Would you rather overweight clients inform you about their expectations before meeting?

[Kevin Slater]

Only if it'll make him more comfortable or confident going into the session. If it doesn't matter to him, it doesn't to me either, and I'm sure we'll have loads of fun.

 

Kevin Slater

[Guest]

No. This is a reality that has always made me sad. I don't care what size, form or shape the client comes in, sweet, kind, and polite gets them in the door, not their physicality.

 

I cringe when people feel they have to warn me about their ethnicity or color but I do my best to convey that none of that matters to me. If size, creed, or color matters to an escort, 1. they're not going to be outrageously busy, and 2. perhaps they're in the wrong business.

[mike carey]

I cringe when people feel they have to warn me about their ethnicity or color but I do my best to convey that none of that matters to me.

Well said, Vin, but I would not be concerned that clients felt the need to mention it, only that it would matter to an escort. I think I have already warned you that I am old-ish!!

[Guest]

Well said, Vin, but I would not be concerned that clients felt the need to mention it, only that it would matter to an escort. I think I have already warned you that I am old-ish!!

Yes but it tells me that they have had less than pleasant reactions, that's sad and shitty to me. In fact some have shared some of the unpleasant reactions :/

[mike carey]

Yes but it tells me that they have had less than pleasant reactions, that's sad and shitty to me.

Good point, I had assumed they were just insecure not that they were reacting to previous bad experiences. The fact that you have had people share their experiences demonstrates that my theory was not always correst. You've educated me again.

[+ purplekow]

Good point, I had assumed they were just insecure not that they were reacting to previous bad experiences. The fact that you have had people share their experiences demonstrates that my theory was not always correst. You've educated me again.

Vin teaching you a lesson is a very nice way to spend a day.

[LADoug1]

When hiring I send an accurate picture of myself. Let the escort decide.

[ChrisWydeman]

I so strongly disagree with you it hurts, but I am going to let it go after this final comment because we will never agree. To even hint I suggested what you did is such is pure fabrication.

 

I would never expect an escort to be able to perform wild acrobatics with a 500 pound man and if that was a requirement for a successful session with you, then by all means, it would be smart for anyone to disclose.

 

But if you think a 350 pound man should have to disclose his weight to you, or a bald man should have to disclose he has no hair to you, or that a red head needs to tell you he is a ginger, or etc. etc. needs to disclose this to you in hopes of getting a simple hug or kiss from you, you are not half the man or escort I EVER thought you to be and frankly I am just sickened thinking about it.

 

If thats all it takes to make you sick how to fair on a boat?

[marylander1940]

Just wondering how many others try to get some idea of who is on the other end before they meet a client. I recently started asking as the text appointments started become more standard, and I got tired of sitting around texting and running off to meet someone not knowing anything about the person. People ask, "are you available?" But, available where? For whom? Who am I meeting? Are you man or woman, legal age?? People seem to be oblivious to the fact that we have no idea who they are, and it's up to me to find out. Most people are okay with it, and sometimes even send a pic.

 

However, I sent the same response today, along with 2 other questions I ask and got a snarky reply back about "if I'm concerned about their looks", to forget it. My reply was that I ask everyone that, but you can call so I atleast have a voice to go by.

 

Example stats would be: 5'11, 170, insert race (which I don't exclude any, but still helps), and age...followed by what the person is interested in.

 

The most important thing here, is its not about looks or being picky. But just like lawyers, personal trainers and apartment rental agents do brief consultations, so can escorts. It's just that our consultations involve physical attributes. I think we all have a right to know who we're meeting.

 

 

I'm sure attitude matters too, is not like pushing a bottom and getting a hard on, many escorts wouldn't be able to perform with a demanding hipper guy on meth either.

[Reluctant Daddy]

I generally go for much younger guys (20's). When I contact an escort, I generally ask if they have any age or body restrictions. I have body image problems and would rather an email or text rejection than a soul crushing face to face rejection.

[marylander1940]

Yes I am a fat boy; 61 year old pudgy...no I'm not going to be politically correct, I'm a 5'6" guy at 250 pounds. That being said, I make that known to any request for services I ask. There are some that say no problem and also some that are hustlers that don't care unless they get the money; but I look forward to someone who wants to have some fun and not be afraid of my largeness or some would say you're not that large.

 

Nice approach, makes sense to me.

[AndreFuture]

I wouldn't say "warn", just inform. I like to know basic stats of whomever I'm talking to, so I can imagine how we'd be like together. I'm honestly trying to think of the potential client I might reject and most of what comes up has to do with cleanliness (which anyone can manage with a shower beforehand) and excessive drug and alcohol use (my own fear of him being under the influence and unpredictable during our appointment).

 

I'm super new to escorting, but my first client was a big guy. He had his stats in his profile, and he also sent me a picture of him. I appreciated the info and picture because I knew what to expect when we met, and we had a great time.

 

I'm an information sponge in my regular life as well, so I always prefer more info to less. I do understand that some guys might use that info to discriminate—yet as NYClocker and others have said, I think it's better to be rejected via text/call/email by someone who really won't treat you well than end up with a unsatisfying experience or rejection in person.

[FilmGeek]

I know this is an older post, but I would like to add my thoughts.

 

For medical reasons, by my early 20's I was over 300 pounds. The gay world is very superficial, and I couldn't get a date. By 23, I was still a virgin, and that's when I started hiring escorts. I probably try about 6 new escorts a year, one every other month or so, and have done so for the last 15 years, and I have had many regulars, although I travel so much for work it makes it difficult for anything regular.

 

I learned early on to always tell them my weight and make sure that they were okay with it. When hiring an escort, I do it not only for the sex, but to feel sexy myself. Any escort can get a guy off, that's just the basics. An exceptional escort will make you feel like the sexiest man alive while you are with him. He will make you feel like you are the only person in the world that matters to him. It's a feeling that I don't get from anyone in the real world, and one why I enjoy the company of a great escort so much.

 

I have found that if I don't prepare them for what to expect, then I often find disappointment in the meeting. I had escorts turn me away at the door, which is exactly the opposite of the confidence boost I wanted. I've had escorts take me in, but not want to touch me, basically they touched as little as possible, had me jerk myself off, took my money, and shoved me out the door. I've had escorts who couldn't get hard, which makes it difficult for them to fuck me. This was all when I was in my early 20's, and a lot of my paycheck went to hiring them. Then I got lucky and hired Cameron Taylor. I warned him that I was 350 lbs, and he told me that was fine, but for the first time he made me feel like the sexiest man alive.

 

There's nothing better than seeing a smile at the door rather than disappointment. There's nothing better than an escort who can't keep their hands off you. There's nothing better than an escort who is hard the instant he sees you. And sure, this may take a little prep on their part. I find the more information I give them, the better prepared they are for the appointment, and the better time I have.

I have escorts flat out tell me that they aren't interested when I've told them my weight, and I do appreciate that. It means that they aren't wasting my time or money for a less than perfect experience.

I've had escorts who simply didn't return my text or email after I told them I was heavy. Sure I was disappointed, but not as disappointed as I would have been paying their rate and having a bad experience.

 

My vote is always tell them, If they are good at what they will do, it will only help them prepare a more pleasurable experience. If they turn you away, you are better off anyways.

[TruHart1]

I know this is an older post, but I would like to add my thoughts.

 

For medical reasons, by my early 20's I was over 300 pounds. The gay world is very superficial, and I couldn't get a date. By 23, I was still a virgin, and that's when I started hiring escorts. I probably try about 6 new escorts a year, one every other month or so, and have done so for the last 15 years, and I have had many regulars, although I travel so much for work it makes it difficult for anything regular.

 

I learned early on to always tell them my weight and make sure that they were okay with it. When hiring an escort, I do it not only for the sex, but to feel sexy myself. Any escort can get a guy off, that's just the basics. An exceptional escort will make you feel like the sexiest man alive while you are with him. He will make you feel like you are the only person in the world that matters to him. It's a feeling that I don't get from anyone in the real world, and one why I enjoy the company of a great escort so much.

 

I have found that if I don't prepare them for what to expect, then I often find disappointment in the meeting. I had escorts turn me away at the door, which is exactly the opposite of the confidence boost I wanted. I've had escorts take me in, but not want to touch me, basically they touched as little as possible, had me jerk myself off, took my money, and shoved me out the door. I've had escorts who couldn't get hard, which makes it difficult for them to fuck me. This was all when I was in my early 20's, and a lot of my paycheck went to hiring them. Then I got lucky and hired Cameron Taylor. I warned him that I was 350 lbs, and he told me that was fine, but for the first time he made me feel like the sexiest man alive.

 

There's nothing better than seeing a smile at the door rather than disappointment. There's nothing better than an escort who can't keep their hands off you. There's nothing better than an escort who is hard the instant he sees you. And sure, this may take a little prep on their part. I find the more information I give them, the better prepared they are for the appointment, and the better time I have.

I have escorts flat out tell me that they aren't interested when I've told them my weight, and I do appreciate that. It means that they aren't wasting my time or money for a less than perfect experience.

I've had escorts who simply didn't return my text or email after I told them I was heavy. Sure I was disappointed, but not as disappointed as I would have been paying their rate and having a bad experience.

 

My vote is always tell them, If they are good at what they will do, it will only help them prepare a more pleasurable experience. If they turn you away, you are better off anyways.

Thank you for a very well written post and welcome to the forum, FilmGeek! I always make a point to tell any new hire before we meet that I am overweight and to check if they have a problem with it, myself. The really good escorts, those who make me feel sexy and desirable, never have any problem with my body size!!!

 

TruHart1

[AdamSmith]

P.S. Of course in 'I, Claudius' the joke was that the strumpet empress Messalina outlasted the professional Scylla.

 

Mnester: Ah, then victory hath conceded thee! The Queen is dead ... Long live the Queen!

 

Messalina: Come back, you whore! We've not finished.

 

Scylla: She's inhuman! Her insides must be made out of old army boots! The money - where's my money?

 

Mnester: Here, Lady, here. Three gold pieces per head. Will you take 'em or shall I have 'em sent?

 

Scylla: I'll take it. Amateurs!

 

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[+ Eric Hassan]

I think it's fair and reasonable for a client to share at least basic stats with an escort - whatever they may be - along with other pertinent information. We all have different tastes, and some men enjoy overweight guys. As escorts, we sometimes are hired by guys who aren't our particular tastes, but I personally find that if I have at least a little clue about what this person looks like, I can find a way to eroticize the encounter and the guy so I can bring my best self to the session. That said, if someone doesn't volunteer this information, it isn't a deal breaker for me. It's just more helpful if I have it.

[marylander1940]

I think it's fair and reasonable for a client to share at least basic stats with an escort - whatever they may be - along with other pertinent information. We all have different tastes, and some men enjoy overweight guys. As escorts, we sometimes are hired by guys who aren't our particular tastes, but I personally find that if I have at least a little clue about what this person looks like, I can find a way to eroticize the encounter and the guy so I can bring my best self to the session. That said, if someone doesn't volunteer this information, it isn't a deal breaker for me. It's just more helpful if I have it.

 

Great point, as long as the potential client describes himself in an accurate way.

[LivingnLA]

What a great thread. Thanks to everything who's shared. I've learned quite a bit. I'm sure glad I found this forum.

[marylander1940]

I never expect or ask an escort to come. Shit, I'm grateful if they can get their dick hard.

 

I wonder how the hell they're able to do it most of the time.

[+ Funguy]

A friend who also hires related this about his most recent escapade: he was going to see someone for the first time so he emailed his stats - 60, 5'6", 225. Escort had no problem in making the appointment.

One thing you need to know about my friend - he is hot because he simply exudes confidence. His attitude is that he is what he is and everybody else: get with the game. He also happens to be goodlooking regardless of the weight issue.

He said the escort had so much fun with him that they extended from 2 hours to overnight no extra charge! The escort told him straight out that the reason he is so much fun AND sexy is his confidence in himself.

 

You larger guys out there - shower, brush your hair and teeth, put on a smile, swagger a bit, and just go for it! There is just more of you to play with.

[Bayman4Fun]

My experiences have some common elements with what film geek wrote a few months ago.

 

I've had the experience of gaining and losing vast amounts of weight throughout my life - multiple times. Society's reaction based on size is real. Obesity-discrimination is often called the last sanctioned bigotry in America. I can share tales of job-search, customer-service, dating, etc etc rejection... sometimes the same exact people and places treating me differently plus or minus 100+ lbs.

 

I've come to accept that I am what I am, (but not abandon the pursuit of healthier life). I've had enough negative reactions from escorts that I choose to disclose my size in advance. I was rejected by a couple offering 4-handed massage in the SF Bay Area just last week. With https://www.masseurfinder.com/mobile/listings/view/codyanddrew/

 

I'd prefer to avoid the negatives, and just get it out there.

 

Parenthetically, I'm one of those clients who is very careful, asking a lot of questions in advance. I set some ground rules. I'm absolutely certain some escorts have declined my business because I asked too many questions. I choose to believe that in weeding out the bad prospects, I've probably turned-off some good ones, but its the price I pay in pursuit of satisfaction. That I negitotiate contracts in my professional life undoubtedly carries over to this behavior. So addressing my size when I'm larger is part of a process.

 

When I'm at a larger size, I prefer the airlines that have clearly published guidelines for passengers of size. I know what to expect etc. It feels awkward and inconsiderate when, last minute, I'm subjected to evaluation by gate agents or flight crew members.

 

So I disclose. In all situations, I am exceedingly attentive to hygiene, being aware of some extra challenges, and sensitive to the stereotypes of big-smelly-fat guy.

 

Reading the posts of most of the escorts on here is reassuring. Although it's been a long time, I've been with a lot of great guys for whom my size wasn't an issue.

 

Remember this.... the escorts making intelligent posts, demonstrating thoughtfulness here on the boards, aren't necessarily representative of the entire universe of escorts. Any escort or porn actor whose been around will tell you they've met more than their share of assholes in their industry. If by disclosing my size, I avoid the assholes, I'm okay with that. It just enhances the likelihood of working with the good guys.

Edited May 10, 2017 by Bayman4Fun

[+ BigRic]

Wonderful, even poetic, post ^^ @Bayman4Fun. I'm perturbed by the negative experiences you mention, especially those two a**holes who declined to do a massage session for you last week . . . in oh-so-progressive (?) SFO no less.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Whatever makes the client comfortable is fine with me. I don't feel the need to know ahead of time as it's irrelevant to my ability to find someone attractive or provide good service, but I also don't view it as a sign of low self-esteem or anything if someone chooses to disclose. I just figure they're doing so for some of the good reasons already mentioned in this thread.

[Kipp Slinger]

If your of an escort who enjoys what he does, and enjoys his time with his clients - it shouldn't matter if the client is overweight or not.

 

A "true and humble" escort doesn't and shouldn't discriminate over size, race, or creed of any kind.

This.