NYC provider meet-up

[DznNYC]

A couple local provider friends and I were recently lamenting the lack of community among escorts.  And how lovely it can be to meet up with guys who’ve had similar experiences. 

Do we feel like there’s an appetite out there for a NYC provider meet-up of some kind?

[GentJ]

Also, if any of you who aren't providers might wanna come hang out too, it could be more of a CoM mixer.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

30 minutes ago, GentJ said:

Also, if any of you who aren't providers might wanna come hang out too, it could be more of a CoM mixer.

The biggest recurring successful meeting like this has been the annual Palm Springs Gathering hosted every April by our own @Oliver, although 2025 gathering may have been the last one hosted by Oliver (we are all forever grateful for the effort Oliver has put in every year to make this happen).

Following the success of this gathering, the organizer may ask the Moderator to pin the NYC gathering announcement to the top of the Lounge when it is first announced.  Interested attendees would be directed to contact the organizer and provide an email for communication regarding the venue.  If given several months notice, many out of town clients and providers may be interested. 

The annual Palm Springs Gathering seems to have had about 50 men in attendance, with a 60/40 split of clients/providers.

The NYC gathering could be Townhouse Bar one night, then dinner on the following night, as a suggestion.  Something substantial enough to make it worthwhile to block it the dates and be sure to attend, but not too elaborate and flexible on the number of people.

[+ azdr0710]

I don't live back east, but have attended a couple DC forum events (several years ago) and many Palm Spgs forum weekends......

this idea can range from a simple bar hangout one afternoon to multi-day with several planned events, but one person will need to be the default organizer, run it, and see it through start to finish........

there are just a few NY providers here in the forum, registered or not (!), and many who've never heard of this place.......I'm sure the NY forum providers here already know each other to varying extents and can come up with a plan.......

my main point is that one person needs to take the lead, be a leader, and make the plan....DO NOT poll the group asking for dates on which each person is available!.....(yes, that happened one year here in the forum and any semblance of a plan/event fell apart quickly)

 

 

Edited Tuesday at 03:50 AM by azdr0710

[GentJ]

2 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

my main point is that one person needs to take the lead, be a leader, and make the plan

DZN is the SUPREME COMMANDER 🫡

[mike carey]

I second what @azdr0710  said. I know that @DznNYC floated this idea as a providers' function and he may want to keep it that way rather than have clients also attend. Some discussions don't need clients there (or to be blunt, may only work when they are not), but some of the things that AZDR said apply to any gathering with three or more people (or they can).

My last job was in a workplace with about a score of people. Too many work lunches went south to a greater or lesser extent. Arguments about choosing from the house menu or a set meal with limited choices, whether people split the tab or paid for what they ordered, how to manage the bar tab to name a few. After a couple of dramas, I organised one where after a poll of where we would go, and some brief discussions with a few in the work hierarchy I organised the lunch with set menu, house wine and non alcoholic beverages included, other drinks order and pay separately, and split the bill. Take it or leave it. It was the smoothest we'd had in a while. As AZDR said, it needs someone to organise it, no negotiations, not a committee. Some people still complain, but more quietly, but everyone else says 'You knew what you were signing up for'.

That's how Oliver's events run too. There's a reason they work.

[DznNYC]

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 

The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!

The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

[Nightowl]

8 hours ago, DznNYC said:

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 

The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!

The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I really like the regional happy hour/get-together idea.  Low-key, guys with a common interest getting together.  I like the mixed provider-and-client option.

[hungry4darkmeat]

As a client I think that since we  live in one of the largest markets we should have our own events for providers and also for both clients and providers. I’ve produced thousands of events and would be happy to work with anyone else here to create something to help organize our respective communities and give them an opportunity to meet and interact with their peers and for both groups to meet and interact with each other in person.

If there’s anyone who would like to collab with me on this please let me know- I prefer to be collaborative on projects like this so a few volunteers and we could be chatting in person before the holidays.