Consoling a provider who…. had plumbing issues

[ThirdEye]

Hi all,

I’ve been hiring for around a year in a certain Floridian city. I recently booked a regular bottom provider. 
 

We were having sex, and I could sense trouble coming when I started to smell that odor of a porta potty that has been blown up post-football game. 

 

After I removed my penis (post cum), the level of 💩 that exited his ass was …… clinical. He needed to go to the hospital because it seemed like diarrhea that was pent up. 
 

He was in tears afterwards. Inconsolable. I told him it was ok and he should go shower and he was free to go (I of course paid him).

it’s been weeks, and he told me the health issue has been resolved, and that he actually has been bottoming for the last couple of days with no issue. However, he says he doesn’t want to see me just yet because of his sense of shame. 
 

How do I let him know that it didn’t seriously impact me that much at all? Anyone ever dealt with a really good provider who has a nasty accident and is too ashamed to come back to you?

 

Edited yesterday at 03:20 PM by ThirdEye

[Venite]

At least you didn’t experience the assault I detail in the first part of this thread lol.

I would just give that provider time. Nothing you can do really.

[+ DrownedBoy]

You acted nice. I don't do anal, but met some providers who, if their clients did that, just walked out in disgust (with the money of course).

[maninsoma]

I had the reverse happen to me.  A provider was apparently so turned off about a little bit of poop (and I mean very little -- there wasn't anything visible on his sheets, just a small amount on my ass) that he ran to the shower without telling me his intentions, then returned several minutes later fully dressed, asking for full payment, and telling me to leave.  I've posted this story in more detail here before, but needless to say I didn't pay him his full fee since (a) we probably spent at most 10 minutes together in bed after he insisted on spending several minutes smoking pot after I arrived and (b) even if he didn't want to continue fucking me, there were many other things we could have done.  I gave him part of his fee, told him off, and left.

There's an interestingly amusing sex ed series on Wow Presents Plus that features two of RuPaul's Drag Race queens (Miss Vanjie and Cameron Michaels) and a sex therapist.  I still remember what the sex therapist said during an episode devoted to anal play: If you cannot handle an occasional accident, then you shouldn't be doing anal play.  Not that it isn't important for a bottom to try to be as prepared as possible, but someone who freaks out along the level of what I dealt with should surely not be sticking his dick in anyone's ass.

Edited yesterday at 03:34 PM by maninsoma

[Thomas_Belgium]

Did you use a condom? If so, maybe he coud try an "internal condom":

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/internal-condom

 

[+ Jamie21]

Happened to me with a client. I’d bottomed fine with him until we changed position and he did me as I was bent over the end of the bed. Maybe the change in position caused it, I don’t know but as he was fucking me I suddenly got a sense of being ready to go, and as he pulled out (because I asked him to stop so I could run to the bathroom) a mess quickly followed his cock. All over the floor of the hotel bedroom, and ruining my new socks (I particularly remember the socks). It took a while to clean up, and I threw away the towels we used. The client was fine about it, totally relaxed. It was towards the end of the session anyway but he was fine for us to carry on after I’d cleaned up (no more fucking though). 

I’ve also had the experience of clients being messy when I’ve fucked them and it’s fine, one can’t get difficult about it. It happens, just clean up and carry on. 
 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Some guys just shouldn't be having anal sex (EDIT like maninsoma said)

A friend claimed the following happened to him on Grindr. He went to the top's house, and made a bit of a mess. The top exploded and acted like he was going to beat my friend up. Apparently, he threw my friend's clothes at him, told him to get out of the house immediately, and refused to even let him use the bathroom.

Edited 19 hours ago by DrownedBoy

[MikeBiDude]

On 8/23/2025 at 8:32 AM, maninsoma said:

If you cannot handle an occasional accident, then you shouldn't be doing anal play

The End

[+ KensingtonHomo]

5 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Some guys just shouldn't be having anal sex (EDIT like maninsoma said)

A friend claimed the following happened to him on Grindr. He went to the top's house, and made a bit of a mess. The top exploded and acted like he was going to beat my friend up. Apparently, he threw my friend's clothes at him, told him to get out of the house immediately, and refused to even let him use the bathroom.

That guy is an asshole. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

12 hours ago, ThirdEye said:

How do I let him know that it didn’t seriously impact me that much at all? Anyone ever dealt with a really good provider who has a nasty accident and is too ashamed to come back to you?

So I’ve been bottoming for over 35 years and I can count on one hand the number of times there’s even been a smell. Partly, I’m very in touch with my body. Partly, it’s because I’m very regular and have my douching game on lock. A lot of guys over douche, pushing water into their sigmoid colon. That’s where the feces stays BEFORE it’s ready to exit.
 

When douching you only want to clear out there rectum and unless you’re doing fisting or other extreme anal play, getting water into the sigmoid colon will either make prepping take hours. Or it will get trapped there and while you’re fucking, a a move in the wrong direction can rapidly empathy the water poop from your sigmoid colon into the rectum. 

I recently had a little accident. I was getting a massage- no plan on getting fucked. But the provide was massaging my butt for a long time and I guess the pressure pushed a tiny bit out which he noticed. I was mortified. He was very kind about it. I went and washed off but it was over for me. I was turned off. And while we tried to get relaxed again, it didn’t work: 

With my husband or a provider I know, I probably could have gotten past it. Or been willing to see them again. But I also understand why the provider might not want to see @ThirdEye again. It’s not anything ThirdEye did. In fact, it sounds like he was awesome. But he’ll remind the provider of the accident, which sounds more severe than mine, and it can be hard to get past that. 

[mike carey]

6 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

The End

Literally.