Paying An Escort to Sleep and Exercise

[Ali Gator]

7 hours ago, Spikeguy said:

I think even a fit guy can skip the gym for two days on occasion.  

That's like asking a devout Catholic to skip mass on a Sunday if you're traveling with them over a weekend. They will find a Sunday mass no matter where they are, and they will attend! (I'm a Catholic but don't attend every week - but I've traveled with those who do and let me tell you...they map out every church within walking distance!). 

[Thelatin]

48 minutes ago, Ali Gator said:

That's like asking a devout Catholic to skip mass on a Sunday if you're traveling with them over a weekend.

I do agree with this - I actually rarely miss gym time as well.  But it should be worked into the schedule.  Anymore I’d just go with to the gym. 

[aiseeya]

All my multiple days hire come with an 'expected itinerary' - a very flexible schedule and discussed real time day or 2 before. All main meals time should be spent together (breakfast, lunch, dinner). Gym time is allocated daily (most of the time), no spefic fix time in the day though very much depending on the plan for that day, it can be after breakfast or in the afternoon before dinner. When schedule is fully packed with outdoor activities, then gym would be in the evening after dinner or none at all for that day. I never check in or monitor when he is at the gym but all my regulars would always proactively check in periodically throughout their gym session, some even would send me live location throughout his gym session so to give comfort that he is at the gym.

I do honestly favour his gym session as it allows me my own personal time. Some might take extra personal time outside of gym time to take care of personal stuff but they always did it in such a clever way that would not affect the agreed 'quality time'.

Find a provider who actually can communicate with you well and respect your needs. 

[LookingAround]

A lot of this feels like slave labor. I'm glad I'm not an escort. I wouldn't last 15 minutes for any of you. 😂😂😂

[Ali Gator]

A number of years ago, I went to NYC for business with a friend. We had to be somewhere early Monday morning, so we decided to make a 'weekend of it' (rather than go in on Sunday afternoon) and stay Saturday - Monday.  Her only request - we had to stay in walking distance of St. Patrick's Cathedral on Sunday morning for early mass. I obliged, though it was nowhere near where our meeting was on Monday morning (and it cost a fortune in cabfare back then, as she refused the subway). In retrospect, we should have changed to a closer hotel on Sunday night. Oh well...

[jackcali]

11 hours ago, Ali Gator said:

A number of years ago, I went to NYC for business with a friend. We had to be somewhere early Monday morning, so we decided to make a 'weekend of it' (rather than go in on Sunday afternoon) and stay Saturday - Monday.  Her only request - we had to stay in walking distance of St. Patrick's Cathedral on Sunday morning for early mass. I obliged, though it was nowhere near where our meeting was on Monday morning (and it cost a fortune in cabfare back then, as she refused the subway). In retrospect, we should have changed to a closer hotel on Sunday night. Oh well...

Trust me, cab fares aren't any cheaper these days.  I would have been totally respectful of your friend's desire to be near St. Pat's for Sunday mass, but if she's not willing to take the subway on Monday morning, she's on her own.  

[maninsoma]

2 hours ago, jackcali said:

Trust me, cab fares aren't any cheaper these days.  I would have been totally respectful of your friend's desire to be near St. Pat's for Sunday mass, but if she's not willing to take the subway on Monday morning, she's on her own.  

I would have just stayed where I wanted to stay and let her stay where she wanted to stay.

[Alchemy]

My favorite escort and I have an arrangement that works well for us on trips of 3-5 days. We might grab a coffee together in the morning but usually each of us is on his own until 2 or 3 and then we're together for dinner, entertainment, intimacy, etc. Otherwise, we both feel continuous pressure to make certain we're entertaining each other. That can be a lot of stress. Generally, an escort is decades younger with different interests. Plus, my guy spends 2-3 hours in the gym each day to keep his incredible figure. We find it's better to have time to recharge and to be fresh and enthusiastic for each other. It results in a richer experience. Of course, he's not living on my charge card while he's alone -- and obviously isn't seeing other clients/dates. Communication beforehand is key, as everyone here appears to agree. If you feel you're being charged too much, that's a different issue. In my view, a travel day rate should be less than an overnight rate.

[coriolis888]

On 8/26/2025 at 6:18 AM, LookingAround said:

A lot of this feels like slave labor. I'm glad I'm not an escort. I wouldn't last 15 minutes for any of you. 😂😂😂

Slave labor?  If you factor in the payment (for several days escorting) to an escort for an overnight or an extended vacation, think of the money the escort is making, not to mention the fact that he likely does not report the money for income purposes (which saves him a chunk of money).

Another thing, if there is a large difference between your ages, even though it is not always the case, escorts often have difficulty having sex with someone who is much older and not attractive to them. 

Just a couple of thoughts. 

[bimuscle]

I would be curious to know how  late u stay up?  If he is only sleeping 7 or 8 hours total. Personally, I don't think you can find much fault in him. If u happen to be older or just need less sleep.  That's not his fault.  As far as going to the gym. A 2 hour window is not unreasonable.  I pretty much strictly hire overnight or weekends.  If longer, I definitely see reason for discussion. 

[francisssgorg]

You can make an informal contract with him. Like not really admissible to any court of law, but just something that states that if he breached any of what’s written in there, you can terminate your relationship with him. I mean I don’t fully understand the laws of escorting (if there’s any), but as what most of the people said, you are a paying and returning client. What’s the essence of companionship (whatever the hell that means) if he’s not spending time with you. He just got too comfortable with you. And probably majority of the responders who are bashing you, are also escorts. I mean they entered in that industry, might as well live up to its standards. 

Edited September 8 by francisssgorg

[BaronArtz]

On 8/24/2025 at 3:34 PM, FaustOust said:

I normally get up between 7 and 7:30AM.  I don’t think that is particularly early. I don’t expect that he get up at 7, but he usually sleeps until about 10 or 10:30, goes to the gym and we might not start our time together until noon or even 1 o’clock.   Sometimes I go out or exercise myself and return to him still asleep. Never has he awoken before me.

We did discuss this, but it never occurred to me that I should have to put him on an hourly schedule.  Of course, I agreed that he should be able to sleep at night and have personal time in the gym, but I didn’t think that personal time would consistently take up an entire morning.

Are you sure he is at the gym?  Or is he squeezing in an appointment with another client?

Alternatively, you could go to the gym with him.  It could be fun watching him work out and get sweaty.  Spending time at a gym could benefit you too.  You could spend time with him in the steam room and shower together afterwards.  The possibilities are endless ...

Edited September 8 by BaronArtz

[+ Pensant]

On 8/25/2025 at 9:53 AM, Spikeguy said:

I think even a fit guy can skip the gym for two days on occasion.  

I hit the gym every other day, but do some intense cardio the other days, like a 7 mile hike, a MTB ride or a quick 20+ mile bike ride. I understand the obsession.

[+ Pensant]

I’ve only had a few overnights over the years. Several weekends with favorites, and they’ve always been by my side the whole time. That’s never been an issue. Now, if I do an overnight, I prefer that they be on their way after morning coffee and an early tune-up. I generally have other things to do, on my own.

[Jason Dutch]

(Tl;dr - if he hasn’t adjusted or compromised even after you clarified your expectations, move on graciously. I wouldn’t dwell on it, this happens sometimes! Next time you book someone, be clear with your quite reasonable expectations and ask about his, so no one is confused.)
🎈

It sounds like you’re unsatisfied with what you’re getting for the price you pay, and he hasn’t be receptive or adaptive to your feedback… but the exchange must be fair and satisfying to be worthwhile for you.  As others have suggested, I’m positive that there’s another companion who can meet your needs and communicate better than this one, and there’s no reason you should feel guilty about letting this one go. 
 

Don’t feel bad! You sound like a considerate and patient client, and as a provider I really do appreciate that you recognize that we are people with needs including some down time/solo time. Sure, there are some providers who might knowingly take advantage of that (really couldn’t say in this case the guys intention). If your body clocks are mismatched in terms of sleeping, that may never resolve… try as I might, I would struggle to wake up several hours earlier than my norm and my performance would suffer. However, he should be willing to shorten his gym time or offer to take it at a time of day where you also need downtime.
 

Ultimately, the occasional mismatch or misunderstanding is totally normal, especially with larger blocks of time. I no longer agree to overnight or travel bookings with clients I haven’t met before to get a sense of whether we are in sync and vibing well. And with any overnight date or longer, I require that we spell out clear expectations ahead of time. Are we having dinner on you, some fun in bed and then getting 7-8 hours of sleep and dozy cuddles? Or am I expected to do naked gymnastics til the sun comes up? For overnights, I always request a half hour or so of alone time in the bathroom before bed and for anything longer than 12 hours, chill time and phone breaks should be built in just as they would be with any other companion, friend, lover or guide. 
 

 

Edited September 8 by Jason Dutch

[Rod Hagen]

On 8/26/2025 at 6:18 AM, LookingAround said:

A lot of this feels like slave labor. I'm glad I'm not an escort. I wouldn't last 15 minutes for any of you. 😂😂😂

Wow!  Thank you :-)