Deodorant for a first date?

[+ purplekow]

I recently had a hook-up/date with someone with a first time encounter with them.  After showering, I was faced with the age old issue....deodorant or not.  Palm Spring weather last week was in the mid 80s.  I opted for deodorant.  It was clear from prior conversation, that sex was a likely possibility.   The date went well and eventually we retired to my bedroom.  During the party time, my partner headed for a deep pit sniff and came back with an "oooh deodorant".   While that did not end the festivities, in actuality it barely slowed them down at all/. Afterwards, during the post game show, I asked about deodorant and he said he finds it off putting and it tastes bad.  So now I know for the next time.  There was indeed a next time which was deodorant free.  

So first date, deodorant or no?   It seems like a question I would not usually think to ask and it probably would be weird, so I do not find that to be a reasonable option.  

I guess the same question could be asked of fragrances.  

[+ claym]

Definitely no deodorant or talcum powder for me for any date/sex play.  Deodorant always tastes bad.  I am not among those who enjoy pit scent but there are many who do.  If I was concerned about pit odor, I would before the activity gets too hot and heavy sponge my pits with some soapy water and then rinse.

Cologne is a different matter.  If a scent smells classy to me and it's a setting that warrants an upscale cologne, I feel more attractive.  If however I anticipate it's a rough and tumble outdoorsy guy, no way. My pit scent is part of the experience.  My first sexual experience was with a guy whose cologne smelled terrible.  To this day I have a flashback when I smell something similar.

I rely on the sales person behind the cologne counter to guide me.  Between each scent i am advised to smell coffee beans to neutralize the prior scent.  It works!

Edited yesterday at 12:29 AM by claym
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[56harrisond]

I too find the smell/taste of deodorant off-putting, I also don't desire a fresh out of the shower armpit either. I much prefer to smell/bask in a man's natural musk.

Fragrances on clothing is a different story. A fragrance can enhance an outfit without detracting from the man's scent, so I like a good cologne.

[jeezifonly]

At first meeting, we are no different from dogs. We save the asshole for later, but initial sniffing is part of the ritual. Snarl, or play-bow?

In theatres, my career-long place of work, fragrance is no longer allowed. Broke the habit.

Since retiring, I sweat less so never wear prevention unless for a super long active day.

What I do instead - every shower my underarms get a (thinned) application of Hibiclens to soak while scrubbing feet, follow w body wash - kills existing bacteria better. Sweat you add during your date will be clean. 

Fragrance for me is sparing and only on larger social occasions. My fave still works with my ancient chemistry. Good Lord been using it 50yrs on and off. 

Edited yesterday at 12:46 AM by jeezifonly

[Luv2play]

50 years ago when I started travelling extensively to Europe for business I bought colognes in the duty free shops. I loved using them, Vetiver, Capitain Molineux and other male fragrances. But those are the ones I remember. I didn’t put them on my underarms but just splashed them on around my chest. 
As I got older I started using underarm deodorant but not antiperspirant with aluminum as that got a bad reputation.

After I retired I stopped using any body fragrance or deodorants. Au natural all the way now. 

[+ Just Sayin]

if you shower right before your date, that should be sufficient; my favorite times with my guy are when he showers but doesn't give too much attention to his pits; it's especially good after he's been riding his bike!

[liubit]

The smelt of sweaty (not overripe and raunchy) pits, balls, ass, and feet turns me on big time. I am very much into natural male scents, and I therefore ask my dates -both paid and unpaid- to NOT wear perfume or deodorant, and to NOT shower before we meet. I am a big armpit licker and deodorant tastes foul. 

Full disclosure: unless otherwise instructed, I always shower before a date, but I avoid deodorant and perfume. 

[liubit]

37 minutes ago, Just Sayin said:

it's especially good after he's been riding his bike

Oh yes 😍

[+ Pensant]

I’ve been known to ask young providers to not shower for a few days before our meetups, and to add a workout or two. That drives me over the edge!

[liubit]

4 minutes ago, Pensant said:

I’ve been known to ask young providers to not shower for a few days before our meetups, and to add a workout or two. That drives me over the edge!

We are on the same page, @Pensant  Besides requesting them to not shower and to build a sweat, I also advise them to not change their underwear and socks for a couple of days, especially if they go to the gym. The musky fragrance of their crotch, feet, and ass is intoxicating to me. 

[+ Just Sayin]

any thoughts on what it is that makes the taste and body odors of another guy a turn-on?  there must be something in our biological makeup that wants us to experience this.

[+ Yellowrod]

I came handsfree with my face buried in a guy's pit once.  He had come straight from the gym to the date.   Not sure what it was, but his armpit, and slightly sticky sweaty body was so intoxicating.  He told me he never wore deodorant.  No one else's scent has been able to make me cum like that again, and I've been seeking it since. 

[+ JamesB]

I guess I’m the odd duck in this pond. For me, it’s automatic, I get out of the shower, put on deodorant, and a bit of cologne. If a date specifically asks me not to wear deodorant, I’m fine with that. When I’m hiring, wearing deodorant and cologne is what makes me feel most comfortable, so that’s how I show up. For what it’s worth, I’ve also asked a couple of providers to take a quick shower before we start playing.

[+ SidewaysDM]

 

1 hour ago, JamesB said:

I guess I’m the odd duck in this pond. For me, it’s automatic, I get out of the shower, put on deodorant, and a bit of cologne. If a date specifically asks me not to wear deodorant, I’m fine with that. When I’m hiring, wearing deodorant and cologne is what makes me feel most comfortable, so that’s how I show up. For what it’s worth, I’ve also asked a couple of providers to take a quick shower before we start playing.

You are not  only odd duck in this pond. James B. I agree with you. Freshly showered, a light cologne and a bit of mild deodorant is essential for me and my date or provider. Then as things heat up and you work up a sweat, it’s pleasant. My first hookup didn’t shower or wear deodorant and it was not a pleasant experience, or one I would want to repeat.