Strange escort behavior I keep experiencing

[Guest]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. I don't get it. Here you have a client who's eager, honest, reliable, shows up clean with minty-fresh breath, and is not really demanding in the sack. And the escort just doesn't feel like making a list of reliable clients for different cities? It would seem to require minimal effort and essentially no cost. I really don't get it. Does the escort really think it's my job to check some website frequently with the hope a particular escort will come over? Have other clients come up with this? I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

[+ bigjoey]

Do not take it personally. These particular men are just poor business people.

[imrthr]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. I don't get it. Here you have a client who's eager, honest, reliable, shows up clean with minty-fresh breath, and is not really demanding in the sack. And the escort just doesn't feel like making a list of reliable clients for different cities? It would seem to require minimal effort and essentially no cost. I really don't get it. Does the escort really think it's my job to check some website frequently with the hope a particular escort will come over? Have other clients come up with this? I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

 

 

You pose an interesting question but I think the word "strange" does not apply here, based on your description of the facts.

 

My reading of your post/question, gives me the impression that you are organized and business like. However, just because you are organized and business like, does not mean that other people are, particularly escorts. Some escorts are, no doubt, organized.

 

Diversity is the name of the game.

 

I am happy for you that you found some escorts that please you in ways that conform to their advertised profession rather than their skills at future record maintenance.

[+ FreshFluff]

Here's my take: Like many inexperienced businesspeople, some escorts operate myopically. If there's no planned trip to your city, they may be too mired in their day to day affairs--paying the rent, dealing with a boyfriend and maybe a day job--to put even a small bit of effort into recording your info and remembering to contact you at some undefined point months or years in the future. (It probably doesn't help that some people who email them about future plans are nowhere to be found when they actually visit the city.)

 

I've made the same mistake in the past. For example, I've ignored emails about the events in September because I was too busy thinking about what was going on in May. It took a while to learn how to balance it all.

[ericwinters]

Yes, it makes not one bit of sense / cent to me! Like bigjoey said poor business people. Or just people skills-less.

[MiamiLooker]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. I don't get it. Here you have a client who's eager, honest, reliable, shows up clean with minty-fresh breath, and is not really demanding in the sack. And the escort just doesn't feel like making a list of reliable clients for different cities? It would seem to require minimal effort and essentially no cost. I really don't get it. Does the escort really think it's my job to check some website frequently with the hope a particular escort will come over? Have other clients come up with this? I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

 

Consider how often the escort visits your city. If it’s infrequently and he has no specific plans to visit again soon, maybe he figures there’s no reason to keep your contact info.

[instudiocity]

Consider these:

 

-Escort promises discretion, then you ask him to keep a list of satisfied clients' email addresses by city?

 

-Escort is a chameleon constantly changing his screen name, ads and email addresses - would you recognize him if he contacts you by a different handle from a different email?

 

-Escort understands buyer's remorse/morning after jitters. Doesn't want to go through that drama with you.

 

-Escort contacts previous clients when coming to town only to get a 5% repeat rate - why should he bother building a database that doesn't give him a return on his efforts?

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Whatever happened to the old adage, the customers always right.

 

I keep discounting prospective hires due to poor customer service.

 

if your business is not doing well maybe you could consider improving your attitude will improve your nome

[Newly]

To a businessman this type of behavior seems strange, but remember that although a lot of posters keep comparing escorts to lawyers and doctors this is a very different business. Escorts seem to have to toe a very fine line between being spontaneous and trying to conduct their business in a more professional manner. As an example take a look at the ruckus with Killian. On the one hand every single review of his is excellent, so he apparently is good at delivering what he promises. But he tried to conduct his business by self-promotion, increasing his exposure, and trying new things, and it had a lot of people saying that he was pushy, a clock watcher and too narcissistic. I certainly don't want to get that argument going again, but if a doctor or lawyer did the same people would think he was a good business person. My take on it is that a lot of us want escorts who deliver a boyfriend experience and are a bit of an airhead, but we also expect them to have top rate business sense and drama free lives. That's asking for a lot. There may be a few out there who can pull all that off, but it's a lot to expect.

[jakeleyman]

With a still complicated clos life, I get pretty concerned about an escort who keeps records and initiates contacts. Even receiving unsolicited emails from escorts I love and trust concerns me. Perhaps your escorts have run into people like me who prefer that they not be contacted and they stay clear of initiating communications.

[Samai139]

Many excellent responses--let me add this: there is something to be sad about "being too available." If the escorts send you an e-mail they may believe they are lowering that "hard to get" factor that makes them alluring. After all, we tend to want that which is more difficult to get.

If you really want to hook up with these guys again, follow their suggestions and have a good time.

[whipped guy]

The scheduling aspects of the business are the most difficult and some guys are better at it than others. There is indeed a fine line between an escort contacting you to see if you might be interested vs. being overly pushy. I actually had to tell one guy who overstepped his bounds (and could not take a hint) that I had moved to an area that I knew he would never travel to or expect me to travel from to see him. Still, the best guys are well organized. I incidentally will be seeing a guy who recently sent an email saying that he would be in my area. He does so to clients who have told them that they want to be notified. It is professionally worded, businesslike, and not personalized so it does not give the impression that the guy is putting any pressure on you. It is the perfect balance and it not only makes me feel good that he knows that I would be interested in seeing him, but also that he is on top of his game... and in more ways than one.

 

Still we must remember that keeping track of clients in a way that makes the client feel comfortable is a challenge for many of these guys. One guy who was in marketing told me that he felt that that it was best to under-sell. Others go for the hard-sell. It's not easy at times... as opposed to the "other stuff" which comes naturally to them!!

[jimboivyo]

Many excellent responses--let me add this: there is something to be sad about "being too available." If the escorts send you an e-mail they may believe they are lowering that "hard to get" factor that makes them alluring. After all, we tend to want that which is more difficult to get.

If you really want to hook up with these guys again, follow their suggestions and have a good time.

 

this is very true

 

no matter how hot if an escort looks to be begging for business, constantly posting here multiple times a day for example, it turns me off

 

something is much more alluring to me when it's just out of reach but not totally unobtainable

[rvwnsd]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. ... I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

 

I see nothing strange about these escorts' responses to you, nor would I classify this as "behavior." You hired a guy and had a great time. You want to hire him again when he visits your city. He asked you to check his web site and/or look for his ad in your city. I don't see a problem. Check Rentboy and see if he is in your city. If he is, hire him. If he isn't, then he isn't available to be hired.

 

Yes, there are escorts who maintain mailing lists. There are also escorts who don't. The three guys you hired fall into the second category. So be it.

[+ purplekow]

I hired one escort

when I was visiting a nearby city and each time he visits that city he gives a call to tell me he is in that city. i do not mind the call and it was agreed upon at the time of the encounter that it was okay to call. It has been several years and I have not and probably will not hire him again but, i still enjoy the call and who knows, if he catches me on the right day, I might hire him.

On the other hand, I have missed several opportunities to hire escorts I would definitely hire as they do not contact me nor do they post on Rentboy and other sites with long enough lead time for me to arrange my schedule. . Even though i check some ad sites with frequency, NYC and Philadelphia are the nearest cities and that can mean as many as 500 ads to shuffle through. I also have asked to be informed if an escort is coming to town without response. So, i have made a short list of escorts I would like to hire and periodically, I send out an e mail asking if they will be in the area any time soon. Success with that has been limited but I have, on occasion, learned that an escort will be visiting the area long before his ad went up.

[+ Axiom2001]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. I don't get it. Here you have a client who's eager, honest, reliable, shows up clean with minty-fresh breath, and is not really demanding in the sack. And the escort just doesn't feel like making a list of reliable clients for different cities? It would seem to require minimal effort and essentially no cost. I really don't get it. Does the escort really think it's my job to check some website frequently with the hope a particular escort will come over? Have other clients come up with this? I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

 

BigJoey and a few others here answered in the manner in which I would have responded. I've had escorts who send me emails [without my request] citing that they'll be in my general area, an act of which I have appreciated. But, the thing that gets me is after an escort and I have concluded "our deed/fun," he fails to indicate that he'd like to get together again! When this has happened, my thought immediately is that he would NOT want to see me again; thus I don't reconnect with him again either!! On the other hand, a few have just done the opposite, and usually we do reconnect and enhance our time and my basking in another afterglow!

 

Reread the responses of your fellow correspondents and make up your mind from here on. Thanks for the post!

[Decatur Guy]

I have a few escorts who send me notifying e-mails if coming to Atlanta and some who don't. Those who do are much more likely to get my business, as I don't check the websites weekly.

[MrMiniver]

This is the third time I've had this experience lately, and it really baffles me. A really hot (often well-reviewed) escort comes into my town, and we have a great time. I ask him "Would you send me an e-mail when you know you're going to come into town again?". Repeatedly, I just get a response along the lines of "I'll put an ad up on rentboy," or "I'll announce it on my website," or something like that. I don't get it. Here you have a client who's eager, honest, reliable, shows up clean with minty-fresh breath, and is not really demanding in the sack. And the escort just doesn't feel like making a list of reliable clients for different cities? It would seem to require minimal effort and essentially no cost. I really don't get it. Does the escort really think it's my job to check some website frequently with the hope a particular escort will come over? Have other clients come up with this? I think I'm a great customer, so I really can't understand why otherwise great escorts won't make it easy for me to hire them again.

 

Some of these guys just live in the moment and have no concept of "marketing."

[MrMiniver]

I see nothing strange about these escorts' responses to you, nor would I classify this as "behavior." You hired a guy and had a great time. You want to hire him again when he visits your city. He asked you to check his web site and/or look for his ad in your city. I don't see a problem. Check Rentboy and see if he is in your city. If he is, hire him. If he isn't, then he isn't available to be hired.

 

Yes, there are escorts who maintain mailing lists. There are also escorts who don't. The three guys you hired fall into the second category. So be it.

 

Well, it is "behavior." And it is also a very poor business practice. It's no different than a product that doesn't advertise (via mail or on TV or ...) and expects you to just seek it out.

[MscleLovr]

I agree that it is "very poor business practice" and I find that is fairly common among working guys. Oddly enough, the enthusiastic amateurs I've met when they have wanted "support" have been consistently careful to stay in touch and we have had repeated contact.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

...the enthusiastic amateurs I've met when they have wanted "support" have been consistently careful to stay in touch and we have had repeated contact.

 

Ditto! I rarely decline a follow-up invitation from an enthusiastic amateur.

 

Just like in business, customer "touch" keeps the connection fresh.

[+ Gar1eth]

My take on it is that a lot of us want escorts who deliver a boyfriend experience and are a bit of an airhead, but we also expect them to have top rate business sense and drama free lives. That's asking for a lot. There may be a few out there who can pull all that off, but it's a lot to expect.

 

 

Yes to boyfriend experience- No to being with an airhead.

 

Gman

[+ poolboy48220]

Even though i check some ad sites with frequency, NYC and Philadelphia are the nearest cities and that can mean as many as 500 ads to shuffle through.

Huh, I guess that's one small advantage to the Detroit market. There are rarely many guys to go through so the new guys jump out immediately. One page of guys on Rentboy, 4 or 5 on Men4RentNow (and I wish they'd give an option for more than 7 listings per page). I perk up when the number of escorts on a site changes. As long as their ad is up with a few days of lead time, I'll notice them.

[MrMiniver]

Yes to boyfriend experience- No to being with an airhead.

 

Gman

 

My interest in being with an "airhead" probably expired when I was 9 years old.

[rvwnsd]

...NYC and Philadelphia are the nearest cities and that can mean as many as 500 ads to shuffle through...

 

There's a simple solution to that dilemma. Block the escorts you know you are not interested in hiring. Their ads will not display when you search and the results list will be dramatically reduced. I wish I could claim credit for that idea, but Kevin Slater mentioned it in a long-ago post. Thanks, Kevin, for that time-saving idea.

 

 

...I also have asked to be informed if an escort is coming to town without response. So, i have made a short list of escorts I would like to hire and periodically, I send out an e mail asking if they will be in the area any time soon. Success with that has been limited but I have, on occasion, learned that an escort will be visiting the area long before his ad went up.

 

I've done that too, with good results.

 

In my previous post, I forgot to mention that a couple of guys who now text me when they are in my town were at first reluctant to do so but changed their minds after I hired them a few times. Sometimes, it is a trust thing on both ends.