Good Question For Both Clients And Escorts

[JDXXX]

Hi Everyone,

 

Just making dinner here in Atlanta, GA, and just thought of something very interesting that maybe some of you here on the forum can help me figure out.

 

How would you handle a possible negative comment thrown at you on the forum as a client or as an escort?

 

Do you guys think it's best for the escort or client to comment on the negative comment or ignore it?

 

I'd say it's best to comment on the negative comment, but in a calm, but classy manner.

 

What do you guys think? Any suggestions?

[+ WilliamM]

I'd say it's best to comment on the negative comment, but in a calm, but classy manner.

 

I agree completely agree. But, some people have very long memories. Be careful, as you always are, JD.

[+ dutchmuch]

I'd say it's best to comment on the negative comment, but in a calm, but classy manner.

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[+ WmClarke]

Depends on the comment Some stuff you just cannot let slide and some stuff is just not worth acknowledging.

 

I agree with WilliamM, who agreed with you--stay calm & classy for best results.

[+ WmClarke]

What if the negative comment is true?

Then own it!

[TruHart1]

Depends on the comment Some stuff you just cannot let slide and some stuff is just not worth acknowledging.

 

I agree with WilliamM, who agreed with you--stay calm & classy for best results.

 

You've always been calm and classy before, JD. I agree with the advice to just continue being your classy self!

 

TruHart1

[+ Charlie]

It depends on the comment. If the poster accepts PMs, I would approach him that way to ask what he meant by the comment. I can remember at least one occasion here when I interpreted a comment as a personal insult, and I snapped back, but it turned out it was not intended that way; if I had simply messaged him privately, I could have avoided a contretemps. If the comment is clearly untrue, unjust or malicious, other posters will recognize that and will probably come to your defense while you maintain a dignified silence. A spat with a disembodied voice on a message board is not really worth the trouble unless you enjoy engaging that way.

[Decatur Guy]

You get too wrapped up in the forum. Don't think about these things too much. Unless there's just something you truly need to set the record straight on, forget about it.

[AdamSmith]

Agree. The Japanese have an exquisite word & concept:

 

mokusatsu -- "to treat with silent contempt."

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mokusatsu

[JDXXX]

You get too wrapped up in the forum. Don't think about these things too much. Unless there's just something you truly need to set the record straight on, forget about it.

I agree with WilliamM, who agreed with you--stay calm & classy for best results.

Then own it!

I agree completely agree. But, some people have very long memories. Be careful, as you always are, JD.

 

Good Points, you guys. All of you are absolutely right, and will take the advice given so far with some careful thought, and consideration how to handle such problem in the future.

[Lookin]

How would you handle a possible negative comment thrown at you on the forum as a client or as an escort?

 

As a client, I'd let them know they're a jerk, suggest they mind their own damned business, and tell them to keep out of my way if they know what's good for them. .http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/mad.gif

 

As an escort, I'd apologize for any offense caused, thank them for taking the time to share their invaluable insight, and promise to try harder in the days to come. .http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/angel.png

 

As Deej or Daddy, I'd put 'em on time-out so fast it would make their head spin. http://smileys.emoticonsonly.com/emoticons/s/spinning-2143.gif

[mike carey]

Clearly, 'negative' is not the same as 'offensive' or 'insulting' so there needs to be care in responding. I saw something I thought was disrespectful and in poor taste about an escort a little while ago. I thought of commenting but decided that might lead to a shouting match and only emphasise the original remark. I could have reported the comment but it seemed to me that the admins are quickly on top of things that are against forum standards. It's easier for them to be consistent than for me as an individual user to identify whether those standards have been breached. Instead, I alerted the escort to the comment and told him I thought it was offensive, but left it to him to decide what to do.

[Guest ChrisW]

I am often flabbergasted by the social ineptitude I see on this forum. The antinomy that people feel they have allows them to think that they can hurl malicious comments peoples way. How do you handle a mean spirited comment? If it violates the terms of use on the site report it and if not we are your punching bags because you pay us after all right?

 

There was someone on this forum who posted my personal information in an attempt to make me look poorly which intern damages business. Let that sink in...this person thought so poorly of me and had so little respect for a complete stranger that they would satisfy their malice by hurting my ability to make a living. The mean spiritedness I see here is pretty darn repugnant

[dcguy20]

IMO, sometimes a thread such as this just adds fuel to the fire, and the best course of action is to let things die down.

[+ Cash4Trash]

Confession time - An escort I've known (now retired) since 2002 and I had an agreement that if anyone said anything negative about him on this site I would notify him immediately

and respond, if appropriate. J.D. that's what all your new friends are for.

[m4hotness]

You seem to be a very likable guy JD so I am surprised that any one had posted something negative about you. Stay classy like the other members said. Hugs and have a good day!

[+ sync]

JD, you identified it as a "possible" negative comment. I recommend that you first determine for yourself whether or not the comment is truly negative. Many times phrasing and connotation can distort true meaning. In any event I have every confidence that you will address it, or ignore it, in your characteristically classy manner.

[mike carey]

There was someone on this forum who posted my personal information in an attempt to make me look poorly which in turn damages business.

Chris you are one of the great guys on here (from what you post in the forum). I'm sorry that there are people here who would talk you down. I'm not even your muscle bear type!

[+ WilliamM]

You seem to be a very likable guy JD so I am surprised that any one had posted something negative about you

 

In life and on the Internet, one can never please every person. It is just not possible.

[tanman4u]

I am often flabbergasted by the social ineptitude I see on this forum. The antinomy that people feel they allows them to think that they can hurl malicious comments peoples way. How do you handle a mean spirited comment? If it violates the terms of use on the site report it and if not we are your punching bags because you pay us after all right?

 

There was someone on this forum who posted my personal information in an attempt to make me look poorly which intern damages business. Let that sink in...this person thought so poorly of me and had so little respect for a complete stranger that they would satisfy their malice by hurting my ability to make a living. The mean spiritedness I see here is pretty darn repugnant

It's not just this forum by any means. I'm in some travel forums and the bitchiness there is mind blowing. Daddy's forums are a love fest compared to some of the travel ones.

[maninsoma]

The relative anonymity of the internet brings out the worst in some people. Others simply love to get into verbal altercations with people, so they post things hoping to get challenging responses.

 

I would say that the best reaction (or lack of reaction) to a negative comment depends on both what was written but also who wrote it. If it's a well-known provocateur, then it's best to not fall into that person's trap. Not only will they never let up, even if it's clear that their original point of view is untenable, but one of their goals is to make the other person look bad due to their vehement defense; the only way to "win" in a situation like that is to take the high road and, if absolutely necessary, provide a very brief response that states the content of the negative post isn't true. On the other hand, if the negative post was made by someone who is generally perceived as being a reasonable person, you might want to reply by correcting factual errors and, if warranted, offering an apology for whatever happened that caused the misunderstanding.

 

One of the good things for clients posting here is that our livelihoods don't depend on people liking our personalities as displayed on line. For those of you who are escorts, I imagine it takes quite a bit of effort to be open without being too open, to be enthusiastic without seeming too self-promoting, to be thoughtful without coming across as arrogant, etc.

[thickornotatall]

It's not just this forum by any means. I'm in some travel forums and the bitchiness there is mind blowing. Daddy's forums are a love fest compared to some of the travel ones.

tanman4u is so correct...the level of respect/disrespect here is mild...reading posts after a news story I'm shocked that big Corps such as Xfinity/Gannett would let people post hate speech on a daily basis....#1 target?...race baiting and the hate that goes with it...Have an accident?..your fault...sorry you didn't die...crazy stuff....This forum is mostly rainbows..unicorns and marshmallows...I love marshmallows...

[ZhenXBear]

I agree with many of the other respondents; it really depends on what was said and how disparaging the remark(s) were. Sometimes expending the energy to rise to the challenge of something that may not be worth your time can be both exhausting and self defeating. I kind of liken it to when I was in my 20's and thrust into a management position in healthcare and had employees to manage who were twice (or more) my age. Often times, I'd fight battles and expend resources on a particular issue, only to win and feel just as angry as I did before I started down that path; the old "win the the battle, loose the war" adage is appropriate. What I finally learned several years later is to "overlook" those battles that weren't worth my time and effort, and focus on the ones that contributed to my overarching goals. People will judge you based on your merit and interactions with them and not give much weight the occasional nay-sayer.

[jakeleyman]

I had a mentor early in my career who, after I noted to him some negative comments coming my way from another, smiled, winked and advised to me: "Smother him with kindness." It worked and I try hard to remember that and am glad when I do.

[Rudynate]

I think the general level of civility on message boards has improved greatly. In the 90's, message boards and newsgroups were not for the faint of heart.