how and when Professional Bottoms cum

[Roger Smith]

Not sure if this is a topic that's been covered here or not, but here goes.

When hiring a pro bottom, what are the expectations around if and when you can expect them to cum?

I know that that typically in a gay anal sex situation, both parties tend to make an effort to keep the bottom from cumming until very near the end of the experience.  The idea being that you're minimizing the time that the bottom continues to get fucked after having cum, because that can be physically challenging. 

My question is this: when hiring a paid bottom, theoretically a professional bottom, does that same expectation hold?  

I can't be alone among tops in this.  Some of us are into cum play.  Love to fuck a load out of a bottom.  Enjoy his his load, share it with him, get us both messy with it.  Then take my time in getting myself where I need to get off and breed him.  All without worrying if he's okay and if I'm somehow transgressing.  

Is this a realistic expectation of a pro bottom?  Any NYC guys able to recommend specific providers whose skill set includes this kind of sex?  

 

[jeezifonly]

This sounds like a second-session question for the provider. See how the first hookup plays out regarding the provider's enjoyment of bottoming, then ask about the choreographed version of climaxes in your head - which is a perfectly normal scenario, btw, but will be easier to achieve if he knows in advance and can pace the session accordingly. 

[j r]

4 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

This sounds like a second-session question for the provider. See how the first hookup plays out regarding the provider's enjoyment of bottoming, then ask about the choreographed version of climaxes in your head - which is a perfectly normal scenario, btw, but will be easier to achieve if he knows in advance and can pace the session accordingly. 

Why wait til the second session to ask? Most providers I know prefer upfront conversation after you’ve booked but before the meet to set expectations. Just don’t waste their time with a lot of back and forth. Say what you like clearly and succinctly and that you’re open to discussing details once you’re together. 

Edited 20 hours ago by j r

[theplayerking]

2 hours ago, Roger Smith said:

Not sure if this is a topic that's been covered here or not, but here goes.

When hiring a pro bottom, what are the expectations around if and when you can expect them to cum?

I know that that typically in a gay anal sex situation, both parties tend to make an effort to keep the bottom from cumming until very near the end of the experience.  The idea being that you're minimizing the time that the bottom continues to get fucked after having cum, because that can be physically challenging. 

My question is this: when hiring a paid bottom, theoretically a professional bottom, does that same expectation hold?  

I can't be alone among tops in this.  Some of us are into cum play.  Love to fuck a load out of a bottom.  Enjoy his his load, share it with him, get us both messy with it.  Then take my time in getting myself where I need to get off and breed him.  All without worrying if he's okay and if I'm somehow transgressing.  

Is this a realistic expectation of a pro bottom?  Any NYC guys able to recommend specific providers whose skill set includes this kind of sex?  

 

Many providers avoid cumming unless you specifically request it ahead of time. Even then, when he say that it’s difficult for them to cum in the moment. If cum play is really important to you, you need to let him know and make sure he’s prepared. Maybe schedule the last appointment of the day.

[+ Jamie21]

Just ask. If you want him to cum and then fuck him some more until you cum then it’s best to ask. I’m always appreciative of clients who ask for specifics if they want something that particularly gets them off. If I’m bottoming it’s more down to the skill of the top if I can continue to bottom after I’ve cum. I think a good top will slow down or stop briefly after the bottom cums and then start again after a couple of minutes. If he’s good then it’s likely I’ll get hard again. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I'd suggest asking as well. I'm a top and I've been with bottoms that have needed me to stop fucking them as soon as they cum. I've also had others that have had no problem with me going to town on them all I want regardless of if they've already came.

Edited 21 hours ago by BuffaloKyle

[TxDaddyBear]

Definitely ask! Some of us love a session like that. Also, if you want me to cum, the end of day is the best time to book. 

[Braziliancutee]

Well being a bottom ( a good one) I just like to cum after my partner cum. And also based on his dick size, if he is fucking for a long time and fucking hard sometimes I stay more focus in make him happy and not focus on getting hard. Bc we have a lot pressure. If we are 100% clean or something like that. I never asked for any guy stopping when they are fucking really hard but I don’t stay hard during the act. I stay worried in making him happy and making him cum. Bc if the bottom is like me (tight) and if u fuck hard sometimes hurts a bit. But a good bottom never ask to stop. 
And also even knowing we are clean we always stay worried with that.

Edited 14 hours ago by Braziliancutee

[Braziliancutee]

Also for me (talking about myself) when the sex is really good when the guy fuck me hard and for a while (2h or more). I normally don’t cum bc we don’t have energy to stay hard and especially if u do a lot positions and your partner cum more than once. We stay exhausted.