and significance of my work and therefore take it more seriously. The beauty of it all is that the anxiety disapates quickly, for the both of us. I start most encounters with a nice long hug and some shared deep breathes, it works wonders at melting away any nervousness.

::::swoon::::

[+ Funguy]

This has been my career for 7 years and I still get anxious every time, especially when I'm meeting someone for the first time. While it partially comes from a nervousness of not knowing entirely what to expect, I'm more anxious because I always want it to be an amazing experience. You'd think that the longer I've been doing this work, the more relaxed I would be, but in fact, it's the opposite. I am increasingly aware of the importance and significance of my work and therefore take it more seriously. The beauty of it all is that the anxiety disapates quickly, for the both of us. I start most encounters with a nice long hug and some shared deep breathes, it works wonders at melting away any nervousness.

 

:rolleyes:

[klifhangar]

I bet you will be fine once you get together. Sit and chat awhile and you'll be totally fine. Between now and then, put it out of your mind other than to look forward to it. Keep yourself busy before you get busy.