I think my new neighbour is an escort

[oz_carter]

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago. Good looking guy with a great body. I thought he looked familiar but couldn't quite place him. This week I've seen him about 5 times. Each time he was with a different guy who is way older than him.

 

This morning I was in a lift with another neighbour and we had a little bit of chit chat. Then she asked me if I have seen or talked to my new neighbour. I said yes and no, respectively. Then she mentioned about all the other guys (all older guys) he's been with. And it's not only her who has seen him with these guys but other apartment owners as well.

 

So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

[Kevin Slater]

Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

 

Perhaps he doesn't want to be found by his neighbors.

 

Kevin Slater

[Mo Mason]

The guy might actually have older brothers, a dad, uncles, grandfathers, older friends...

[Bearofdistinction]

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago. Good looking guy with a great body. I thought he looked familiar but couldn't quite place him. This week I've seen him about 5 times. Each time he was with a different guy who is way older than him.

 

This morning I was in a lift with another neighbour and we had a little bit of chit chat. Then she asked me if I have seen or talked to my new neighbour. I said yes and no, respectively. Then she mentioned about all the other guys (all older guys) he's been with. And it's not only her who has seen him with these guys but other apartment owners as well.

 

So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

 

 

Hey Baby Escort if he is not bringing people into the bldg. who are creating a disturbance, is not allowing his friends to

shit and piss in the common areas or anything else negative/destructive ----- then RESPECT is the key word ===

 

RESPECT Each others privacy -- Be friendly but not pushy === Maybe he is a Tupperare Lady or a Crack Dealer -- or a professional old people walker --- Hey boo lets go to Dennys for a Lazy Crazy Daisey Breakfast!

 

Now don't you feel better . . . .

[+ purplekow]

If this is a co-op or condo and he is escorting, being a bit circumspect would be prudent. Co-op boards can be quite thorny about people running businesses out of their apartment.

[+ bashful]

On the other side of the coin, I think two of my neighbors hire escorts. Met one neighbor in the elevator with a guy so totally hot looking (looks, and the way he dressed), I would have never considered the guest as a friend or relative (but, I can be wrong). I made some small conversation on the way up, but it wasn’t easily reciprocated. The other neighbor introduced me to the guy as his army buddy.

[klifhangar]

On the other hand, if he is an escort and he's hot... how convenient. Like living above a great curry restaurant or something.

[MscleLovr]

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago.....So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. .

 

Thinking? I would be grateful to see such good eye-candy in the lifts (elevators) in my building.

 

He's living on the same floor as you so I have to ask: why are you being such a bad neighbour, Oz_Carter? It's your duty to put a note under his door and invite him round for drinks etc. so that you can get acquainted and make him feel welcome in your building. In the future, there may come a rainy, stormy day when you don't want to leave the building in search of paid entertainment.

[bigvalboy]

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago. Good looking guy with a great body. I thought he looked familiar but couldn't quite place him. This week I've seen him about 5 times. Each time he was with a different guy who is way older than him.

 

This morning I was in a lift with another neighbour and we had a little bit of chit chat. Then she asked me if I have seen or talked to my new neighbour. I said yes and no, respectively. Then she mentioned about all the other guys (all older guys) he's been with. And it's not only her who has seen him with these guys but other apartment owners as well.

 

So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

 

Now Mrs Kravitz....

[actor61]

On the other side of the coin, I think two of my neighbors hire escorts. Met one neighbor in the elevator with a guy so totally hot looking (looks, and the way he dressed), I would have never considered the guest as a friend or relative (but, I can be wrong). I made some small conversation on the way up, but it wasn’t easily reciprocated. The other neighbor introduced me to the guy as his army buddy.

Be careful what you assume. I have a 20 something nephew who is so handsome he stops traffic. He visits me often (I'm in my 60s) and from what I've been told, friends who didn't know we were related assumed that I'm either his sugar daddy or I've hired him for the night. As a result, said nephew refuses to come over anymore. Now we meet at restaurants and cafes instead of me cooking for him at my place. His mom has been a widow since he was 5 years old and I've helped out a lot over the years. We're very close and it is so sad that peoples' snarky comments have embarrassed him so. You're going to say he has "issues" because he's embarrassed but I just put it down to youth. He's a great kid, if somewhat confused about a lot of things.

[CompleteNewbie]

Catch him alone in the hallway or elevator, introduce yourself as his neighbor, and ask who he is/what he does. As neighbors are oft to do. Or used to do.

 

Don't assume, find out. If he is, great. If not, also great.

[marylander1940]

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago. Good looking guy with a great body. I thought he looked familiar but couldn't quite place him. This week I've seen him about 5 times. Each time he was with a different guy who is way older than him.

 

This morning I was in a lift with another neighbour and we had a little bit of chit chat. Then she asked me if I have seen or talked to my new neighbour. I said yes and no, respectively. Then she mentioned about all the other guys (all older guys) he's been with. And it's not only her who has seen him with these guys but other apartment owners as well.

 

So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

 

I don't run into any of my neighbors more than once a week. I guess he does incalls and gets taken to dinner/lunch after?

 

How come do you and others see him that often?

 

 

So this guy moved into an apartment on the same floor as mine about 2 weeks ago. Good looking guy with a great body. I thought he looked familiar but couldn't quite place him. This week I've seen him about 5 times. Each time he was with a different guy who is way older than him.

 

This morning I was in a lift with another neighbour and we had a little bit of chit chat. Then she asked me if I have seen or talked to my new neighbour. I said yes and no, respectively. Then she mentioned about all the other guys (all older guys) he's been with. And it's not only her who has seen him with these guys but other apartment owners as well.

 

So that got me thinking. Could he be an escort? Or maybe a masseur. I've logged in to the usual places escorts or masseurs advertise ( Gaydar, the backpage, rentmen and rentboyaustralia) and I can't find him.

 

Catch him alone in the hallway or elevator, introduce yourself as his neighbor, and ask who he is/what he does. As neighbors are oft to do. Or used to do.

 

Don't assume, find out. If he is, great. If not, also great.

 

[quote=Kevin Slater, post: 1100270, memb

 

er: 4577]Perhaps he doesn't want to be found by his neighbors.

 

Kevin Slater

 

 

I agree with Kevin Slater.

 

Live and let live!

 

mind your own f... business, as long as he doesn't wake you up at 3 AM.

 

The guy might actually have older brothers, a dad, uncles, grandfathers, older friends...

 

Even I used to have older brothers and uncles, I'm 76 nobody is older anymore in my family.

 

Besides what a close family to visit him that often.

[+ Just Sayin]

I think you should behave towards him as you would any other neighbor--with kindness and respect; and you can have your fantasies about his escort career too; it may develop eventually that he is, but what fun you can have in your own interior world in the meantime!

[+ Truereview]

I don't think @oz_carter is meddling with this guy. The way I read the post, he is kinda trying to wrap his head around a new world order where people are choosing to live out loud. What he is experiencing is a very real thing we all pause and talk about as neighbors. When I moved to LA I know for a fact that my neighbors were all talking about the single guy who was hardly ever home, always on "business trips" and had...collective gasp here...a transgender pet sitter! God forbid! :rolleyes:At some point, I was rumored to be some type of CIA agent. I wish! Lol. The point is that it is natural to wonder who your neighbors are and let's not rip anyone a new one just bc they are confiding in an (sorta) anonymous forum and trying to generate some perspective.

 

With that' said, yes, we should mind our own business indeed bc it can come back to bite us: One of my neighbors in the east coast is an escort. As purplekow mentioned, Co-op Boards will always be concerned about illegal activity by its residents, so it is a reality. Fortunately, our board doesn't sweat this stuff plus our neighbor/escort is particularly discreet, very involved in our community, and he is an asset to our building. I must admit it is a privilege to be so conveniently located to such a smart, nice, good looking guy. Yes, I do business with him whenever I'm in the city and so do a couple of other neighbors but it is not flaunted and folks just respect whatever happens behind closed doors. Is it ideal to be messing around with your neighbor? No. Is life ideal? Hell no. Our building gossip did try to get in his business and when she brought up her suspicions at a building meeting she was appropriately put in her place when we pointed out that snakes were also against building restrictions

[JayCeeKy]

Good fences make good neighbors.

[Frequentflier]

Thinking? I would be grateful to see such good eye-candy in the lifts (elevators) in my building.

 

He's living on the same floor as you so I have to ask: why are you being such a bad neighbor, Oz_Carter? It's your duty to put a note under his door and invite him round for drinks etc. so that you can get acquainted and make him feel welcome in your building.

 

X 1 trillion.

[Frequentflier]

Be careful what you assume. I have a 20 something nephew who is so handsome he stops traffic. He visits me often (I'm in my 60s) and from what I've been told, friends who didn't know we were related assumed that I'm either his sugar daddy or I've hired him for the night. As a result, said nephew refuses to come over anymore. Now we meet at restaurants and cafes instead of me cooking for him at my place. His mom has been a widow since he was 5 years old and I've helped out a lot over the years. We're very close and it is so sad that peoples' snarky comments have embarrassed him so. You're going to say he has "issues" because he's embarrassed but I just put it down to youth. He's a great kid, if somewhat confused about a lot of things.

 

I think its unfortunate the nephew won't come to your place anymore. First, "F" what the neighbors think. Those that care enough about you likely talk with you and know he's your nephew. Second, unless you and your nephew are disturbing the neighbors it's none of their business who comes to visit you and if they have so much time on their hands to gossip they instead should be tending their lawns, tending the lawns of elderly neighbors and/or doing volunteer work. Respect, look out for each other (not the same as being nosy) and MYOB.

[cany10011]

I live in a very gay neighborhood, in a very gay condominium, and on a very gay floor. Everyone is up to something - commercial hookups and regular run of the mill ones. When one hears the elevator swoosh up late at night, we all know what is going on. No one bothers to ask questions. I know everyone's type on my floor and when I ride up with one of their "tricks" I can nearly guess which door they will be knocking on. Everyone does it..lol.

[Frequentflier]

Everyone does it..lol.

 

You're right. And if its not "it", its something else We get one chance at life, don't know what tomorrow will bring. I need to, and I suspect others do, to have the best freaking day everyday and do what makes us happy. I too often have to remind myself that there are a lot of people who are facing health and/or financial problems that I'm not (thank God). Having now reminded myself, again, I'm getting off the internet for at least the remainder of this weekend!

[klifhangar]

It seems that everyone is overthinking this. I think the OP was merely speculating as we would about any neighbor with curious habits.

 

I agree that the OP should make the neighbor feel welcome. Hospitality goes a long way. Whenever a new person or family moves into my neighborhood, I bring them something - cookies, vegetables from my garden etc. This has really pulled our neighborhood together and a bunch of us have gone out to get drinks, we've had one another in our homes etc. It's all about community. Then again, I'm a raging extrovert.

[marylander1940]

Be careful what you assume. I have a 20 something nephew who is so handsome he stops traffic. He visits me often (I'm in my 60s) and from what I've been told, friends who didn't know we were related assumed that I'm either his sugar daddy or I've hired him for the night. As a result, said nephew refuses to come over anymore. Now we meet at restaurants and cafes instead of me cooking for him at my place. His mom has been a widow since he was 5 years old and I've helped out a lot over the years. We're very close and it is so sad that peoples' snarky comments have embarrassed him so. You're going to say he has "issues" because he's embarrassed but I just put it down to youth. He's a great kid, if somewhat confused about a lot of things.

 

I think its unfortunate the nephew won't come to your place anymore. First, "F" what the neighbors think. Those that care enough about you likely talk with you and know he's your nephew. Second, unless you and your nephew are disturbing the neighbors it's none of their business who comes to visit you and if they have so much time on their hands to gossip they instead should be tending their lawns, tending the lawns of elderly neighbors and/or doing volunteer work. Respect, look out for each other (not the same as being nosy) and MYOB.

 

I think it's unfortunate too, but I'm surprised your nephew still goes out to restaurants to be seen with you... and doesn't keep going to actor61's home to have dinner with him.

 

There was a thread a few months ago about "closeted escorts" (gay men in the closet who escort for gay men). The OP complained about an escort not accepting his invitation to have dinner in a public place, because if he was seen with him in a restaurant people would discover the closeted escort sexuality... The OP denied being flamboyant or "gay a block away" a couple of times, and an escort described as "old but masculine".

[Brian Kevin]

Time to bake cookies and stop by. Trying welcoming him. Show him you welcome him. Maybe you'll find out what's going on! Never judge a book by its cover. Especially Go Ask Alice.

[mattr]

Talk about a "full service" building!

[jimboivyo]

Perhaps he doesn't want to be found by his neighbors.

 

Kevin Slater

 

exactly

 

this guy needs to quit while he's ahead

[Lookin]

Perhaps you could drop off a nice gift basket. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

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