What do you call a male "mistress"?

[foxy]

I know I'd like to have one but I feel like I should know the terminology first. I don't like the sound of "kept boy" and somehow "mister" just doesn't seem to work. I can work out the details later...like actually finding one.

[+ Lucky]

Lucky!

[foxy]

you're hired!

[guptasa1]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

I've heard the terms "master" or "sir" most commonly. Frankly, I don't like either and would prefer another more appealing term as well...something a bit less formal and more vibrant, especially since my particular taste runs towards dominant, younger, twinky guys. But I couldn't come up with anything, so master and sir it is occasionally. Mostly, I try and avoid the titles if I can. I hadn't heard the term kept boy, but to me, it doesn't make a lot of sense (though it's appealing to my ear - lol).

[+ glutes]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

Well I met a couple as described, they refered to each other as:

 

'Mother' & 'Scooter'

[+ deej]

Boytoy. :+

 

Actually, I don't think there's even an analagous situation to "mistress" for gay men much less a term for it.

 

With str8 men it connotes an extra-marital fling more than any financial arrangement. Since we can't marry (all noble and valiant efforts towards that end notwithstanding), we can't be having an extra-marital fling. (Another inalienable right denied us, dammit!)

 

If you want to talk about paid companions, we already have terms for those -- and an entire website to discuss them. ;-)

[jaden]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

>I know I'd like to have one but I feel like I should know the

>terminology first. I don't like the sound of "kept boy" and

>somehow "mister" just doesn't seem to work. I can work out the

>details later...like actually finding one.

 

I think the term is boytoy like deej said... or perhaps Poolboy... heh.

 

Far too familiar with the situation... blah!~! Let's just say I have a position as a "personal assistant" for a guy I know who likes me... but he has a hubby, and I have issues with being "The other woman(man in this case)." I like the dude a lot, but it's crash and burn all the way if I end up messing around with him...

 

If he were single, I'd take him off the market soooo fast

 

~J

 

And no there is no perversion of my job... lol, I do yardwork, take care of the doggie, sort his various business stuff (mail etc...).. If I were the guy, I'd hire an accountant, he has way too much paperwork 'floating around'... then again that would eliminate part of my job.. heh.

[guptasa1]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

Just to clarify my response, I may have misunderstood the question.

 

I never thought of "mistress" as an extramarital affair as it seems most of you did. I was thinking mistress as in the "yes, mistress" type involving a slave (hence the master and sir response). Whoops! :7

 

>I've heard the terms "master" or "sir" most commonly.

>Frankly, I don't like either and would prefer another more

>appealing term as well...something a bit less formal and more

>vibrant, especially since my particular taste runs towards

>dominant, younger, twinky guys. But I couldn't come up with

>anything, so master and sir it is occasionally. Mostly, I try

>and avoid the titles if I can. I hadn't heard the term kept

>boy, but to me, it doesn't make a lot of sense (though it's

>appealing to my ear - lol).

[+ deej]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

>I think the term is boytoy like deej said... or perhaps

>Poolboy... heh.

 

Or Houseboy.

 

I may actually need a new houseboy soon, Jaden, if your current gig collapses. :*

 

(Before the "how dare you?" crowd comes down on me: KIDDING!!!!!)

[trilingual]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

Try "protegé".

[Samai139]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

Why not "lover?" When a woman who is married takes on a male to "service" her, the man is usually called her lover. I assume the original poster was envisioning a male couple in a committed relationship---if not "married" then "civilly united" if there is such an awkward term. If one of the men in such a relationship takes on a "lover" I think most people would understand what it meant. "Boytoy" "Poolboy" "Kept Boy" all seem to imply a younger person and an older one.

Perhaps we should write and ask William Safire of the NY Times???

[foxy]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

>Try "protegé".

 

I think I'll go with this one.

Now I'll just have to find one.

[mansniffing]

I think paramour should cover it.

 

A lover, of either sex; a wooer or a mistress (formerly in a good sense, now only in a bad one); one who takes the place, without possessing the rights, of a husband or wife; -- used of a man or a woman.

 

:-) :-)

[+ Charlie]

When my partner had an affair on the side for awhile, I always referred to him as "Joe's paramour".

 

The situation can be socially awkward. Old friends of ours had been a couple for many years, then without any explanation one of them acquired a younger "friend" who seemed to do everything with him. One didn't know whether to automatically invite him whenever we invited them to dinner or parties, or how to phrase an invitation. To complicate matters, they had the same first name, so there could be confusion when asking about "Richard". When the original Richard died, the etiquette of the funeral was very touchy and uncomfortable, since both survivors seemed to consider himself the primary bereaved--each claimed one side of the church to receive condolences.

[Guest icon513]

Out here in Asia, I know a lot of people who call them their "concubines".

[Bilbo]

I think that you ran into something completely different here. I have known several happily married menage a trois. I know of a pair who are such joint widows that many years later their Christmas party is still referred to as The Three Kings. I also know of another pair who divorced their third and several years later got a new third. I, of course, could be wrong, but that showboating at the funeral gave me this distinct feelings. All of the other posters seem to be talking about extramarital affairs. To me, you witnessed a "Mormon marriage." Interestingly enough, in our community, this seems to happen more among bears and leathermen.

[HooBoy]

Introduce him by his name and let 'em go crazy guessing.

[Guest amigomonty]

RE: What do you call a male "mistress"?

 

I believe the word is "Paramour"...

[jackhammer91406]

I think I would call a male mistress HONEY BOY . Now if someone could just get me his phone number.

[+ Charlie]

The "Mormon marriage" interpretation is interesting, though in this case it was the wife (a bottom, financially dependent on his partner) who took a lover (a younger man, but independent). The tension in the trio was palpable, and often the original partner would not show up for an event to which the newer member was invited. At the funeral ceremony, the senior partner was openly acknowledged, the younger man was not, and the competition between them for condolences was obvious.

[+ glutes]

How 'bout 'my gal Friday'?

[foxy]

Now I'm leaning towards "catamite".

 

I've found the one I want but I'm not sure he's interested in the position. He keeps mentioning his girlfriend but she lives in London so I think there's hope.

I keep practising phrases like....

 

"Would you like to meet my catamite?"

 

"Has anybody seen my catamite?"

 

"Can I bring my catamite?"

 

"Get your damn hands off my catamite!"

 

"No, he's not my son, he's my catamite"

[Guest rohale]

What does one call a male mistress. How about nothing, the idea of a male mistress seems quite silly from my point of view. The idea that someone will spend time to come up with such terminology to figure out what to call men mistresses is quite absurd and mindboggling to a large degree. Perhaps Websters Dictionary or even Oxford English Dictionary might go a long way for those who are still undecided and sitting on the fence. In Great Britain they use the expression " A Bit Of Loveliness ". Would that satisfy the curious seekers who still haven't quite come to a definitive conclusion.

 

Rohale

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

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