Jason Dutch

Trying to force my thumb a bit greener over here haha, ADHD doesn't make me the most reliable gardener but getting better every season. I live in a city and for the past 6 or 7 years had some good success with container gardening on my balcony during warm months. It's west facing, so I have to be conscious of positioning some of the more sensitive plants under tables or shades sometimes. Have always struggled with indoor house plants. I always like the tropical ones but they really can't handle the drafts that inevitably come through my apartment a bunch during the winter. I read up about them only to forget which ones I should keep where in relation to the window (the source of many drafts). But can't wait to start the balcony up in the coming weeks and months. I have great success with the classics - tomatoes, cukes, peppers, every herb you can think of. This year I'd like to try strawberry tower again and maybe a potato tower, got them going last year but I think they'll be better

A little last minute but I'd like to attend! Have heard wonderful things about past editions, glad its happening. Those dates will line up well with some other West Coast travel I'm locking in today. Looking forward to meeting and greeting

Sounds delightful! Will send a PM

(Tl;dr - if he hasn’t adjusted or compromised even after you clarified your expectations, move on graciously. I wouldn’t dwell on it, this happens sometimes! Next time you book someone, be clear with your quite reasonable expectations and ask about his, so no one is confused.) 🎈 It sounds like you’re unsatisfied with what you’re getting for the price you pay, and he hasn’t be receptive or adaptive to your feedback… but the exchange must be fair and satisfying to be worthwhile for you. As others have suggested, I’m positive that there’s another companion who can meet your needs and communicate better than this one, and there’s no reason you should feel guilty about letting this one go. Don’t feel bad! You sound like a considerate and patient client, and as a provider I really do appreciate that you recognize that we are people with needs including some down time/solo time. Sure, there are some providers who might knowingly take advantage of that (really couldn’t say in this case the guys intention). If your body clocks are mismatched in terms of sleeping, that may never resolve… try as I might, I would struggle to wake up several hours earlier than my norm and my performance would suffer. However, he should be willing to shorten his gym time or offer to take it at a time of day where you also need downtime. Ultimately, the occasional mismatch or misunderstanding is totally normal, especially with larger blocks of time. I no longer agree to overnight or travel bookings with clients I haven’t met before to get a sense of whether we are in sync and vibing well. And with any overnight date or longer, I require that we spell out clear expectations ahead of time. Are we having dinner on you, some fun in bed and then getting 7-8 hours of sleep and dozy cuddles? Or am I expected to do naked gymnastics til the sun comes up? For overnights, I always request a half hour or so of alone time in the bathroom before bed and for anything longer than 12 hours, chill time and phone breaks should be built in just as they would be with any other companion, friend, lover or guide.

There are plenty of clients who enjoy thicker and beefier guys. I may have met a few, actually.... 😛

Well, I'm a chubby cub I'll be in New York in July, too. 😛

One of my most memorably bookings was quite like this, actually. You'll have a blast! Just make sure to compensate admirably and set some shared ground rules before hitting the go button.

Hi everybody, I am compiling lots of information about this topic ahead of a workshop I am co-facilitating with Maggie's precisely about this issue, it's on this coming Friday Nov 15 and there's so much legal and technical stuff we are pulling together, but real experiences can be more instructive as we try to to build out best practices for crossing the border... at least knowing which ways it could go, and being prepared for various potential outcomes... To that point! If anyone in this thread personally has experience trouble at the border as a result of working in the sex industry in any form, or if you can put me directly in touch with a person who has been through it, please send me a private message right away! Would be very helpful. Or if you're a provider interested in attending, likewise hit me up

Yeah I don't mind that they're separate since the clientele differs in a few ways, in most towns. I do wish there was a damn discount for having both, though... sheesh!

Providers occasionally are organized enough to collectively establish a safe and welcoming incall space that we can share equitably. Benefits everyone in my opinion... saves providers expenses, builds a safe and familiar space for visitors and workers, and allows for security and mutual accountability between clients and providers as well as the professionals together. Keeps the standards high and everything fair and keeps cops out. Bless these entrepenurial gents!

Organizing a threesome/group for a client can be more of a hassle than one might think, at least in my experience. Sometimes it works out. But several times, I've done the work of wrangling another escort for a duo, or several for a group session, only to have the guy bail a few minutes after his scheduled arrival. That happened once without a deposit, I learned my lesson I thought.. not too long after, another guy ghosted three of us, even *after* paying the deposit I'd askled(which, after splitting it, wasn't quite enough to make up for the wasted time and energy). Another time, a guy I'd never worked with before but who seemed legit was an hour late, causing me to basically waste an hour uncompensated. The client tipped a bit but a fraction of my rate. It has always worked much more smoothly for me when the client himself arranges with whoever he wants to have there. However, recently I did such an arrangement in a new city, smallish place. The other guy was younger, very new to the work and, in my assessment, more vulnerable than me in a number of ways. I gave him a ride home and during our conversation, I discovered that the rate he'd asked and been paid was quite low - less than half my rate. I gave him some of the cash I'd gotten to even things out with him (at a loss to me) and told him that he really ought to be charging more. We ended up having a really good conversation and have stayed in touch. But that aside, I then had a few firm words with the client, who certainly could have spared the difference. I mean, I understand that as providers we each negotiate our rates independently in this set-up, leaving no incentive for the client to pay us both the same. But such a vast discrepancy made me really uneasy...

Hey y'all, I recently was interviewed for a podcast that is genuinely different than any other I've listened to or experienced. It's "them pups thots and bears" by Pup Cylon and Pup Tango and even though their style is unusually meandering and sometimes a bit chaotic, I think they're genuinely on to something and I had a great time talking about porn, SW safety, polyamory, piss play, and cruising. What also makes this podcast unique is that it's recorded on video and all the participants are naked and intermittently playing with themselves haha. While this podcast skews towards bears/cubs/pups etc, thereby eliminating the interest of a hefty segment of this site's population, I do think some of y'all might get a big kick out of it, as I sure did. Check it out. : ‎them pups “thots and bears” on Apple Podcasts PODCASTS.APPLE.COM ‎Health & Fitness · 2024 (I'm episodes 47-50 if you're curious)

In Canada we have LeoList which is essentially a Backpage clone and is widely popular. Not the same format, but: Adam4Adam now has the option to upgrade one's profile to a PRO account, and it's pretty affordable. It's also free for non-PROs to use the site and message PROs so I find a lot of guys are on there who wouldn't purchase a membership to, say, RM. I've done and I've gotten many inquiries and appointments out of it, far more than I ever expected. The site as a whole is overly tricked out with every imaginable feature (video reels and stories, status updates, groups/parties, podcasts, underwear shops, winks, chats, comments, likes.. it's a bit much) but this feature is great. However, the "PRO" icon often goes unnoticed by people not expecting it and I'm not sure how easy it is to filter down just to providers.

Haha fair point — and can't thank you enough for that Miss ya bud

Thank you so much to all who have responded, both in-thread and by DM!! Great information and helpful. Ultimately my first goal is to make a habit of mentioning how helpful reviews can be to my cliente while avoiding being annoying or vain haha. Let's see how it goes. In the meantime I'd love to hear from anyone else who has thoughts.