Jason Dutch

I validate your points here. Some clients have particular preferences, but most of them don’t. My suggestion: take the initiative to tell your masseur about your preferences upfront. If not in your booking process then shortly after you arrive. The pros will adjust on a dime, at least for any item over which they have control. We can’t read your mind though. Communicate. Don’t like my music? Just say so and I’ll change it!
Aside on lighting. I have two skylights in my studio. I have no option to dim the light from those during the day. I otherwise have only dim mood lighting and I turn on my dimmable recessed ceiling lights to a medium to low level before the massage to make it easy to see and move around, dress/undress and again after the client has had a chance to slowly adjust after their massage. I keep the dimmable lights off during the massage, leaving only a couple table lamps with dark color shades and mood lights. It’s particularly nice at night.
In my experience, the vast majority of clients don’t like making a lot of decisions upon arrival. When I ask too many questions, they tend to get annoyed, antsy, or indecisive. A lot of them have NO preference for any of the items I might mention. They enjoy some brief small talk to connect as they undress and then quickly want to get on the table and feel totally relaxed and ready to enjoy some good therapy. Sometimes I slow them down with a big hug first. I could ask a dozen questions like:
Which room scent do you prefer?
How much pressure?
How much light?
What music do you enjoy?
How is the volume level?
Can I adjust the headrest for you?
Would you like a bolster?
How about a pillow?
Would you like me to be more conversational, or quiet?
Do you have any injuries, sensitivities, or areas you want me to avoid?
Are you ok with your feet being massaged? What about your head? (These are the most common requests to avoid on the body)
Blah, blah, blah…but I don’t. The inquisition could go on and on. And you know what? The default preselected options I already provide for all these items works really well for 95% of everyone seeing me. They either like it as-is, or have no preference anyway. So I just saved some time and client frustration for the 95% by preselecting everything. I don’t even have to ask. The other 5% who have very particular preferences tell me at the beginning, or somewhere along the way, and I adjust. Sometimes it’s after the fact and I just shake my head and say they should have said something. Then I add it to my notes so I will have everything adjusted ahead of time for their next visit.
Much of my approach is about reading the client along the way. For example, if the client seems uncomfortable with the headrest, I will ask about it and offer to adjust. The client sniffles repeatedly, so I offer tissues which I keep close right under the table plus a small trash can. The client responds physically to my pressure in a way that prompts me to ask if the pressure is ok. The client is sensitive when I touch around his underarms or feet or whatever so I ask if he wants me to avoid it. I ask if it’s ok to touch them in an erotic way. I notice a limited range of motion when I bend the knee and ask if it’s ok to continue. I notice the client goes quiet so I stop asking him questions and chatting. The client expresses pleasure when I touch him in a certain way, or a certain area; verbally, with their breath intensity and pace, moans, and the like. Conversely the client winces or tenses up and I ask them about it to make sure they are comfortable and see what I need to change, if anything. I could go on…
Basically I read my clients to prompt my questions and maybe that leads to one or two questions rather than a dozen for every client every time before we start. It saves us both time and energy up top. I like to ask just two general questions of every client:
1) Is there anything about your body I should know before we start?
2) (about 10 mins into the session) How is everything feeling?
The rest comes up by reading the client. 

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

Different clientele. DL, discreet, family men are more inclined to visit video booths and spas rather than full on gay bathhouses.

OMG I never realized, your avatar must be an old pic haha. Love our cutie QB. Go Bills!

Brad and I shot a scene or two and have gotten to know each other a bit since I started living part-time in Buffalo. He's a wonderful, masculine, thick 'n' sexy, professional daddy bear with a hot firm belly that's grown in since his studio days. He certainly does love to chat, which I for one always enjoyed.  He has a strong and bright personality, but he's really just there to please and do what's expected of him whether in porn or massage.
 
I know this is long after OP's visit, but figured I'd drop my thoughts in case someone else goes searching.

When a potential client asks me what I'm into I sometimes find it baffling haha... On the occasions that I've shared a few things that I'm genuinely into, I've either not gotten the booking, or we didn't do those things anyway. Escorts often have to be shape shifters and satisfy a range of desires both spoken and unspoken in each client. People often tell me they book me because they want to have fun their way.  I'm proud that I seem to hit a home run with most of my clients and push just the right buttons. That in and of itself gets me off - to be prized, to be materially valued, to be desired and told I'm sexy... I'm proud to know that I can get off all different kinds of guys, and that I can get into and enjoy many men and activities that I wouldn't necessarily seek in my private sex life — the situation in and of itself gets me off enough that I can be flexible about the specifics and surprise even myself at who/what I can pull off (or get off!). So in the case of OP, whatever you're into, I'm probably into given the dynamic already at play!
 

Hey there, fellow spa enthusiasts! I recently had an adventurous and unexpected experience at Imperial Spa in Las Vegas, and I couldn't wait to share it with all of you. However, before I dive into the details, I want to make it clear that the content discussed here may not be suitable for all readers. If you're uncomfortable with explicit discussions, it's best to skip this post.
Last week, I decided to try out Imperial Spa in Las Vegas, a place that had received numerous recommendations from fellow spa-goers. With high expectations in mind, I embarked on my exploration of this renowned establishment.
As soon as I entered the spa and proceeded to the shower and steam room, the action seemed to begin almost instantly. It appeared that I had stumbled upon an environment where individuals were comfortable expressing their desires openly. Within moments, a guy followed me into the steam room, taking a seat right next to me. And without hesitation, he opened his towel, revealing his rock-hard member. The intensity of the situation increased as two more gentlemen entered the room, equally aroused.
Before I knew it, the initial guy started pleasuring both of the newcomers simultaneously. The room filled with the sound of their shared pleasure, culminating in a climactic release. Surprisingly, the excitement didn't end there. Just as I thought things couldn't get any more intriguing, a fourth gentleman entered the room, fitting my personal preferences – a little thick and very hairy. With a persistent erection, he stood before me, tempting me to indulge in the moment. Unable to resist, I eagerly went down on him, exploring the depths of pleasure together.
Undoubtedly, it was an unconventional and eventful way to spend an afternoon. However, it's important to note that my experience at Imperial Spa was not indicative of the establishment as a whole. While it provided an environment for free expression of desires, it's crucial to remember that such activities are not universally accepted or encouraged in every spa setting.
It's worth mentioning that during my visit, I noticed a prevalent issue with the spa's maintenance. As one member had mentioned, Imperial Spa is in dire need of thorough cleaning and repairs. It's important for any establishment, particularly one in the hospitality industry, to maintain cleanliness and upkeep to ensure the well-being of its visitors.
All in all, my trip to Imperial Spa in Las Vegas was an unexpectedly wild adventure. However, it's essential to approach such experiences with an open mind and respect for individual boundaries. While some spas may allow for more explicit encounters, it's important to remember that each establishment has its own rules and regulations.
If you're interested in exploring the spa scene in Las Vegas, I encourage you to do thorough research, read reviews, and consider your personal comfort levels before making any decisions. Remember, everyone's preferences and boundaries may differ, so it's crucial to find an environment that aligns with your desires and expectations.
Please note that my experience does not reflect the typical spa experience, and it's essential to prioritize consent, respect, and personal boundaries at all times. Happy spa exploring, and may your journeys be both enjoyable and fulfilling!
Do you have any new experiences you’d like to share? I would love to learn about them. 

An escort friend of mine told me last week about being pulled aside at the airport back in April when he was on his way to Orlando for a porn industry event. He had actually deactivated his RM profile months previous and stopped escort work. He said they surmised that he had stopped escorting and that his story checked out but warned him to be careful.
By contrast, as a US citizen I have it easier than most. I cross the Peace Bridge (sometimes Lewiston) 15-20 times each way every year,  and I almost never get any hassle crossing by land. Been gently searched once or twice going into Canada over the past 4 years or so of frequent land crossing. But crossing into the Buffalo side, the officer usually just says hello, blinks a few times, ask me what I'm importing (I always declare super honestly, they like that haha) and waves me me on through.
(Detroit is a different story, but that was never related to my work, they're just total dicks there to gay people, people of colour, anyone they can bark at. Always take Pt Huron if you can, haha)
I'll note that, after 2 years waiting, I finally did my NEXUS interview last month. So now I'm just waiting on the card (any day now...) and also waiting for my citizenship stuff to go through in the next few months...  with those settled, I will feel even more secure. But for now I'm thinking over what precautions might I take given this increased scrutiny, and I will certainly keep an eye on this as it further unfolds.
I'm mostly just very grateful for having the wild privilege of having a US passport and therefore enjoyed pretty unfettered freedom of mobility compared to most of the world. Would be stupid to lose that by being careless somehow...

An escort friend of mine told me last week about being pulled aside at the airport back in April when he was on his way to Orlando for a porn industry event. He had actually deactivated his RM profile months previous and stopped escort work. He said they surmised that he had stopped escorting and that his story checked out but warned him to be careful.
By contrast, as a US citizen I have it easier than most. I cross the Peace Bridge (sometimes Lewiston) 15-20 times each way every year,  and I almost never get any hassle crossing by land. Been gently searched once or twice going into Canada over the past 4 years or so of frequent land crossing. But crossing into the Buffalo side, the officer usually just says hello, blinks a few times, ask me what I'm importing (I always declare super honestly, they like that haha) and waves me me on through.
(Detroit is a different story, but that was never related to my work, they're just total dicks there to gay people, people of colour, anyone they can bark at. Always take Pt Huron if you can, haha)
I'll note that, after 2 years waiting, I finally did my NEXUS interview last month. So now I'm just waiting on the card (any day now...) and also waiting for my citizenship stuff to go through in the next few months...  with those settled, I will feel even more secure. But for now I'm thinking over what precautions might I take given this increased scrutiny, and I will certainly keep an eye on this as it further unfolds.
I'm mostly just very grateful for having the wild privilege of having a US passport and therefore enjoyed pretty unfettered freedom of mobility compared to most of the world. Would be stupid to lose that by being careless somehow...

An escort friend of mine told me last week about being pulled aside at the airport back in April when he was on his way to Orlando for a porn industry event. He had actually deactivated his RM profile months previous and stopped escort work. He said they surmised that he had stopped escorting and that his story checked out but warned him to be careful.
By contrast, as a US citizen I have it easier than most. I cross the Peace Bridge (sometimes Lewiston) 15-20 times each way every year,  and I almost never get any hassle crossing by land. Been gently searched once or twice going into Canada over the past 4 years or so of frequent land crossing. But crossing into the Buffalo side, the officer usually just says hello, blinks a few times, ask me what I'm importing (I always declare super honestly, they like that haha) and waves me me on through.
(Detroit is a different story, but that was never related to my work, they're just total dicks there to gay people, people of colour, anyone they can bark at. Always take Pt Huron if you can, haha)
I'll note that, after 2 years waiting, I finally did my NEXUS interview last month. So now I'm just waiting on the card (any day now...) and also waiting for my citizenship stuff to go through in the next few months...  with those settled, I will feel even more secure. But for now I'm thinking over what precautions might I take given this increased scrutiny, and I will certainly keep an eye on this as it further unfolds.
I'm mostly just very grateful for having the wild privilege of having a US passport and therefore enjoyed pretty unfettered freedom of mobility compared to most of the world. Would be stupid to lose that by being careless somehow...

An escort friend of mine told me last week about being pulled aside at the airport back in April when he was on his way to Orlando for a porn industry event. He had actually deactivated his RM profile months previous and stopped escort work. He said they surmised that he had stopped escorting and that his story checked out but warned him to be careful.
By contrast, as a US citizen I have it easier than most. I cross the Peace Bridge (sometimes Lewiston) 15-20 times each way every year,  and I almost never get any hassle crossing by land. Been gently searched once or twice going into Canada over the past 4 years or so of frequent land crossing. But crossing into the Buffalo side, the officer usually just says hello, blinks a few times, ask me what I'm importing (I always declare super honestly, they like that haha) and waves me me on through.
(Detroit is a different story, but that was never related to my work, they're just total dicks there to gay people, people of colour, anyone they can bark at. Always take Pt Huron if you can, haha)
I'll note that, after 2 years waiting, I finally did my NEXUS interview last month. So now I'm just waiting on the card (any day now...) and also waiting for my citizenship stuff to go through in the next few months...  with those settled, I will feel even more secure. But for now I'm thinking over what precautions might I take given this increased scrutiny, and I will certainly keep an eye on this as it further unfolds.
I'm mostly just very grateful for having the wild privilege of having a US passport and therefore enjoyed pretty unfettered freedom of mobility compared to most of the world. Would be stupid to lose that by being careless somehow...

I've met one escort at the Flamingo.  It was super easy.  I have a friend who visits Las Vegas often and he chooses to stay at the Flamingo for its central location and easy access to lots of different girls and lots of different men on the hookup apps.  Enjoy!

Now we're talking! This is better than any savings acct APY I've seen (or at least been eligible for) for a while. Nice.

Travelling alone for escorting work can be super fun and adventurous but can be really lonely. Travelling with another escort can be also fun, but inevitably creates some logistical knots. If I'm travelling with family, a partner, a good friend, I decide in advance whether I'm going to work on any of the days and usually I prefer not to work at all during some of those trips. Also, not all destinations are worth the effort due to being remote or without the proper infrastructure

If someone is asking you to travel from out of state to visit them I don't know how they could even think you'll travel all that way with zero upfront payment. If this is a regular issue for you put right in your ad something like "If requesting an outcall and are further than 1 hour away this will require part of the donation to be sent beforehand to cover travel expenses".

Brad and I shot a scene or two and have gotten to know each other a bit since I started living part-time in Buffalo. He's a wonderful, masculine, thick 'n' sexy, professional daddy bear with a hot firm belly that's grown in since his studio days. He certainly does love to chat, which I for one always enjoyed.  He has a strong and bright personality, but he's really just there to please and do what's expected of him whether in porn or massage.
 
I know this is long after OP's visit, but figured I'd drop my thoughts in case someone else goes searching.

Good to see someone with a half full take on this.  

Brad and I shot a scene or two and have gotten to know each other a bit since I started living part-time in Buffalo. He's a wonderful, masculine, thick 'n' sexy, professional daddy bear with a hot firm belly that's grown in since his studio days. He certainly does love to chat, which I for one always enjoyed.  He has a strong and bright personality, but he's really just there to please and do what's expected of him whether in porn or massage.
 
I know this is long after OP's visit, but figured I'd drop my thoughts in case someone else goes searching.

The call to "expose" escorts sharing information is totally irresponsible and honestly pretty hypocritical given the forum that we're on. Please take a moment to consider what you're suggesting.
Mr Number is just one of several safety methods used by workers to protect themselves in the course of offering unique talents, experiences, pleasures and expertise. It's part of a centuries-old (at least) tradition of informal knowledge networks and bad date lists and meant to protect escorts. Things have changed in some places, and naturally, I acknowledge that clients take their share of risks as well when arranging to meet and meeting providers. But in most contexts, sex workers of any stripe take on much greater physical social, legal, personal and financial risks.
As someone above said, many (mannnyyyyyyyy) people messaging escorts never intend to meet or pay.  Every day, people text me out of the blue with expectations of rapid, extensive, unpaid sexting or phone sex, or worse. While most of the clients out there are genuinely good people trying to to do business, there are unfortunately a significant number of "clients" who are not... People who seek or choose to stalk, harass, rape, assault, doxx, scam, harm, and, in extreme cases, even kill sex workers. Not to mention, SW remains illegal in most places and police around the world still expend heinous quantities of cash in their efforts to entrap and charge sex workers.
Perhaps an example would help. I am based in Toronto. I was approached, by online message and text message, by Bruce MacArthur, whom most people will know was a sadistic serial killer preying on gay men in Toronto for at least a decade and who killed at least one sex worker and brutalized another with a metal pipe. If I had not cross checked his info with my peers at the time, I would not have known about the various red flags that had gone up in the community and would likely have met him. Similarly, somebody I once declined to meet after a cross-check later restrained and raped another provider who was not plugged into these info networks.
If someone can't see why tools like this are important, then I suggest they do some deep, deep thinking about their priorities and their capacity for empathy.
Of course, I'm not calling anyone on here a killer or a rapist. I love my clients and by and large I've found I can develop mutual trust with a guy independent of any lists or comment boards.  The information on sites CoM and MN is ultimately that — information. Escorts (and anyone with the app) can take that info and use it to make safer and better informed decisions — it's not as though you're cancelled forever because one person said you never booked, we all recognize that not every client is going to book. Tbh, I don't think I've ever seen a number that has negative comments from just one provider, and if I did, I would never write someone off based on one or two comments. What's most useful is seeing if there's a pattern of behaviour or red flags that we can take into consideration to protect ourselves.
Sorry for the novel, just was feeling aghast that anyone would think this is controversial or worth disparaging
 
 
 
 

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