Masseur wanting more?

[NYClooking]

Met a masseur from RM on my birthday. We had discussed strictly a massage and not a deli session. However, one thing led to another and after the massage we ended up fooling around. While doing that, he randomly asked me if I had a boyfriend. When we finished he stayed an extra hour just cuddling and chatting, and when I paid for the massage, he told me “next time he won’t charge”. He also called me sexy a bunch of times, said he doesn’t usually cum with clients even when they’re younger (and had a “5 day load”). 
 

Def put a smile on my face but now I can’t help but think that he was just a smart salesperson or that he’s playing the longer game of having a more established sugar equation. Is this the correct read on the situation? I did really enjoy my time with him. 

[dutchal]

Best case scenario:  He decided he's personally interested in you.  Wait to see if he gets back in touch and asks for a date.

More likely:  He likes you and was horny, which was why this one time things went as far as they did, but it's still a provider-customer relationship.

[Unonymous30xxx]

Unless the next time really is free.....

[BaronArtz]

Hard to tell.  But if he had the time to cuddle with you for another hour, he is not booking back to back ... 

[Nue2thegame]

1 hour ago, NYClooking said:

Met a masseur from RM on my birthday. We had discussed strictly a massage and not a deli session. However, one thing led to another and after the massage we ended up fooling around. While doing that, he randomly asked me if I had a boyfriend. When we finished he stayed an extra hour just cuddling and chatting, and when I paid for the massage, he told me “next time he won’t charge”. He also called me sexy a bunch of times, said he doesn’t usually cum with clients even when they’re younger (and had a “5 day load”). 
 

Def put a smile on my face but now I can’t help but think that he was just a smart salesperson or that he’s playing the longer game of having a more established sugar equation. Is this the correct read on the situation? I did really enjoy my time with him. 

Best guess is that it was a little bit of both. 

[xax]

Keep us posted!

[maninsoma]

Play it by ear.  You have no reason to doubt that he was genuinely interested in you, so go with that assumption until/unless you get an indication otherwise.  If you don't hear from him and you do reach out to him, it would be best for you to just be direct about your last interaction and ask him if he's interested in seeing you in a non-professional capacity as he indicated.  You definitely don't want to find yourself there at the end of whatever transpires with him expecting payment and you thinking you had a date.

[Wanderoz]

The new Happy Ending we are all waiting for!

[Manhattan]

It's interesting that people with so few posts always have providers falling for them. Maybe they are legitimate concerns or maybe just a form of fan fiction.

Either way, it's fun to weigh in.

You are in control of this situation. Pay him and enjoy the noncommittal attention or take a risk and ask him if he would be open to exploring a relationship. Masseurs know the risks and rewards of making clients feel special - you won't offend him either way. 

Since none of us know you or the provider, you'll have to figure out how to read the signals and communicate just like you would with any other human being.

[NYClooking]

2 hours ago, Manhattan said:

It's interesting that people with so few posts always have providers falling for them. Maybe they are legitimate concerns or maybe just a form of fan fiction.

Either way, it's fun to weigh in.

You are in control of this situation. Pay him and enjoy the noncommittal attention or take a risk and ask him if he would be open to exploring a relationship. Masseurs know the risks and rewards of making clients feel special - you won't offend him either way. 

Since none of us know you or the provider, you'll have to figure out how to read the signals and communicate just like you would with any other human being.

Thanks, Manhattan. Part of the sanity check is because I don’t think I’m attractive enough to have any guys fall for me - much less providers. I don’t have posts because (as you correctly sussed) I don’t post. I def am not a looker and checking what people thought was my way of asking if this was indeed a delusional fantasy or if this was any way real. Everyone wants to feel wanted. He made me feel wanted, which I guess is the point of a provider. But most (all?) have left me feeling empty and transactional, which tracks for a transactional equation. This didn’t. The cuddling and talking after (which he asked if we could do unless I was busy) didn’t. Being called sexy and being asked if I’m taken didn’t. Being told no one else made him cum like I did didn’t. I don’t get told that EVER, including from non providers lol. Also I’m 35 and he’s 32 so it’s not even an age power dynamic. Anyway, I hope you have a good night and are less quick to dismiss anyone’s experience that doesn’t align with yours.

[Redwine56]

20 minutes ago, NYClooking said:

Thanks, Manhattan. Part of the sanity check is because I don’t think I’m attractive enough to have any guys fall for me - much less providers. I don’t have posts because (as you correctly sussed) I don’t post. I def am not a looker and checking what people thought was my way of asking if this was indeed a delusional fantasy or if this was any way real. Everyone wants to feel wanted. He made me feel wanted, which I guess is the point of a provider. But most (all?) have left me feeling empty and transactional, which tracks for a transactional equation. This didn’t. The cuddling and talking after (which he asked if we could do unless I was busy) didn’t. Being called sexy and being asked if I’m taken didn’t. Being told no one else made him cum like I did didn’t. I don’t get told that EVER, including from non providers lol. Also I’m 35 and he’s 32 so it’s not even an age power dynamic. Anyway, I hope you have a good night and are less quick to dismiss anyone’s experience that doesn’t align with yours.

Do not dismiss an opening for a new opportunity.  These comments provided a clearer picture of the dynamics.  Something you started out saying at the beginning gave me the impression that you may have been looked at as a Sugar Daddy but not now seeing that you are as close in age.  If nothing else, he made your birthday a memorable experience.  Allow some time for him to reach out to you.  That will be an indication of his intentions.  Let us know how it goes.  Good luck!  

[Terpmaniac]

23 hours ago, NYClooking said:

Met a masseur from RM on my birthday. We had discussed strictly a massage and not a deli session. However, one thing led to another and after the massage we ended up fooling around. While doing that, he randomly asked me if I had a boyfriend. When we finished he stayed an extra hour just cuddling and chatting, and when I paid for the massage, he told me “next time he won’t charge”. He also called me sexy a bunch of times, said he doesn’t usually cum with clients even when they’re younger (and had a “5 day load”). 
 

Def put a smile on my face but now I can’t help but think that he was just a smart salesperson or that he’s playing the longer game of having a more established sugar equation. Is this the correct read on the situation? I did really enjoy my time with him. 

You are too, too sexy for your own good. 😃 Enjoy the freebies!

 

Terp

Edited Wednesday at 07:05 PM by Terpmaniac

[Mk27]

Dear penthouse.  I never believed this could happen to me …..

[Unonymous30xxx]

I've been in this situation. Sometimes there's a connection and it goes beyond transactional. In my situation it turned into a friendship with benefits (which ended abruptly due to the pandemic 🤬)

I'm not conventionally attractive either, but some people are into unconventional. If he's into you, and you're into him, take the chance. These are rare and beautiful encounters, cherish it!

[+ glutes]

Where's Kris Parr?

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/3/2025 at 6:15 AM, NYClooking said:

He made me feel wanted, which I guess is the point of a provider.

Exactly. He sounds very skilled at his profession. 

Don't confuse expert marketing with real affection. I'm sure you're a nice enough fellow that he DID genuinely choose you as easy job..so an experienced professional like himself is going to do his best to keep you coming back. Including spotting you a freebie, to make you feel special. Enjoy the fantasy, but dont mistake the business arrangement for anything else.

[+ Just Sayin]

I believe attraction is a strange thing and not predictable; I think the masseur sensed something about you that he liked or appreciated; and I agree with a prior post that you should play it out; the proof will be in the pudding!

[PaulM]

Love the story.....I would give it a few weeks to see if you reaches back out to you, if not and you're still interested  I would contact him to book another "massage".  Personally, I would go into this as another business transaction and expect to pay his fee, but if he was serious in what he said the last time that may not be necessary.  Go with the flow, it could be something that felt right in the moment and you both went for it or it could be something else more sustaining but I wouldn't get your hopes up too high and just enjoy the ride for what it is.  Many of us have had great experiences with certain masseurs and have even deluded ourselves into thinking it was more, when it was just a "fling".....nothing wrong with enjoying the time together without getting crazy about it.  Life is short, enjoy!

[Hyattsville]

It's happened before and will happen again. Had a great session a few years ago and the masseur had a good time as well, he asked to meet up again just for fun. We did a few times. No more charges. Unfortunately he moved away... 

[Whatsupandstuff]

On 12/2/2025 at 9:07 PM, Manhattan said:

It's interesting that people with so few posts always have providers falling for them. Maybe they are legitimate concerns or maybe just a form of fan fiction.

Either way, it's fun to weigh in.

You are in control of this situation. Pay him and enjoy the noncommittal attention or take a risk and ask him if he would be open to exploring a relationship. Masseurs know the risks and rewards of making clients feel special - you won't offend him either way. 

Since none of us know you or the provider, you'll have to figure out how to read the signals and communicate just like you would with any other human being.

100% said perfectly 

[CuriousByNature]

14 hours ago, Just Sayin said:

I believe attraction is a strange thing and not predictable; I think the masseur sensed something about you that he liked or appreciated; and I agree with a prior post that you should play it out; the proof will be in the pudding!

I would say the proof will be in the pounding.  Hahaha.