Providers less and less willing to unlock private pics

[mike carey]

2 minutes ago, Cretus said:

I took the quote below by Boink as implying that he starts a dialog only after the provider agrees to unlock the gallery.
 

“When they DO unlock the gallery, I make it a point to thank them and THEN start a dialog and take it from there.”

Fair point.

[Boink]

13 minutes ago, Cretus said:

I took the quote below by Boink as implying that he starts a dialog only after the provider agrees to unlock the gallery.
 

“When they DO unlock the gallery, I make it a point to thank them and THEN start a dialog and take it from there.”

Not to belabor this topic, but if they can assume that I'm a time waster / game player by innocently asking to see their private gallery, I can assume they're either friendly for opening it or UNfriendly for displaying a big red "Request Rejected" sign.  Why should I risk hiring someone who shows me unfriendliness with no reason?  They're being cautious, but so am I.

And, being neither here nor there, I've had nice exchanges with providers whom I did NOT ask to unlock their private gallery.

[Cretus]

13 minutes ago, Boink said:

Not to belabor this topic, but if they can assume that I'm a time waster / game player by innocently asking to see their private gallery, I can assume they're either friendly for opening it or UNfriendly for displaying a big red "Request Rejected" sign.  Why should I risk hiring someone who shows me unfriendliness with no reason?  They're being cautious, but so am I.

And, being neither here nor there, I've had nice exchanges with providers whom I did NOT ask to unlock their private gallery.

Providers are not necessarily assuming you are a time waster- they may just have no signals about you at *all*, and choose to not interact due to the uncertainty.

 

I am a client, and I have my own private gallery with pics of my bubble butt and big dick. I sometimes get escorts who want to see my client private album, and the options I can select on the request are always a plain "Yes or "No" button, and nothing else. I don't think someone pressing "No" is a sign of unfriendliness to individuals who want to see my private pictures without any prior substantive chat or inquiry. 

 

That's great that you had nice exchanges with providers whom you didn't ask to unlock their private gallery. I don't take the private gallery being opened as the only factor that determines whether a client-provider meeting will happen and whether it will be successful.

Edited September 5 by Cretus

[jackcali]

I'm not sure what all the hubbub is about.  I am pretty sure I'm interested in hiring a provider from his ad even without seeing his private pics or the locked pics that I can only see with a premium membership (which I don't have).  After that, it's more the compatibility of our interests and the ability to schedule conveniently. 

The private pics are more for confirmation of what I've seen than the decision-maker in my choosing to hire.  My habit is to send a message on RM to the provider saying I'm interested and directing him to my RM profile (stats, interests, def no pics).  After that I hit the button for access to the private pics.  Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I've given the provider  all the information he needs to decide whether to carry the conversation further.  

[+ Act25]

I have several emails like the following:

"Hello Act25,

We would like to inform you that ProTop has decided to keep his gallery private. Feel free to search through the thousands of other profiles on the platform!

The Rent.Men Team"

A. ProTop is not my type so I hadn't even looked at his profile.

B. I did not request private gallery access from anyone.  

And then occasionally I get a random unlock from someone who may or may not be my type.  

FWIW I am a premium member and use .eu. 

[DMonDude]

On 9/4/2025 at 10:10 PM, Boink said:

Not to belabor this topic, but if they can assume that I'm a time waster / game player by innocently asking to see their private gallery, I can assume they're either friendly for opening it or UNfriendly for displaying a big red "Request Rejected" sign.  Why should I risk hiring someone who shows me unfriendliness with no reason?  They're being cautious, but so am I.

And, being neither here nor there, I've had nice exchanges with providers whom I did NOT ask to unlock their private gallery.

Since we're belaboring the topic. I think that's a bit silly personally. It's just not equivalent. That's not you being "cautious", that's you being entitled. You're choosing to insert "unfriendliness" to the action of them not unlocking their album where as them assuming people might be time wasters and acting accordingly till proven other wise is a defensive business decision for them because their time is their money and just by the nature of them doing this business via the internet means they deal with arguably more time wasters than people who will convert to an actual booking. That is not the case from the client perspective. You aren't owed the photo album unlock, and not getting the unlock costs you nothing. Anyone expecting or needing friendliness in the setup communication process of booking doesn't understand that we're doing business here, not making new besties. 

Plus, the assumption that declining your photo unlock request equates to being unfriendly is like saying someone who rejects your dating advance is unfriendly solely on the face of it being a rejection, and that is very incel-ish logic. It's not unfriendly, it simply is disinterest. You aren't owed interest, so them not giving it to you does not equate to unfriendliness.

[jackcali]

13 hours ago, DMonDude said:

You're choosing to insert "unfriendliness" to the action of them not unlocking their album where as them assuming people might be time wasters and acting accordingly till proven other wise is a defensive business decision for them because their time is their money and just by the nature of them doing this business via the internet means they deal with arguably more time wasters than people who will convert to an actual booking.

Exactly right.  It's not personal, it's strictly business.  The provider unlocks his private pics or denies or ignores the request depending on how he chooses to market himself given what (if any) information he has about the potential client.  The client may think he's made a bad business decision (and he may very well have), but it has nothing to do with the provider's character.  It's all about his business sense. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I have a Premium account, which signals to providers I hire and put my money where my mouth is.

If they reject my request to unlock, it means they're stupid and have no business sense.

Ads are a dime a dozen. They hurt only themselves.

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

I have a Premium account, which signals to providers I hire and put my money where my mouth is.

If they reject my request to unlock, it means they're stupid and have no business sense.

Ads are a dime a dozen. They hurt only themselves.

To any provider who's in demand, us clients are a dime a dozen to them too. And rejecting the your request to unlock doesn't hurt them literally at all. You'd have to pay them for them to care less.