Walking out because the photos didn't match in real life

[panpanda]

Hi, I wanted to ask if you ever tried to hire a provider but walked out because the photos the providers use to advertise didn't match with what you saw in person? Whether that's because they used a fake photo or outdated photos.

Edited 18 hours ago by panpanda

[TBD]

I have two stories -

I have stuck with my regulars lately unless I am traveling. 

When traveling  - I hired and did an incall. When I walked into the building I passed a twink carrying a bag of trash downstairs, and I when I got in the apartment, it was clear that the trash had been hastily taken from the room - the place was filthy. And the guys photos were obviously massively outdated.

I asked to use the bathroom and then got half the cash out, and when I came out I just said "yeah its not going to work, but thanks for seeing me - here is half the fee" and put it down and walked out. He had no reviews and I wanted to wait a few weeks before I left a review here and on RM but he has since let his add expire. 

Next one - I hired a guy I had my eye on for a while. He has a pretty big following on twitter and had many good reviews here. The problem? He wouldn't send a face pic. Due to the recommendations here, I decided to hire anyway. He was prompt, clean, friendly and performed well and did everything I wanted to do. The only thing was I was really not attracted to his face and he was fully bald. Nothing wrong with being bald, I like it on some guys. But had I seen his face I really don't think I would have hired. I think this guy knows this, which is why he would not send a face pic rather than being 'extra discrete'. In this case I decided not to leave a bad review or comment here because he was a nice guy and it really was my fault for not insisting on seeing a face pic. Lesson learned.

Moral of the story - If you hire someone with no reviews and their pics are not real, be prepared to just leave some cash, in addition to a bad review, it's the risk you take. 

Edited 16 hours ago by TBD

[+ JamesB]

49 minutes ago, panpanda said:

Hi, I wanted to ask if you ever tried to hire a provider but walked out because the photos the providers use to advertise didn't match with what you saw in person? Whether that's because they used a fake photo or outdated photos.

For me, these are two very separate issues. If the photos are fake and belong to someone else, I would walk away immediately regardless of anything else. If the pictures are simply outdated but still of him and he is in decent shape, I would likely proceed with the meeting. That said, outdated photos matter a little less in the context of a massage provider than they do for an escort.

 

Edited 17 hours ago by JamesB

[MikeW]

I let them know I value honesty in photos. If things feel off when we meet, I'll likely head out. Usually, they either agree or they filter themselves out by ghosting. 

[maninsoma]

I still remember walking halfway up some guy's steps (he asked me to call when I was near) and him opening the door to reveal a man probably 20 years older and 50 pounds heavier than I anticipated.  I told him as I turned around that I was unhappy that he wasted my time by misrepresenting himself.  He actually had the nerve to clap back at me, I guess because he's used to guys just following through with the appointment or paying him for nothing, neither of which I intended to do.  If it's just a matter of the reality doesn't quite live up to my fantasy, I will likely continue with the appointment.

[+ PhileasFogg]

One of my favorite stories here.  You’ll see my experience several posts in and, if I recall, another member recounted a similar experience 

 

[DMonDude]

Haven't really had this issue fortunately. But definitely would immediately leave if it was a full on catfish, not the person in the photos. Even if they used an actor/model photos they looked similar to. If it's not the actual person, i'm leaving.

If it's just photos that aren't super current, it would just depend on how different they looked. People get different haircuts, muscle definition/body fat percentage comes and goes. Especially cause i'm a bit more overall attractiveness oriented not as fixated on exact muscle tone. So i can be fairly forgiving of that, but there is definitely still a line.

[Charlington]

I hosted a backpage escort long ago in a hotel. He was definitely using fake pictures. I let him in my room anyway, after glancing at the peephole, and confronted him about his fake pictures. I asked him to leave. He then pretended to call a friend to jump me. I just gave him the money and he left. After that incident, I’m very hesitant to confront escorts or refuse to pay them, if they use fake pictures or outdated ones, because of my fear of them retaliating. 

[Whoisyourdaddy]

This is why I would never meet a provider who hasn't been vetted on here and by reputable clients on RM. I haven't had problems yet.

[nomad]

With the increased use of governments (especially ours) of scrapping social media sites and building a vast database for facial recognition, I think more guys that travel to many different countries will see the benefit of not using their own photos, blurring their faces or cropping their heads off.  I don't immediately reject someone who doesn't use their own photos as long as they look similar or better than who I thought I was expecting to me.  Having a quick video call usually can remove this issue.  I pass on anyone that doesn't want to do this. 

The use of outdated photos is more nuanced.  I always ask how recent the photos are and loop in the video call or ask for a custom photo with a number of fingers held up.   If it's obvious they look really differently now, I will pass.  Not worth my time (and they definitely aren't going to get any of my money).  As customers, I sometimes think we lose sight of this.  That WE are the customers.  Don't pay for what you didn't get.  

[+ glutes]

5 hours ago, panpanda said:

Hi, I wanted to ask if you ever tried to hire a provider but walked out because the photos the providers use to advertise didn't match with what you saw in person? Whether that's because they used a fake photo or outdated photos.

I have walked away several times.

And get ready to run. One provider chased me down a hall yelling, "Those are my pictures!"

[ACluelessGent]

Yes, I have. And not because the photos didn't match, but simply because the vibe wasn't there. I usually meet at a nice bar, so after one drink and a bit of chat, I'll politely say that it's not working and send them on their way. I consider myself lucky—this has only happened a couple of times as far as I can recall."

 

[jonasfoleson]

14 hours ago, panpanda said:

Hi, I wanted to ask if you ever tried to hire a provider but walked out because the photos the providers use to advertise didn't match with what you saw in person? Whether that's because they used a fake photo or outdated photos.

perfectly normal.  there is nothing they can do, and it's on them.

[Muscle_Admirer]

I think one angle that hasn’t been discussed much yet…somewhere between straight-up catfishing and just using outdated photos…is the growing use of AI to enhance real images. I’m genuinely unsettled by how many providers are already doing this, and how common it’s likely to become. At some point, heavy AI touch-ups may simply be accepted as the norm, even if most people would still call it catfishing.

So far I’ve noticed it most often with fitness influencers on Instagram. The real question is: how far from reality do these enhancements have to stray before clients start walking away? If “close enough” is good enough for most people, I suspect this form of technological catfishing is only going to get worse.

On a personal level, the most reliable way I’ve found to avoid being catfished is to start on R.M. The upload dates on photos there are extremely helpful. If nothing recent has been added, I’ll cross-check their Instagram (if I know the account). After that I’ll search here for recent reviews or experiences.

If none of those give me confidence, I’ll set up a quick public meet. If they match their pictures, great. If not, I discreetly leave. The interesting thing is that when a provider is willing to meet in public, it’s almost always a reliable sign they closely resemble their photos. Knock on wood, but I’ve never had to walk away once I reached that stage.

[maninsoma]

12 hours ago, nomad said:

With the increased use of governments (especially ours) of scrapping social media sites and building a vast database for facial recognition, I think more guys that travel to many different countries will see the benefit of not using their own photos, blurring their faces or cropping their heads off.  I don't immediately reject someone who doesn't use their own photos as long as they look similar or better than who I thought I was expecting to me.  Having a quick video call usually can remove this issue.  I pass on anyone that doesn't want to do this. 

The use of outdated photos is more nuanced.  I always ask how recent the photos are and loop in the video call or ask for a custom photo with a number of fingers held up.   If it's obvious they look really differently now, I will pass.  Not worth my time (and they definitely aren't going to get any of my money).  As customers, I sometimes think we lose sight of this.  That WE are the customers.  Don't pay for what you didn't get.  

My issue with your first paragraph is that you seem to be saying that it's reasonable for a traveling provider to hide his face so he isn't added to a vast database for facial recognition but it is okay for him to just use some other man's face so he is added to that database instead.  Maybe that's not what you meant since you also mentioned blurring their faces and cropping photos, but the part about not immediately rejecting someone who doesn't use his own photos just caught my eye.  I previously would have agreed with you -- if the guy who shows up more or less resembles the photos, I wasn't upset.  Now I just see it as someone who is willing to create potential legal problems for someone else he doesn't even know in order to make things easier for himself.  There's no way I'd willingly support that kind of behavior.