How to keep emotions out....

[Veryshyone]

Another part about hiring providers. I am interested in knowing how to keep emotions out. I find I get an emotional attachment to providers and am wondering do providers and clients experience the same or will this subside as I continue on this journey. Asking as a newbie. I want to continue this journey. Really appreciate open, honest feedback.

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Veryshyone said:

I find I get an emotional attachment to providers and am wondering do providers and clients experience the same or will this subside as I continue on this journey

Lots of discussion here: 

 

 

[jeezifonly]

On 1/8/2026 at 6:01 PM, Veryshyone said:

Another part about hiring providers. I am interested in knowing how to keep emotions out. I find I get an emotional attachment to providers and am wondering do providers and clients experience the same or will this subside as I continue on this journey. Asking as a newbie. I want to continue this journey. Really appreciate open, honest feedback.

 

Plan your hiring life around your social life, rather than vice-versa. You may develop a crush, and the way to push through it is infrequent rehires because you're too busy. 

 

[Elite_XL]

I would say, try to mindful of your emotions. Don’t just ignore them but understand what you are feeling and why. Remember why you are hiring someone and that this is their job. 

If you realize that you are catching feelings, acknowledge it, and take a step back or even distance yourself for some time. If you prefer, try to share it with the provider so you don’t lose the connection either way.

If there are feelings from both sides, then great. Take it from there. 

[+ SidewaysDM]

3 hours ago, Elite_XL said:

I would say, try to mindful of your emotions. Don’t just ignore them but understand what you are feeling and why. Remember why you are hiring someone and that this is their job. 

If you realize that you are catching feelings, acknowledge it, and take a step back or even distance yourself for some time. If you prefer, try to share it with the provider so you don’t lose the connection either way.

If there are feelings from both sides, then great. Take it from there. 

Thank you Elite_XL for sharing some great and healthy ways to deal with emotions that many clients might encounter when hiring a provider.                                                               One additional action, I take when I feel like my emotions toward a provider, are becoming unhealthy, is to start looking for an additional provider. It definitely helps to take that energy and focus on a positive action, and helps break the cycle of obsessive thoughts and emotions towards your only provider. It has worked well for me. 

 

 

[LuckyLechon]

On 1/14/2026 at 10:54 PM, jeezifonly said:

Plan your hiring life around your social life, rather than vice-versa. You may develop a crush, and the way to push through it is infrequent rehires because you're too busy. 

 

Great advice. It should be a bonus in your life, not the main part of it. Have a fulfilling life outside of hiring and if you don’t have one, work toward one. I don’t even mean a social life, I mean hobbies, goals/aspirations to work toward, the gym, anything you can be passionate about.

[HockeyMan]

Hiring a provider is an emotional, intimate experience. But it's different from spending time with friends, family and romantic partners. You don't pay a provider to spend time with you; you pay him to leave. It's a transactional relationship. Embrace it.

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, HockeyMan said:

You don't pay a provider to spend time with you; you pay him to leave. 

Maybe for you, but for many of us, we hire for the touch and intimacy. We wouldn't be hiring for weekends if we we're paying them to leave.

Edited 22 hours ago by Mark_fl

[Nikba]

Common issue among mature men, those beautiful eyes, lovely face, adorable smooth butt and sweet juicy labios. I focus on an enjoyment, the fun of being with the guy half my age and it couldn't be possible without the provider instead of intimacy. Not an easy thing and we all fell for those beautiful faces and an intimacy settled in one's head, when that happened I shifted to New Provider to diverted my interests and it worked for me. New face once or twice a month. Of course, I have my regular and again for fun and only fun. If one focus on fun, you can drill and be drilled longer.